In the times of angst, over- not the life of angst. Hello, I am Lin Zi.
Go up in the airliner today, see the story that makes popular feeling painful first: Xi'an a boy of junior high school, because love the United States to want to wear long hair, the school does not allow, teacher belt goes tonsorial hind, the child disrelishs a hair too short do not wish to go to school, father is persuaded repeatedly, the child is to run away from home first, a few days are done not have after be being looked for, jumped from 32.
Jump before the building, the child leaves a message to the good friend say: "My go ahead of the rest dies, you are taken care of... send word to them, my pa forces. I differ with this world idea, do not go down alive... "
The child's father is sad repent the ground says: "These 11 days, I stand in angle admonish of the teacher to the utmost, oversight the child's feeling, if somebody stands to say, did not go going to school, we waited for a hair to grow to go again, perhaps won't have such result. Perhaps won't have such result..
How do I hope, parents are before tragedy happening, have such arousal first. If somebody can be heard earlier, the anguish that understand and respects child heart, place of truly clear child says " I read aloud with this world outlook different, do not go down alive " it is what kind of torment, this world perhaps won't let so much child acedia and go.
Be what makes the child so acedia? I think, it is old people by formatted, lost aesthetic feeling, lost the free, heart that lost independence to ponder over interest. Children live in the environment that adult creates by the heart, when going down alive, only the option leaves, come down alive, to suit, became gradually next such old people, continue to creating same environment.
Study passes before us, immanent and safe feeling, attributive feeling and perfect society support a system, it is the main factor that affects people mental health. And these elements, to children, can obtain through adult only. If the heart of adult cannot give every unique child to stay,have independent space, so the world the again big, a place to stay that also does not have children. Because condition build by the heart, content is not had outside the heart.
Content is not had outside the heart, it is another when king Yang Mingxin learns fundamental notions. " the collection that conduct review " in account a story: A day, king Yangming and friend visit meeting check hill together, the friend is pointing to a bloom flower in the rock in hill, ask king Yang Ming: "You often say the world does not have the content outside the heart, this flower leaves to fall oneself oneself in remote mountains, does the heart that follows us have why to concern? " king Yang Ming says: "When you did not see this flower, this flower and you are attributed to lonely together; You see this flower already, criterion this flower color understands temporarily, know this flower to not be outside your heart. Know this flower to not be outside your heart..
Be attributed to the lonely of lonely together, those who point to is objective consist in we are subjective the condition besides consciousness. King Yang Ming the means of this paragraph of word: When you did not see a flower, you are you, the flower is a flower, neither be concerned with, the flower is right for you no point. See a flower when you only when, in spending the heart that just entered you, become the target of your consciousness. Spend from now on occupied a corner in your world, your world had a flower, beautiful world had you.
To modern, use TV and channel citing to be able to understand more easily. For instance, there are 100 channels in the space, to can getting the TV set of 50 channel only for, additionally 50 are nonexistent; A person opens TV to watch among them when, other 99 are insignificant to him; A person does not watch TV, so these 100 channel are nonexistent in the life at him.
You want to know what this has to inspire to us certainly. On today's airliner, still produced a job, as it happens serves as case. On the plane, sit in the lady of my back row, make a noise greatly with the man at the back of her rise. So she wants to lay seat to rest, arrive because of too small effect however the man of backlash. The lady says: "Since seat can be put so low, I have the right to put so low! " the man says: "Your right cannot affect my right! " the lady says loudly again: "Have ability you will hit me! You will hit! " soon bilateral internal heat upgrades, security and empty elder sister are at a loss what to do, my face about handholded the lady's hand, pat gently. The lady looks round see me, I say: "Seat really too small, you are not easy! " the lady was stupefied, begin to cry, the man also is loosened come down, lean backward, muttered: "Calculated! I do not say her! I do not say her!!
The conflict of an at swords' points was dissolved, and dissolved crucial movement is: The hand ministry of I and lady is contacted. The seat is endured too closely, the Na Duo that resembles king Yang Ming is beautiful, although 100 much people face whole plane,wear this " flower " , but did not put on the heart, so each other live in peace with each other; This lady is different, she hopes to strive for larger space, so this " flower " open bigger more in her heart, rise to right level; After the man of back row is squashed, also saw this " flower " , rise then revolt. Meanwhile, lady diction character provokes the other side, the likelihood in the life that shows her is existing " apply cruel -- suffer cruel " relation mode. Below this kind of mode, the adjustment of the man's revolt and security personnel was regarded as browbeat to oneself and deny, arouse violent ability only " be over form " . And my contact and flap gently, it is to take her this pattern, return instantly, face oneself true sentiment.
This conflict, saying with its is to happen on the airliner, be inferior to saying is to happen in the heart of two people. Because of the exert oneself of two people the dot is in centrally " flower " when going up, seat problem was highlighted by enlarge come out; After lady cry out comes, the man's attention also is succeeded to transfer, the dimensional size of the seat does not have a change, but " flower " disappeared suddenly, because content is not had outside the heart -- space as the heart greaten and greatened.
Return begin in light of the case of that child, put down the judgement of stand or fall to the fault when old people, "Wear long hair " the be fond of that is an individual only, do not have direct correlation with moral character; But if Your Excellency,the accident that sends the head is defined,be whether walk the chalks, and the child regards it however if the United States' ugly choice and ego viewpoint are conveyed, the hair became the central issue of conflict. If the heart of old people is put a bit more greatly again, the word of the point of view that allows child him expression, aspirations that listens attentively to child hair backside, bei play can avoid.
The hair is a hair only, the heart that is people let it become an issue. Conversely, want to solve a problem, can not rely on haircut this external change, need to be adjusted from the heart first however.
King Yang Ming from heart, meaning, know, 4 levels are opposite content " content is not had outside the heart " had done specific elaborate, be called " 4 manage " , he says:
The dictate of the body is a heart
The place hair of the heart is meaning
The noumenon of meaning is to know
The place of meaning is content
Among them last, have immediate concern with heart thing and can represent the idea distinguishing feature of king Yang Ming most. Here " meaning " , point to consciousness, idea, "The place of meaning " point to recognizant object, and " content " , point to wood of mountains and rivers-land to wait for content not simply, still include " thing " , namely all sorts of activities in people life. The means of this word says, our heart decided we are right the acknowledge of outside thing and definition, is not outside thing itself.
For instance, eat the meal of the person remnant beyond family, this is in light of a lot of people only beggar just can be done, humbleness and epinosic thing. But earthquake of plain of short of Wenshui River helps when, we discover however: The employee that offers the Chengdu jujube that car traffic supports to cultivate maigre dining-room for us people, however each metropolis the everybody on the desk the leftover in the bowl eats clean. Ask them why so do, they say: "When having a meal together with senior fellow apprentice of boss the Song Dynasty for the first time, boss husband and wife sees everybody has leftover in the bowl, whats did not say, just eat the leftover of everybody clean, everybody is touched very much also very shock, evermore again also not leftover, and also can eat the leftover of others, because knew this,not be humbleness is mixed miserly, however ' cherish blessing ' . Because knew this,not be humbleness is mixed miserly, however ' cherish blessing ' ..
You look, when be defined to be cherish blessing, "Leftover " be the thing that cannot accept no longer it seems that.
Experience of myself is: Dumpling when a few months are big, have constipation of period of time, I am very afraid, thought all sorts of method do not get effective. Bathe to her one day, bub pulls cake cake suddenly in my control, I resemble as if one find out treasure immediately same happy, begin to think over next: If this is the cake of others, can I still be the feeling that jubilates likewise? Can you feel disgusting? Actually, cake cake is cake, itself did not part, be us respectively the heart defines it for disgusting.
Change a word to tell, the existence itself of all things everythings on earth does not have value discretion and stand or fall, the definition that is us let them have respectively; Conversely, feel when you life is insignificant worthless when, not be true no point and value actually, is our oversight only those can be gifted in daily life the existence of meaning and value.
Be said like Luo Dan: "The United States never is lacked in the life, lack the eye that discovers the United States however. " your world, see by your place, be heard, be thought of, place feeling is formed, with others different. Once, I see a full moon in hill, feel very quiet, wrote a poem, last are: "The month stops terrestrial heart. " a friend saw, say jokingly: "Should be ' heart of lunar random world ' just be opposite! "Should be ' heart of lunar random world ' just be opposite!!
It is to stop random still, the heart that uses you goes defining your life!
Class of Lin Zi psychology, we see next time.
