Be in on the lecture about adolescence, a parent asks I say, teacher, my home child always did not learn motivation, do you say how I should be fostered?
I say, you are not fostered, abandon! This parent is stupefied, it seems was gone to to thunder by my answer. You may be mixed this parent is same feeling, your this person says silently in the heart how can such!
Actually, I am special understand that parent why to be met in that way ask, also know he wants a what kind of solution. But I more know, learning motivation is not come out by education. Every child has the power of study inherently, as the parent, we do not need to become all-purpose god to go the palm accuses the child, what we should do is the discovery, study power that arouse and retains the child.
Open the secret of child power source, it is inside this one word!
To all parents, want to master arouse method of child learning dynamic, what the first pace should do is not to study study method, the dynamical source that should learn to search child learning however is in. Be just like you to buy a car, what you should know you are bought is electric car, still be benzine car, just know to should charge to it, still cheer.
So Where is the dynamical source that how discovers the child? This and choose a vehicle a bit similar also.
Learning motivation is immanent, you are measured very hard directly. Place in that like a car, you are the function stand or fall that does not know him. Let it run only, check its relevant parameter, e.g. 100 kilometers acceleration, 100 kilometers oily bad news, go again next assess it is horsepower driving.
Study also is same, we also must find child learning dynamic to assess parameter, this can be judged through a few behavior. I recommend 3 target to everybody, you can regard it as teach the child " 3 delegates " .
The first index is the child is spent to the attention of a thing, we say it means bid to note.
The backside of this kind of attention, it is psychological need of the child, and the child's need, just is we arouse child dynamic key. This resembles the child in one's childhood you take him to ramble bazaar, before taking toyshop door, his eye is staring at a toy not to agree, we know the child is to want a toy very easily. At that time, you should agree to buy a toy to the child only, raise what requirement he can agree.
But after the child is grown, can conceal this kind of his need gradually, discover so not easily. But the thing that the child always can allocate attention to him to expect, when the child is hungry, alimental flavour can cause his attention most; And when the child is alone, the care of other is met can attract him more. These attract thing backside of the child, the psychology that is the child appeals to beg, also be dynamical source of the child, it is key of dynamic of open child learning, resemble in front the toy in the bazaar of respecting.
Find dynamical source of the child, the study power that transfers the child will become a lot of simpler.
If a child is mixed the interest that the interest that the classmate plays together is more than right study, because he is exceeding,the likelihood is the fellow with nice need concerns, so the fellow student that allows he and him learns together may get twice the result with half the effort.
An indrawn and self-abased child, exceeding infatuation game, the likelihood is game gave him self-confidence and achievement sense, such child, give in what learn he affirms and encourage, can let his spurt give out tremendous study enthusiasm.
Anyhow, remember a word, the person won't do nonsense favour, each thing that the child is interested in, the mentality that its hide appeals to beg, we think more, go discovering this kind appeals to beg, can master open child to learn dynamic key. This notices the meaning of index and value namely.
But, a child may be interested in a lot of things, his appeal to beg have a lot of, how should we choose the demand of core? At that time, was turn for the 2nd index to come on the stage!
The 2nd index is the mood state that the child shows on this thing, we call it sentiment index.
Psychological research indicates, once the person's need is satisfied, can arise disposition mood, be like glad, happy, like, have deep love for etc, if need to cannot be satisfied, can generate angst, scared, sadness, regret to wait for negative sentiment.
According to this, we lost by force with respect to what can judge child demand. For instance the child took an apple to prepare to eat, you are reaved ate off, child response is not big, this proves the demand of this backside is not strong. But the child is playing game, you grabbed the mobile phone from child hand come out, the child is hysterical, a pair with you desperately manner, of the child that after this proves game is carried on the back, represents accuse begging is intense. Begin from this respect, arouse study enthusiasm of the child more easily.
This is the meaning of index of sentiment of the 2nd index, what we can pass the child to judge demand of its backside psychology to the mood reaction of a thing is strong weak.
The mood has a lot of time can be held to accuse, also not be to the queen's taste, the judgement for us is more accurate, we still need have the aid of the force of the 3rd index.
The 3rd index is the child whether overcome certain difficulty to do a business, you are understandable the psychokinesis that often says for us, I call it volitional index.
Do not want to compose course of study to want to go out to play with the companion e.g. the child, it is not OK that you say, at that time you formed the child to look for the difficulty that associate plays. If although the child has bit of lose, but the word that still hears you. This proves the child's motive is not very intense, and if the child thinks all sorts of method to let you,agree, or outcry, the motive that this is representing the child is more intense, it can prop up the child to overcome certain difficulty. This is we bring child learning dynamic into play good material.
Compare integratedly what carry these 3 index, what is we can judge the demand that gives the child gradually. Of course, to the parent without knowledge of psychology of certain adolescence child, make this kind of judgement can have certain difficulty, issueing section class, I can give you in detail the psychological characteristic of analytic adolescence child with a class, let you master adolescent child's common motivation cause. We emphasize this section subject the method that the introduction discovers child power source.
After judgement gives dynamical cause of the child, we are about to use these dynamical sources to invoke study power of the child. Need to make clear is, these dynamical sources are not we operate the child's tool, however the provisions that we did not give the child in the past, what we should do nowadays is to give the child to fill on this is short of break.
So how to apply? The method that this class explains does not need you to make too big change, need your knowledge according to this class to be done to teaching behavior only optimize. Be opposite e.g. some parent the child is high demand all the time, although the child is more outstanding, but still give the child to approbate rarely, we are used above a 3 element analyse those who give the parent to approbate is the child powerful power source, the method that arouses child learning enthusiasm at that time is: We tell the child to say, mom discovers you learn recently very hard, the result is very right also, mom is very happy!
For the child that longs for the parent to approbate to, this kind of feeling that be approved can let his spurt give out older study flame, this moment, the child can pay older flame to learn, motivation was aroused.
Study is a process than spelling staying power, arouse motivation to just begin, is not an end. We need hard to hold position of this kind of power. The principle that maintain and invokes is interlinked actually, a whole exercisable method can be used, I can be in the 3-6 class behind, one by one spreads out to introduce these specific meanses carefully for everybody.
Finally, we will recall the focal point of this course together. Learning motivation is not come out by education, every child has the power of study inherently, as the parent, what we should do is the discovery, study power that arouse and retains the child.
Discovery, arouse, maintaining is to let the child have move of study dynamic core. We introduced this second course to discover 3 target of child power source mainly: Notice index, sentiment index and volitional index. Held these 3 index, with respect to the significant power source that can discover the child, use the study power that it is aroused and retains the child then!
