Civil / Wen child
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Recently, the subway of Guangzhou on 2 lines, one female passenger crouchs the ground suddenly to cry greatly, and call " greatly I give birth to the child what to works with "" should give birth to child "" to gave birth to a son to give birth to a daughter what to uses " .
Subsequently, her excuse oneself from the paper towel that the passenger gives the past, wipe clean tear to get off to station hind.
This video jab is a lot of mediumer lachrymal dot of mom.
The middleaged old mother that lives in ideal and actual crack, breaking down always is to be prevented not as good as.
Before paragraph time network passes Zhao Liying postpartum and depressed, a paragraph of word because of Feng Shaofeng:
"The change after the madam has a child is a bit big, become not firm it seems that, because do not have,had fooled the son sometimes, oneself also can follow a son to cry together.
Her can ineffable mood is changed, do not know when what kind of act arrives with respect to meeting lay a finger on her sensitive nerve. Do not know when what kind of act arrives with respect to meeting lay a finger on her sensitive nerve..
A lot of people may not understand, why that woman with go up one second to look not bad good, can break down suddenly.
Perhaps, they had gone on depressed region.
On March 19, "Medicine of first postpartum and depressed disease comes out " .
This message, not minor sensation is caused on small gain. Editorial @ You Shiyou is in net of carapace of fruit of small gain attestation balance thinks after the benefit of this medicine and fraud, without giving thought to how, began to have eventually be aimed at postpartum and depressed medicaments technically.
Immediately has a netizen to express, new advance mom need not be in charge of the child 2 days possibly partly, perhaps let the child responsibility of half of his dad apportion, depressed disease has been met.
Really, postpartum and depressed disease is not is the symptom that level of the hormone inside body of the mother's body produces after acuteness change only.
Sun Jiayi ever pointed out, inside child postnatal half an year, often be domestic contradiction tall hair period. Around the child eat and drink pull scatter, different Yo contradiction of branch of ideal divide into equal parts may cause domestic big fight. Right now, the husband and domestic person understand to be weighed particularly to the puerpera's care should.
Data of statistic of association of doctor of Chinese spirit family shows:
Be in our country, mood of occurrence such as is low, pessimistic despair, irritating the puerpera that waits for depressed symptom, scale is as high as 50% ～ 70% , the agreement that develops postpartum and depressed disease among them has 10% ～ 15% .
Still have more terrible, of near 60% postpartum and depressed was not diagnosed! 50% what be diagnosed to come out is postpartum and depressed did not accept treatment!
After Xiaomei gave birth to 2 embryoes, abdication is in the home.
She looks and it doesn't matter differs, see our meeting and our josh, also meet jokingly two, but talking clearance, she appears again very sadness.
After abdication, she a person looks after children in the home, do chore, do not go out, not gregarious, also do not love to talk with the person slowly, because of what feel it doesn't matter can say, she sleeps later and later, although fall asleep very hard also very tiredly.
When adopting baby, she always does not have cause to want to cry. To husband and big treasure, she always does not dominate her sentiment again, big growl cries, want to throw a thing even, lay a person.
She not merely the ground says to the friend, why to want to give birth to 2 embryoes, she wants to cast more issue them, went.
Americanism analytics can have to remind, if you appear:
01 moods everyday low, empty, without value sense;
02 exhaustion, thinking is logy;
03 you are right all round all things lost interest;
These 3 in occurrence random two, and continuously two weeks of above, you lie in the high risk that contracts depressed disease.
Actually, when us ego became aware inner mood, we can choose to save oneself.
Psychologist Wu Zhigong says: "Sadness is the force of be over tragedy. "Sadness is the force of be over tragedy..
This with the means that plunges to just can learn to swim only in water, the sad mood that you miss him victory, only face up to it.
How be faced?
1, do not reject sadness, when wanting to cry to the top of one's bent cry
Shadow light is same, it is our life. If escape, we with respect to the loss one part ego and force. If face integrated shadow, the shadow can turn our life into fortune.
Accordingly, try to list the burning point of own mood one by one come out, admit and the change that the calm accepted him, feel sadness for his hardship, weep for oneself current unfavorable situation, the flood of the heart of tear just like that need not depress, can shatter the various walls that we build in him heart, the heart that lets us finally makes a harmonious whole.
After crying, say sorry to to family, in the meantime, hope family is understandable oneself, help oneself.
2, maintain become aware know, do not go judging, do not go analysing, do not go pestering
How to maintain become aware know?
Can try to practice " watching breath law " .
Watching breath way is the ego balance that builds a mood through watching breathing way, yike achieves the effect that purifies a heart.
Watch breath way, observation breathes, breath kept the movement of life, the corporeal " that provided a basis for human body enrages " , the doctor of traditional Chinese medicine tells " gas and hematic free, 100 disease do not give birth to " .
Life accompanies those who follow a life to begin to end, breathing character is representing the character of life, persistent observation breathes, the heart becomes quiet.
Have the aid of observes breath, the life with the unruffled, smooth regression of " heart " of the vagrancy that makes us confused this true.
View breath standard is specific exercise measure, pick anthology " conquer is depressed " one book:
(1) the choice is quiet the environment that is not disturbed, sit quietly of cross one's legs, lumbar back is erect, close eye.
(2) put attention on breath, with " equality the principle of heart " observes, become aware the pass in and out that knows breath, to the in breathing state and brains thought of instantly should keep not critically, do not associate, do not pester, just observe breath purely according to the facts.
(3) initiative exercise time is OK with 20 minutes of in the limit of, step up.
The life fact of middleaged woman is hard, became Mom especially.
The film " woman, 40 " in, have a such segments:
Buy fresh fish to use the fund of dead fish, sun Tai is stupefied is to be in for a long time wanders before the fish spreads out, straight when live fish checkmate. And say in the boss " fish still does not have dead " later, she takes the advantage of a boss carelessly, "Bang " ground stretch one's hand, take the fish dead.
Each haggle over every ounce, the middleaged woman of argy-bargy, once was the schoolmiss with beautiful and easy, easy grace.
It is years airing our vigor, it is the white hair on the head more, the furrow on the face, the figure of overstaffed, get tired of with days whole answered in bits and pieces, transformed us thoroughly.
Luo Man? Luo Lan ever said: "After the truth that alleged hero creed is recognize life, still can have deep love for the life. Still can have deep love for the life..
What admit oneself only is faulty, ability finishs ego to save atone for.
