What deny repulsion for us to conceal those actually is idiosyncratic, the energy that we give is very big. And any moment cannot be loosened come down. Till the existence that admits these characteristics till us. When you final can straight him face inner shadow, when admit and admitting true ego, all pressure can disappear for an instant. You can be experienced extremely relaxed, become you to be able to admit the universal time of own heart, whole world can open wide bosom to you. Debbie Ford
Very few somebody can admit him, everybody is dissatisfactory to oneself, very clever the serious person that has depth, often meet the person that likes a very peripheral joy, same the serious person that a happy and peripheral person always can like to have depth, this became a fast knot it seems that. Past arranged marriage when, we say to do not have a choice. Free now love when, some even marathon love of 10 years, after should marrying, also can say us slowly 3 view should not. But a lot of people are putting the friend that 3 view close not to search, why seek the person that 3 view should not? The analysis comes from psychological angle below.
One, what do you depress, you can go out alive and her contrary appearance.
One when in me here seeks advice depressed her father mother as a child critically his elder sister is particularly peripheral her father mother as a child critically her elder sister is particularly peripheral, particularly foolish, know giggle everyday, seem to did not grow a head. But because the elder sister is,those who be brought up is in as a child beside father mother, although listened to these word hearts in grouchy, but the elder sister was not affected, to now everyday special pleasure, and marriage is happy, the time passes weller and weller, of course, father mother says now, your elder sister is a life good, foolish the person has foolish blessing, otherwise by her that head, in this it is to be no good really socially.
Contrary, surface of this person that seek advice sees first-rate, the graduate student graduates, teacher lecturer. But she arrives to live very bitterly greatly as a child, because learn anguish, because of best girlfriend misunderstanding parts company and painful, it is painful that the university talks about love to be lovelorn, one's deceased father on graduate student, got psychological disease, such everyday more painful. Pass in seeking advice, disentomb slowly, I like a painful person namely. From sensible it is 229 years all the time to now in anguish, I am it is with anguish feed, why to meet such? Because she is in grandmother home to be brought up as a child, see people look act all the time. The home is returned to come after going to school when her, father mother is critically elder sister, she is natural not dare happy. Party does not have fall victim, spectator fall victim, so she just gives earnest look alive desperately. Because earnest look just is,have one's proper business, just be a person that deserves credit, still be a person that can assume responsibility. That everyday of giggle, know oneself are happy only, won't make allowances for mom's feeling, this kind of person is met certainly by father mother critically. Was thought to please mom, she pretends herself certainly, I am cannot happy, camouflage time grew, that cannot I happy became me true.
2, the model that everybody considers to give his to depress alive, but oneself do not have courage, so ability can be envied and oneself work adverse person.
Particularly earnest, we think 3 view are special person, they always can seek an in that way person that we think 3 view are frame-up, in me this kinds a lot of are encountered in seeking advice priggish good gracious female. They always encounter all sorts of broken bits finally male, investigate its reason is he lives too dejectedly, too dull, if she looks for with oneself, two depressing nudnik, can cross a home more inanimately. So the more serious woman, can look for a smooth-tongued man more, perhaps say to have the woman that satisfies not easily of deepness, can look for a man that satisfies easily peripherally, after marrying, the woman is OK and critically of the man peripheral, the content with one's lot of critically man is not aspirant. Becoming a woman to begin is be attracted by the Chang Le of content with one's lot of a man, the man turns into not aspirant reason after marrying. In seek advice so I often ask the person that seek advice, what is what you need after all? When because become,asking repeatedly, the thing that we just know to we want is special conflict, essential on the world perhaps cannot both coexist. Say the thought is only harmonious so, marriage just is met harmonious, ability can teach the child that has given. Like the child like some parents pure, when the child is truly pure, the parent feels the child is foolish again, the child is babyish. This creates quandary to child psychology, my father mother wants me after all is what appearance.
3, the value that admits oneself effort just can see him, those who admit oneself is foolish, ability is brought to oneself clever.
Do in me in seeking advice, especially patient of a lot of depressed disease, they see the effort that is less than their, they can say, how didn't I learn, I take an examination of before entering 3. How didn't I learn, I am taken an examination of went up graduate student. True condition is contrary completely, because a person admits hard, representing his is not clever. But because give his,stuck clever label, oneself cannot admit oneself are effort, because be in his thought,fool just tries hard, I am clever, I need not try hard to be able to get. Do not admit oneself are jackass the more so, a person can show he is clever more. Clever person does not allow him to make a mistake, clever person does not allow him hard, our result is very foolish. When a person admits he is foolish, a person begins no longer so nervous, because jackass can make a mistake, jackass can try hard, so foolish and final the result that brings to oneself is clever.
Finally, we should understand, we are so called 3 view, itself this proposition is false proposition, itself is not namely black namely white proposition. We seek us to do not have a lot of time, we want to ask the other side is an ideal person. Ask like a woman a man, work outside have courage, have decision, have will. But she is overcome again overbearing peremptoriness of the man, do not bump south the wall does not turn round. Can be static come down to analyse us to know, he is the seamy side in one individual disposition and positive aspect, resemble bravery old person invests rash advance, seize an opportunity easily already so, fail easily also in the round. Coward dare not invest, such although missed an opportunity, but unapt comprehensive failure. The backside of the problem, I want a person is comprehensive person, patient of very much perhaps depressed disease, they ask they also are a completist, they do not allow themselves to appear negative sentiment and idea, the sweetheart that they also do not allow themselves of course is faulty, more the child that does not permit oneself is faulty.
Do not allow because of us namely faulty, just can bring a thing to develop finally true faulty, if we can accept ourselves faulty, what can bring a thing finally is perfect. Because accept,be faultily a kind open-minded, be not being accepted is one kind nags faultily. If oneself are open-minded, the result is open-minded certainly oneself, open-minded sweetheart, open-minded child. If only oneself haggle over every ounce, oneself are captious, finally is the sweetheart of fall out Cheng Chou certainly, scanty from the child that is not willing to come home. What thought are you? You can get what result, clear when not late, late is you do not want to understand, because understand to need a change, those who need to admit oneself is faulty, need and bounds of him past make a clear distinction, the sweetheart that needs him past that excuses the past and child, but want to remember, change, begin from oneself forever, engrave from now on begin.
3 clear teachers are a country 2 class psychology seeks advice from division, autograph of today's top headlines makes an appointment with an author, the problem of angle look upon that the teacher is good at never be the same as analyses a problem to solve a problem, in the teacher's heart, who doing not have is abnormal, who doing not have is ill, the heart changes the world goes. 3 clear teachers hope it is better to encounter oneself, it is better to encounter you, like the teacher's article, can pay close attention to my illicit to believe me. (collaboration of greeting psychology advisory division and contribute)
