Angry, because structure is inadequate,be
Village " free swim " in say: Small know not as good as greatly, off year not as good as good year. Xi Yizhi its like that also? Chao Jun does not tell the last and first days of a lunar month, a kind of cicada does not tell year.
In the morning the mushroom of break ground, it does not know dark, what is called to be called new moon; The first day of every month makes the first day of the lunar month, the last day makes the last day of a lunar month. A kind of cicada, it is the cicada that summer is born, died to the autumn commonly, say it does not know history so.
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The perspective is narrower, see this world and others jump over darkness
Small know not as good as greatly. That is to say lives in the person in very little recognizant radar scope, be the world that have no way knows to broader recognizant radar map falls.
Your experience comes from the perspective at you and eye shot. The person with a narrow perspective, see the night of others very easily; The person of expanse of a perspective, the opportunity that sees nowhere is not in the world very easily, can bring even think with.
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Others does not understand you this thing, actually very common
" village " say small know not as good as greatly, know to be able to see greatly small the thing that knows to cannot see. We can see others is misunderstood to his -- the leader does not know he has many able, the client does not know we did how much not easy homework for him, employee does not understand a leader to become a boss by day, sleep in the evening the hardship of the floor... these are common small know. If you can see wide little, it is so not easy that you can become angry.
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Spend with different dimension see a problem, it is best easy way
Like having, the thing is called shadowless lamp, actually very simple, it is circuit lamp. When the lamp is called from top left corner, can be in naturally right generation playing role a shadow. But if there still is a light in top right corner, this shadow is nonexistent. If it is circuit lamp, won't have sign naturally more.
It is what thing obstacle lived your place sees, let you produce psychological shadow? What is that fraise? That fraise is your bias, it is the point of view that we see problem Shi Xiaozhi. Only an angle sees the person of the problem one, be immersed in simple judgement very easily.
When you criticize anything, whether can you have secretly ego is conscious: Is having what I am immersed in the likelihood radar of a kind of consciousness too narrow and brought prejudice? Whether did I fall small the angle that know?
" village " in " small know not as good as greatly " inside, mentioned to guess interestingly: We each person, should tell oneself conciously, probable for the eye shot of the person to broader consciousness radar, you still lie one-track in the center. And the mood such as the pride because of this kind of one-track generation, indignant, suspicion, malcontent, be jealous of, because,be only " without bright " . Say bad mood comes from the habit at how terrible not just so, more come from the wisdom that opens at doing not have.
What calls wisdom? " village " says wisdom knows greatly namely, it is you can alternate at any time and place a lot of angle, spend with different dimension go seeing a thing.
If you discover today's you are compared yesterday you, become can see a problem from much angle more, if becoming more easy, na Gongxi you, you are big cicada.
Happy, come from let off oneself
Village " free swim " in say: Do not have to the person oneself, the god is not had result, the sage is anonymous.
Are you met by " do I have meritorious service " " do I need to brush existence to feel " " do I have effect " wait for recognizant place to kidnap? And village uses whole " free swim " what tell, how be kidnapped by all sorts of thing place namely.
How not by about " mix greatly small " notional place kidnap, how not by " I am useful " or " I am trashy " ideal place kidnap, how not by " I am good after all bad still " be kidnapped...
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"Become " become an immanent and free person namely
Not by immanent that about " I " notional place kidnap, cry " without my photograph " ; Be not looked by others heart in the center " the person that you should make what appearance " place kidnap, cry " unmanned photograph " ; Be not kidnapped by the onrush trend place of a times, echo what other says, drift with the tide, drift with the stream from numerous, cry " without photograph of all living creatures " .
So we look " free swim " when, we can be experienced it seems that, the mankind is the cleverest wisdom person arrived a certain condition the deep feeling with metropolis similar emerge in large numbers. What cries " become " ? Not be to say gloden, not be supernatural power immensity... alleged " become " the person that just becomes an immanent ego, comfortable, free, self-confidence actually.
When having mode of such a kind of intelligence and psychological energy, naturally, all things won't bring the worry on overmuch mood to you.
Our corrupt be angry is crazy slow doubt, resentment is angry irritated, photograph of the person that happen actually even if had photograph of person photograph, my photograph, all living creatures and life because of us. For the word that uses village, we by a kind of true and false, beauty whether whether brand of ugly, right, individual, useful, literate, whether to have life sense... this kind of faint underlying idea kidnapped.
Cheng Daohe is obtained free, it is same argument actually.
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Compose builds immanent intelligence pattern our unfortunate good fortune
Village is in " free swim " in, used another story like montage presents us to look: Our not free, joyless, it is how to borrow by us immanent intelligence mode is built those who rise.
Do not know when to begin for instance, we had scared habit. Look now, because,the likelihood is as a child when our parents is teaching us, do not know besides with fear besides, still have what is more effective and swift method; Then they used a tiger, used cadre of police station policeman, will threaten our give in, have a meal rapidly, sleep rapidly, do work rapidly.
Fear no longer later when us tiger, fear no longer policeman when, left afraid habit however, if here is invisible,it is, so that we did not discover it, but what it restricted us is free.
Still have a few people, because,be as a child his parents tells him you are not quite outstanding, so very much person can feel he is undeserved all these that has place.
The little girl that a few grow very beautifully, her mother may fear she does herself too beautifully in one's childhood very much can go against study, can intended ground does her so not beautifully. When she is grown, she is the sex appeal to oneself, beautiful can produce a kind deep secretly scared, she always feels she is not quite good.
Still a few parents can be in when the child is very small tell them, our home very not easy, you read want to cherish, it is very difficult that father mother makes money. Although such education can let a child establish the concept that values money, but also let this child do not believe all one's life in this at the same time, oneself can have money.
This is us it is how to be become a chronic fear, chronic feel oneself are not quite outstanding, chronic feel oneself do not deserve, feel oneself are undeserved chronically of had person.
We must discover, each person is inside a variety of a variety of time of associate with, good luck, formed above a variety of the obstacle of intelligence mode. It is all these confine we, let us become an uneasy person.
We do not need to blame parents, because parents also is such going come over. Each person is such, so " village " just tell " do not have to the person oneself, the god is not had result, the sage is anonymous " .
What we need is to go.
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Conscious, marched toward free direction namely
We do not need to complain, we need to become aware only. Become aware when us all joyless, uneasy, unfortunate blessing, because an invisible cover is worn in confine,be merely we when, we began to march toward free direction bravely.
Before fall asleep, probably we can do a simple exercise together, go thinking those most the person that lets your accurate. Because this most the person that lets your accurate, can real ground helps you discover the reason of your accurate.
That lets the account of own accurate, it is your underlying fear, part immanently heart, be anxious immanently. Understand when you, that is hypothesis of a conceptual only when, probably you can put down the antagonism with it. You need not tell anyone, but you must want yourself to know, you are defying with what.
Because the mankind needs to compete ceaselessly between lengthy developmental process, a when so chronically antagonism constituted our intelligence pattern inevitable.
It helped human evolution, but have a side effect at the same time, this kind of chronic antagonism lets us be not known how to go loving, do not know even how to love oneself, let our heart give birth to hateful heart, let us cannot accept everything, let us be among the communication process with other, became a competitor innocently of purpose.
It makes us joyless, make us final arise lots and lots of regretful. . . . . .
So Confucius says benevolence person inapproachable, the meaning that he says is a real ground is close to at free condition, have the extensive person that sympathizes with heart and wisdom, be the enemy that won't establish oneself easily. He is among the process that interacts with all living creatures, can find the method that how gets along with their harmony.
All these comes from be opposite at us of its real situation have an insight into and understand.
Everything sleeps to become aware badly, mix your immanent some antagonism is concerned, find it, discover it, unlock it, accept it.
After sleeping to become aware when you, you can be in like discovering oneself resemble a child in the morning the following day, filled exuberant lease of life.
