Article Piao Mo Yan
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Good parents learns to come out
Without natural successful father and mother, also did not need the parents of study, successful parents is the result that continuous study improves.
An outstanding mother says even:
A lot of people think I am very relaxed, the child that says you is so outstanding, use a pipe far from, little imagine, I sleep to have an eye actually in the evening repeatedly is being opened!
Good mother nip in the bud, and unqualified mother is, the child's problem already very serious, even the teacher has looked for the child to talk, she has not realized the existence of the problem.
Enter 21 centuries, information society is taller and taller to quality requirement of the person, any post ask to groom, assessment, but be born only it seems that raise, educational child does not need to groom, seem to be met automatically mount guard and forever won't come off sentry duty, actually this kind of understanding is wrong.
Each person should learn relevant knowledge before doing father and mother, the consciousness that does father and mother about how and knowledge prepare earlier to had been jumped over, had jumped over more adequately.
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Good child is to teach come out
I had contacted hundreds outstanding parents, one their is nodded jointly even if on educational child cost uses up idea!
Some people may say, so much parents big character does not know, also do not teach a good child? Actually, illiteracy is not won't teach, these parents are the ace that teachs the child likewise.
" focal interview " ever had introduced world high school student the achievement of An Jinpeng of gainer of abstruse number gold. In his home extremely poor, pass an entrance examination key middle school, go up without money however, father says to let the child work, the family got on an university to still do not have the job, more what is more,the rather that you can be taken an examination of get on an university to still do not know.
But the mother does not agree stoutly, sold an exclusive ass in the home. The child is exclusive in the middle school one is connected Lenten the person that has not to rise, it is exclusive one uses even soap the person that does not have. According to so to speak does the child rely on him completely?
Ask ability knows face to face, although this mother connects elementary school to do not have graduation, but the child that she lets herself however does arithmetic before elementary school fluently. The father and mother that finish school of a few colleges there was again this only can be accomplished?
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Good convention is to raise come out
A lot of parents blame bad custom of the child school body to go up, blame teacher body to go up, blame child body to go up, did not blame him body to go up alone only.
Actually the majority on child body is used to -- no matter be good convention or bad habit,be our parents intended or foster innocently. Actually parents is teaching all the time, it is oneself did not realize oneself are teaching only, this is " go education " , it is to compare " show education " might gets much substaintial education greatly.
Outstanding child is the result of high grade education more, problem child is the child of question family more.
Mostly child oneself does not create the child's problem, however the reflection of parental problem, parents often the biggest maker of child problem, also be the biggest obstacle that the child corrects mistake and defect at the same time.
What urgent affairs needs to teach is not the child, however parents, the change that does not have parents does not have the child's change. Did not miss the child that learn from good examples, have the child that cannot learn from good examples only; Did not teach bad child, have the father and mother that won't teach only.
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The side comes out good achievement
About quality education and should try education, whole society should have accurate knowledge. Should trying education is the school and parent evasive not problem, need school and parent suit jointly.
According to statistic, our country has nearly 10 million " disengaged " minor. Alleged and disengaged minor, point to behoove to read and do not wish to read in the school namely, select the child of discontinue one's studying. This among them the 94% results that are school work failure, backward, be disgusted with learns school work, kip, run away from home the 4 paces music that makes current minor crime.
Accordingly, help child gets used to a when should try education to also become our father and mother obligation that answers, and help child reduces negative best way is our parents is added negative, it is the adviser that our parents can become the child.
Of course school teacher belt comes out good achievement, but in should try education to compete so intense today, these good achievement are soaking parental sweat increasingly.
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Good communicating is to listen come out
For the parent that enters junior high school, high school to the child, put generally in a kind of bewilderment, that is communicated hard with the child namely.
Enter adolescent child and the conflict more that enter the mother of the turn of life, because be in immanent psychology,be not only queasy period, more important is both outside pressure very big, what the child is faced with is the pressure of enter a higher school, what the mother is faced with is the pressure of the career, this needs to strengthen more communicate.
Outstanding parents is done very well mostly in this respect, their good communication originates abided by self-consciously the following these 3 principles:
The first measure is to listen attentively to, let the child speak out the word namely, and understand the true meaning in child word.
The 2nd measure is understanding, it is reasonable that the angle that stands in the child namely thinks.
The 3rd measure is a proposal, reasonable child can not take correct action certainly, because the proposal should offer here.
In these 3 measure, listening attentively to is parents those who do is the poorest.
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Good achievement is to change come out
Intelligence is not the most important, more important than intelligence is a volition, more important than the volition is bosom, more important than bosom is one the individual's moral character.
Regretful is, the person that takes moral character seriously now is not increasing, however less and less. As to respecting the mind of a person is mixed aspiration, it is the tall story that parents do not wish to listen more, because have nothing to do with the exam mark of instantly!
Actually these are the most important in one personal growth. When we are reading character memoir, often can be opposite when hero childhood outstanding leave very deep impression, the reason makes intention this kind namely tremendous to one the individual's influence.
These the mainest factors such as volition, bosom, moral character, either those who pass parents is homiletic -- this kind " show education " can produce the result, the act that passes parents however -- namely " go education " whitewash the flesh and blood that takes the child in.
Allow the best kind of child nurturance great mind, besides the model that parents can have made, make the child much read famous book namely, read the great person's memoir more, let the child learn to see society and his with the great person's eye as a child.
