Ma Jiangong (law doctor)
We are common what respecting lives is not easy with hardships, can use normally " on have old, have below small " one words will generalize. The home has children year young without with free-standing, still need to feed, parental elder is anile with each passing day, need support sb, no matter still be to be on energy economically, can be a kind of burden of person of black prime of life. Of course, "Young I young " with " old I is old " photograph comparing, the feeling that gives a person is disparate. As a whole, "Young me young " the process is cheerful, we can be children everyday progress and glad, they are in prattle learn the first syllable that gives out when language, the life that strides when toddle the first pace, in the first word of the askew that draws up on exercise book, receive that one honor when certificate of merit from the school, commencement begin holds the glorious when diploma in both hands, the first pay that gets after obtain employment, etc, asing if is a kind of award that gives to parental pains, anyhow, fostering filial process to let what the person sees is hope and future. And " old I is old " the process is different, function is in parental body to degrade with each passing day atrophic, their stoop is worn waist, walking is faltering, slow and forgetful, the case of the sort of have one foot in the grave, let person take pity on already, however have no alternative, give the course of person of provide for the aged, letting what the person experiences is life with each passing day wither, it is a person before the order of nature helpless with faint. "There is next old having on small " these 6 words, those who make clear is support old person and the double duty that raise children, of its heft heavy, only the person arrives middleaged when just can experience reach.
Besides this kind of individual feeling, society or government spend the difference of the respect also is clearly to old, young attention. Old person children all is weak force group, special still on constitution stipulated the citizen is below the circumstance such as aged, disease, have the right that acquires corporeal help from country and society. Nevertheless, the problem that people appears to be taught to issueing generation to grow still pays close attention to more a few, relatively, honour the topic of old, provide for the aged is about to be gotten less much, and although we often honour old love often flaunts for a kind of traditional goodness. In fact, to a family, the issue of provide for the aged may be more pressing, like teenage education issue, should cause the attention of people likewise.
Suffer raise the effect that prevents old idea, average person thinks provide for the aged is the private affairs of every family, the provide for the aged that occupy the home becomes a kind of normal state then, when parents aged body loses, be in especially break can or break partly can, below the circumstance that the life cannot provide for oneself, people chooses to assume the responsibility of provide for the aged by domestic member normally. This is abided by in ancient time " male advocate outside, female advocate inside " the thing of one's duty of the naturally below the premise of principle of social division of labor, old people attends in the somebody on the life already, can enjoy descendants again bear the family happiness below joyous genu. Nevertheless, this grows old way confronts all sorts of challenges however today, today's family already more and more miniaturization, also emphasize more individual the independence between, the advocacy of idea of together with equality of men and women, female not only the responsibility that fosters children should be assumed in the family, hit in even on-the-job field go all out, this makes they cannot the heart is not had by look for ground is dedicated at the family, also can no more bear those who take care of old person life is heavy. And, enter old age gradually as the parents of front courtyard of singleton the bride's side, should feeding 4 to the couple is 6 old people even, so provide for the aged is sure to become real social problem.
The old person in husband is broken can or break partly can, when need has person specially assigned for a task to undertake the passport expects accompanying, most family can ask homemaking personnel to help. At that time nevertheless the possibility can arise new trouble again, above all the most essential is to want to be able to find an appropriate homemaking staff. The person that has sought homemaking has experience for certain, household work well-done, what meal does is not certain and goluptious; Temperament is good, work not certain and agile; Each respect appears appropriate, do not enrol an old person to like again however. Additional, to everybody, the home is one lets a person most relaxation place, personnel of even if homemaking makes a person satisfactory in every respect, but she is an alien after all, of your privacy many sided by alien take in everything in a glance when, more or less be still a little uneasy in the heart. Altogether, of provide for the aged not easy, believe a lot of people have experience greatly.
From the point of the angle that is helpful for health of old person body and mind, choose to wait for orgnaization provide for the aged in beadhouse, home of respect for the aged, should be a kind of better way. The closest period of time, border of author predestined relationship is met, visited the orgnaization of a few provide for the aged of and other places of Guangzhou, Xuzhou, the pattern of provide for the aged that notices diversity is in progressively and arisen or perfect, over, no matter be a member model apartment of provide for the aged, cure raises couple nurse model or nurse partly model beadhouse, the small-sized daytime that still is a center with community attends center, mostly can with its professional level, offer the life to attend for old people, medical treatment nurses, the service of the respect such as mental solace, the part in solving community is weak and sick, senile old person, empty the trouble back at home of the family such as mew old person.
Of course, in visiting process we also understand, respect of social provide for the aged returns there's something behind all this to be able to be done. Be not worth in governmental financing for instance, field is narrow, bed is less, specializationed paramedic shorts, etc, although personage of a few folk has the feelings that pursues career of provide for the aged, however because of a few difficulty in real work and responsibility, and make they flinch. On the other hand, most person also has not made the psychological preparation that walks into beadhouse good it seems that, children people more be afraid that other people rearward gesticulates, fall a disobedient accusation, below multiple apprehension, also be forced to choose to have the pattern of domestic provide for the aged of a lot of inconvenience.
The rule of the person's birth won't be changed, "Old I is old " responsibility is changeless also, nevertheless, below times and the big setting with transitional society, "Old I is old " way can be changed however. Should raise prevent old, by provide for the aged is replaced for the idea of social provide for the aged, when the government assumes a responsibility of more provide for the aged, "Old I is old " problem or will become a few more relaxed, and make an old person elegant the ground, have dignity land " raise somewhat " " somewhat eventually " , it is not only " ceremony of · of The Book of Rites carries " in the ideal of Great Harmony world, it is descendants people responsibility, also be the mark of modern society civilization at the same time. Caricature / Cao Yi
