Every graduate student is the Xiaolong that did not give case, pass Graduate School only this purgatorial merciless blaze, ability hatch becomes the firedrake of an invincible.
Under halo, renown school student is assuming the ordinary person's adv unimaginably pressure.
Be graduated from Dr. Liu of Stanford university, in the personal experience that oneself shared to be read in Stanford 5 years in this article, gave out cogently to face the experience that how pressure dissolves.
As a student studying abroad, the time of my brigade beauty has exceeded 8 years. During because go to school,perhaps jackaroo the school gate that has stepped 5 universities. To how dissolving the problem of pressure, I cannot help wanting to share my opinion.
Is Stanford purgatorial beginning unexpectedly?
I spent 5 years of youth in Stanford, associate with the friend that comes from all corners of the land. The tears of blood that a lot of friends had poured out them to me history: Adviser how abnormal, how is intelligence quotient ground to press, how is the article grabbed to send by others etc.
Do not hide the truth from you to say, I also once had period of time very depressed, feel the life does not have direction, study no point. Took PhD degree smoothly nowadays, after-thought rises in those days oneself, as before one's heart still fluttering with fear.
I learn on home when, achievement is more outstanding. Gao Sanfei constant lucky the notice that received Kangnaier. Because tuition is expensive fearsome, I choose to go to a college of unity and coherence in writing with liberal fellowship reading. I read an university with time of 3 years, will to Stanford assiduously study a doctor's degree. Hereto, the way of my attend school can say downwind downstream.
But who knows, stanford is purgatorial beginning.
Believe a lot of have same feeling in the student that renown officer reads: And beside person comparing rises, oneself simply too insignificant! The friends beside are each immortal simply!
22 years old of doctors graduate; Nature magazine has sent with identity of the first writer during undergraduate course; Maths, physics, chemistry has been taken during high school of first prize of contest of 3 divisions whole nation; Had taken Olympic Games gold...
In Stanford, on not only endowment grind pressure, return those who domestic background goes up to grind pressure. Daughter Jennifer Gates of Biergaici is in our institute to read undergraduate course.
Stanford body resides Silicon Valley center, poineering atmosphere is very full-bodied. Every other period of time, I can hear of classmate suspend one's schooling does poineering work, the company financing that still can see adjoining classmate in news from time to time U.S. dollors of millions of very consummate ten million. In this kind the influence falls, want static it is very difficult that next hearts will do science.
Come the National People's Congress that Stanford reads is contended for more strong emulative. And of endowment and domestic background double grind pressure, achieve the influence that joins a group, add learned a variety of not successful, a lot of student union feel pressure inevitably, appear even the problem of mentally.
Change an angle to look: Pressure is greater, opportunity is greater
The first year PhD student union does Stanford college Rotation (Chinese calls cycle, the task team that tries to differ namely) . The direction of main attack of group of the first task of my cycle is laser forceps, the research of this and my undergraduate course is very similar, it is the task group that I have confidence to join most.
But join,the first day is come to a severity hsown by an official on assuming post.
With me the new student of a cycle has two, mr H is the undergraduate course that Caltech physics ties, mr S is Hertz Foundation Fellow (a scholarship that obtains extremely hard) . Two people are right the research know sth like the palm of one's hand in task group, and study ability and expressive ability all are over me. Although not be willing to admit, but my ability is stressed least of all in 3 people apparently.
The 3rd week of cycle, the adviser is in group say on the meeting: "I Have Funding For One Student This Year (I can save a new life only this year) . " hear this word, I feel estimation and this lab does not have a predestined relationship at that time, turn to other lab cycle in a hurry. Small later H unplugs so that the head prepares, took the quota of people of this lab.
This issue is very large to my blow. My whole department from undergraduate course the first, the reciprocal that becomes a lab minute minutes the first.
Anatomize discovers not hard, this kind of situation that I encounter is very normal. When elementary school, the student of we and whole town competes; When the middle school, we and the student that visit completely compete; Went to an university, the student of we and whole nation competes; Arrived Stanford this kind of top college, we are in in the as most outstanding as the whole world student already competition.
Shawn Achor of researcher of psychology of haing Buddha university once was on a class joking to his students: "If My Calculation Were Correct, 50% Of You Will Graduate Below Average (if my computation is right word, the half in you will graduate with the achievement under average level) . The half in you will graduate with the achievement under average level) ..
No matter how these students are outstanding, come to top college, the 50% meetings in them become difference to be born. No matter you are accepted, this is reality. Accept this fact some earlier, your student career can become some happier.
Opportunity is greater, the person of angle is more also, pressure also increased subsequently.
But you had thought, this word also can come over to tell: Pressure is greater, opportunity is greater also.
Above all, be in Stanford university, no matter how your grade is poor, also be a whole world before 1% medium. Will to school of this kind of top class name read, itself is a kind of honor. Unlock eye, you can discover so you are how outstanding, how lucky.
Next, one of advantage that read in top university are OK associate with all sorts of friends. Regard classmates as with its competitor, be inferior to regarding them as the comrade-in-arms in entrenchment. Your friend circle administrative levels is higher, your administrative levels is higher also, not was necessary to be mixed with talents 2 generation people competition. Make friend with them, seek their help, learn to them, your life can become better and better.
The gender can be not compared between person and person
The educational system of contemporary China very advocate the comparison between person and person. In the junior high school on me when, our class is met according to achievement pew. Every time after the month is taken an examination of, the fellow student with good achievement chooses a place first. No matter height, it is good to want result only, can sit casually. When our class has, can appear big tall take the first, small short a comical picture that takes last.
China has an adage: "The person compares a person, gas the dead. " believe a lot of people can be in the heart silent reads aloud, it is with age person, why is I and their difference so big? Anatomize, this kind of idea is very absurd actually.
Between 1. different course undertake very hard comparative
Take biology for, do computational biology graduation is normally faster, and the finish school that does experimental biology will be a few slower. It is same fractionize field, the PhD of different country undertakes very hard also comparative. Need 5-6 in the United States for example year doctor, in England normally 3-4 year can read.
This kind those who cross national boundaries is interdisciplinary, heterogeneous changing is widespread presence. A lot of students take the person of oneself and another domain to compare. This kind is compared not only fine long hair is insignificant, still connect regular meeting to cause loss to proper pride.
A lot of people are met on classmate party the Eight Diagrams, hear of achievement flatly Xiaowang is become section chief, the pony company of slack by nature appears on the market, finance affairs is free, grow short ugly Xiaozhao was married a 2 generation, 3 villa were bought in Beijing. Then they think in the heart, I am cleverer than Xiaowang, more assiduous than the pony, more beautiful than Xiaozhao, why the average employee of I or company?
This kind " people goes, I also go " psychology in this society nowhere is absent, so that a lot of people see the success of others,get of course, see other people is finer than oneself envious unceasingly.
This is ill, treat.
Make an impertinent example, no matter how take exercise, the person flies impossibly high than the bird, swim quickly than the fish, jump far than the kangaroo, but I had not seen have whose jealousy bird, fish, or kangaroo.
The good qualities of the weakness that takes oneself why and others is compared, be inferior to the sober case that analyses others, learn from their body, design a Game Plan according to his good qualities again.
I had seen the PhD of major Stanford is very clever, special effort. This kind of specialty suits to become research sex position very much, stay in the school to be able to become a professor, go be versed in industry can do a researcher, bit bolder can do poineering work, choice range is very wide.
You had been an unusually lucky person, want envious others why.
2. life is a marathon, run quickly to be not represented run far
When I enter Stanford college achievement flatly. Truth says, right at that time oneself whether graduation does not have confidence very much. But pass indefatigable effort, I am finished smoothly inside 5 years rejoin, had sent more than 20 article nowadays (will have 7 the first writer among them) , a few articles still send the periodical in the tip.
After I rejoin, searched cowardlily on piece in the circumstance of mentioned Mr H and Mr S. At the outset they are more much better than me, after was being checked, discover however, mr H has not sent literary works of a the first author up to now, phD graduation is likely not within the foreseeable future. Mr S has suspended PhD and turn to become a doctor all right.
Life is very long, put eye a bit further. It where you are now is not important that where you are now, important is you 5 years, where be after 10 years even. Future is an unknown forever, want indefatigable effort only, the times that belongs to you always can come.
Successful cannot the palm accuses, but 3 methods achieve lucky air
I am in doctor the 2nd year when, the adviser received a very big project that cross a state, need many graduate student to participate in finish. There is one in the lab at that time the name is seasoned postdoctoral compare me with 3 tall doctoral student, adviser ground of follow a rational line to do some work well arranges them to make this item 4 times.
When the project is finished, these 4 learn to grew to publish two Nature with the identity that makes jointly, among them one still went up cover, and I can appear with collective author only however. I am very vexed at that time, if I am early,the heart thinks one year join a lab this are much better.
This kind of thing encircles common occurance in learning. Group of 2003 mankinds gene plans to finish, biology is red all over each world corners, because of,joined Hua Daji 2002 Yin Ye has become company CEO nowadays. So called the current situation makes a hero.
Read here, I guess some homecoming very pained, say in one's childhood pa Mom lets fortune-telling gentleman had looked, be born to suffer from a life namely.
Wait a moment! Tina Seelig of professor of Stanford college business school spent time of 20 years to study lot. To how letting oneself obtain lucky, professor Seelig summed up the following 3 methods:
1. walks out of comfortable circle
One year many before, I sit by a middleaged gentleman on the plane that go back to the motherland. General I won't strike up a conversation with the person by air, but the plane of 12 hours lets me do not sit a bit really.
A few brief introductions, I discover so this gentleman is the professor of college of medicine of American some university amazedly, and they fasten as it happens to have religion post is vacant, enrolling a person. After two months, I go interview, receive an Offer fortunately. Up to now I still teach a heart to put to this appreciate.
If our aboard does not have mutual introduction, this thing won't happen possibly.
2. learns to be thankful
Every person that has helped us has crucial effect on life road. Good intention person sacrifices oneself time will help us, if we are incorrect,they thanks, not simply odd disappoint their well-intentioned, they also won't reach the hand of aid later probably.
Expressive acknowledgment has a lot of kinds of kind, a simple acknowledgment is believed or one walks along the gift enough of the heart.
3. opens his mind
Gu Ge combines father to pull Lipeiji to had said: "Good Ideas Are Always Crazy Until They Are Not (good idea does not rely on chart at the beginning, be realized till them) . " arrive from a kick in one's gallop Project Loon the Google Glass of dazzle cruel, cereal song employee has all sorts of new idea. In these idea no matter perhaps fail successfully, employee is urged.
Award issued Nobel physics 2010 Professor Andre Geim and Professor Konstantin Novoselov, will commend their discovery to method of preparation of black lead Xi. These two scientists have a habit, be in namely every week 5 do a few interesting but look seem the test that is without a meaning, and this major discovery is among them one of.
Hear these case you can discover, luck is not rare. Newtonian apple is hanged on branch not merely, however full ground is. Want you to open one's mind only, encouraged, your luck will be perhaps better and better.
Epilogue
This article is very long, it is not easy to can read fine. In article fine, want to express the acknowledgment of from the bottom of one's heart to everybody.
A few results that what this article sums up is my doctor 5 years, sum up to everybody again.
Above all, no matter be in the school to still be in the company, degree or position are higher, the person beside is more outstanding, pressure also can be jumped over big. But this is not evildoing, because pressure is greater, the opportunity is greater also.
Next, the comparison between person and person the sense is not great. It where you are now is not important that where you are now, important is you 5 years, where be after 10 years even. Identify exact cause, indefatigable effort, the times that belongs to you will come eventually.
Finally, the success is very great one part leans lot. But should open his mind only, the heart is put appreciate, be brave in to try, your lot can become nicer and nicer.
Life is a marathon, the talent that runs to terminus is to win the home. Everybody is in this itinerary go up to lose way possibly, exit on the way, you were defeated. Hold a trend, indefatigable effort, you are become finally certainly win the home.
As " the game of the right " vermicelli made from bean starch, I want to use ending of a classical camera lens -- every graduate student is the Xiaolong that did not give case, pass Graduate School only this purgatorial merciless blaze, ability hatch becomes the firedrake of an invincible.
Wish everybody is enjoyed purgatorial, happy hatch.
