When you come home girlfriend belt, a kind of what kind of manner is your parents? After sending the girlfriend when you, what kind of word can they say to you? I think, a n experienced person should be met have a such experience, that is, parents can stand in the angle of the prospective consider that is you, from each respects, each angle go be being analysed for you, conclude next, is she right you after all appropriate improper still?
Having a word is so say: Parental fondling, do it plan far-reaching. Especially marital important matter, those who serve as parents, regular meeting guards a pass strictly for you. But the author also should say, although life experience of parents compares us,should abound a lot of, but, marriage is ourselves after all, still want oneself to think occasionally, their word cannot believe blindly.
Friend Xiao He married, but, the bride on wedding is not the Xiao Yue that that one everybody knows, however the girl that his parents objects another, the name is called Ma Zihan. When the Xiao He when still remembering becoming says to want to marry with Ma Zihan, that firm word of his parents: After you and she marries, we are your pa Mom no longer!
Create this situation main because of two respects:
It is above all, feel Xiao Yue is they see as a child big, and hnow through and through, to this girl, each respect very satisfactory, feel Xiao Yue is Xiao He not 2 person selected, what can marry finally is to have its person additionally however. So, cannot accept a bit.
It is make public of Ma Zihan individual character next, to Xiao He's parents, affirmative town does not live after the son that feels his, and she also has had contradiction and attrition with oneself, not be to like her very much so.
But what Xiao He's mom does not know is, since their two Tan Lian love, already share everything between each other, no matter be economy, still be other side. Because, is this, just have that thing that produces with Xiao He's mom later.
A day, xiao He puts the mobile phone on the tea table in the home, just Xiao He's mom sits by, saw the message that his girlfriend Ma Zihan sends. Means, want to let Xiao He pay Ma Zihan's rent, ma Zihan says he has done not have money.
In the eye of person of on one generation, this is an improper behavior absolutely, also be the business that allows a person to cannot be accepted, they feel, this schoolgirl follows him son what relation is done not have, let him give money to help her pay rent actually, too absurd, inconceivable, feel him son there's no one who doesn't or isn't is was cheated by her! Feel this person did not rely on chart at once. This is Xiao He's mom the first impression to Ma Zihan.
In Xiao He so mom sees Ma Zihan the 1st times when, she said this thing, and ask Ma Zihan, your this person how such ah? You how long do two ability talk about love? The fund that you are considering to spend your boy friend actually pays rent to you, doesn't yourself go to work? Where does your money go?
This is the everyday minor matter of Ma Zihan and Xiao He, but, was known by Xiao He's mom, in her eye, this bagatelle is the overall situation that their place cannot stand however.
Ma Zihan is the person of an aloof and proud, she does not want what to explain too much, but was irritated thoroughly by this word of Xiao He's mom however, the answer arrives: What do you know? Is not random come to an agreement or understanding bad? The most irritated is you are taking prattle this kind to drive the person that run.
Common saying says " not be enemy does not get together first " , a this of Ma Zihan and accurate mother-in-law, let them two contradiction are deeper.
Because Ma Zihan bunted oneself accurate mother-in-law. This is more disastrous, xiao He's mom more was certain oneself are right Ma Zihan's judgement: She does not suit to marry with him son at all, did not rely on chart to calculate, still so do not respect elder. And look in Ma Zihan, oneself sufferred extremely big grievance however, because of them two ability meet the 1st times, xiao He's mom is right she such, she lets her feel, she had not wanted to understand her well at all, coming up is an opinion completely to oneself.
Xiao He still married with Ma Zihan. But the life after marriage says like Xiao He's mom really. They pass not happily, day bumpy, and, every time when they have contradiction, the thing that is like a variety of unpleasantness when why they objecting before mom remembered with respect to what happen to coincide in the heart.
When travelling once, ma Zihan is in a duty-free inn inside bought one by one the bag of 2000 money, cheap many money, but after coming home, was seen by Xiao He, two people quarrelled again one. Xiao He censures Ma Zihan, should not buy this package, obviously before oneself two days crossed birthday to just buy to her, she buys again actually, xiao He feels, ma Zihan spends money in chaos.
Xiao He says: Look what my Mom says is right really, you are the sort of person that does not rely on chart, do not suit to marry with me at all.
And Ma Zihan feels more subdued. Answer Xiao He: Conversation works, get by conscience ah? At the outset why does your Mom say I do not rely on chart? That message that doesn't because saw I give you,send namely? Know inside yourself heart, why don't I have money, because be put over you entirely, was done to invest by your go off with! Right with this thing, she does not know among them the whole story not only, still say my this individual does not rely on chart, had not married to spend your money. To her, I express to understand, but you are know the inside story, you so what meaning is saying? Do you tell conscience?
This thing, became a after they marry huge shadow, every time is troubled by unpleasantness, this thing is carried surely.
They if Xiao He's mom says, remember be clear about at the outset, always feel some day one day, can become of on him body.
Actually, matrimony is originally in that way, bumpy, always not be plain sailing; Always not be sweet, but a lot of people are willing to ascribe those bumpy to elder. Feeling this resembles is a prophecy, it is with them the experience of a n experienced person is a foundation, reach when the conclusion that does not value, those who appear is fatidical. Its are really small make up look, him live well is bad, did not concern with their word, those quarrel every time, the word that once did not value parents takes the person when excuse, actually, not was opposite at all their matrimony is confident, the contradiction in also doing not have those who think the past is serious to solve them to live.
Inside marriage, there is intense emotion so when the day loves without Tan Lian originally, so sweet, because marital essence is the life, the original appearance of the life is flatly light. In flat life, have attrition, having contradiction is normal, we should have an accurate knowledge to this. Those cause attrition and contradictory thing, it is the thing of ourselves. It is the reason of ourselves, do not have any relations at all to our definition with elder, we cannot quarrel to take parents the conclusion to you, the speech that parents does not value to you, will become excuse, pretext, those who feel they say is right, feel that is the prophecy to you. Be in thereby subjective on, bit by bit forward their thought and speech develop.
Marriage is to need his to use a person's mind, serious ground to manage, if parents says, the likelihood is right, but do not be opposite completely certainly, what have a thing because of place is oriented pron yourselves holds.
Those can eliminate all difficulties, walk into the person of marital hall finally, loving the other side greatly for certain, walk into marital hall in them at least that momently, hope to be able to accompany lifetime with each other, defend old. If you are done not have finally,accompany in marital process old, that also is not confirm your parents is fatidical to yours, because, is merely, you had not thought, manage of place to go and the contradiction that in solving your marriage, happen and sealed accident.
Two people are two the individual's things together, parents does not value the business that is parents, if say you are loving the other side greatly truly, and if parents objects again, then you had crossed yourselves to go, to their word, the likelihood has stated reason, but you are you, you can regard their word as the life is right the harden oneself of your marriage, can have agreed grow together in this training together, exercise you to solve difficult ability together.
So, encounter difficulty when a paragraph of feeling, and you feel, when be about to undertake no less than going to, can you choose how to be done? Be a calm bear all these, go accepting depart? Still be actively thinks way, go resolving this difficulty, go changing your current situation?
The truth is same, those do not suffer the marriage that parental place values, until going finally, they often can ascribe the reason to the prophecy of their parents, feel two people do not suit together originally, but hard raw uncultivated land went one case, bring about necessarily finally part company. Then you had thought, actually the account that 8 classics let your relation go to the end, not be other all outside reasons, real reason is in pron yourselves, it is pron yourselves won't be managed, it is pron yourselves is not willing to compromise for the other side. Produce a problem, when producing contradiction, refuse to give up, ascribe contradictory origin to next others is fatidical to yours. Never had thought, begin from him change, go safeguard and managing oneself feeling.
A lot of moment are likely you also know, it is its reason, but do not be willing to admit namely, pointed to spearhead, say not to value your parents.
The love that those parents do not value is not to end in failure, some people are depending on his effort, with positive attitude, the result that yields love becomes good happy; But some people, do very badly again however.
These two kinds of disparate results, the most primary reason, go up in pron yourselves body actually, it is you are faced come from at be badly off the manner when, and your conversation, working ability.
Have a reason, must tell in detail with everybody. We should be clear about, need manages a happy and perfect marriage, it needs two people forward a direction goes making arduous efforts, no matter other people is right your view how, no matter your parents is right your view how, those did not concern with you, because the day is you of two people, not be them, your matter to finally, development becomes what kind of result possible, but it is bad very, final be pron yourselves decision, is not your parents or the test and verify with fatidical to you someone else.
Decide you love complex fruit so, it is you and your sweetheart.
Once had seen first phase " blame sincere not faze " , meng Fei has said a word inside, impression is very deep: We often hear somebody to say, marry, it is two the individual's things not just, still be the thing of two families, this word listens go up the feeling is very reasonable, but you think carefully, do not have what truth actually, because marriage follows two families to may have particular concern, but it is you substantially because two people love each other, be willing.
Dead water affection sends word
Our elder, our parents, they had experienced marriage after all, in so long period of time, no matter be experience or lesson, they always have a few to feel very reasonable thing. But, the marriage of everybody is different, cannot say those coming from to be mixed at the experience in their marriage lesson, regular meeting becomes the experience of your marriage and lesson. Because the person is different, because the idea is different, so their experience is mixed lesson, it is good that we consult, scarcely should be acted according to to criterion, regard as next a kind of prophecy.
Because of experience, times and knowledge wait a respect a moment, the idea that lets we and our parents and understanding have very big different, this must be known correctly, but go up from experience of life for, we do not have them really so rich. Go up from this from sheet, parents says to you, we help you be on love guard a pass, if be not valued, seasonable check you.
To this kind of word, we are good as reference, scarcely wants to feel, their word is right certainly. Because, say with respect to your experience at that time, they should compare you possibly a few more seasoned, but on the length that is put in whole life, did not suit certainly. No matter your parents is to your love,object so, actually, it is to tell you only, marriage must discreet. But marriage is ourselves, should hear the voice of ourselves more? Should be not decided by ourselves?
A few come from at the life and the truth that grow, should not be to engraft forcibly in ourselves brain, it also needs us to experience and be summed up with its personal experience and practice sometimes, because we are to hear solely, cannot understand it deeply, after only some day fell a fall really, we just can be experienced truly. Still having a bit is, moment of experience great majority duplicates without method, so their word, it is good to offer reference only.
Respecting is small finally making up is to want to let everybody can understand a reason only, that is: To marriage, parents rejects it may not be a bad idea, support, their view and opinion, it is good that give attention to two or morethings is worn, we want to know, marriage is him, is marital result good bad still? The effort that gives when he and your management marriage degree, do not divide. So, want to have a good marriage, try hard please then go greeting fetch to be mixed at marriage oneself the challenge of the life, next, strive for a happy and happy ending.
