About the author
Brief · rich overcomes advisory division of two the author is American California university senior psychology and Lai Nuo pulls · Yuan. They begin from 1979, the person that it is the protracted disease in the student designed an organization to treat course, once appeared in " Aopula " in waiting for a TV program. In the meantime, " new York Times " " now the United States " " los angeles times " wait for media to also had done a lot of special subject about them to report. They devote oneself to to be organization of all-american student, company and public group to provide the service of cure and respect of special subject speech all the time.
About this book
The problem of protracted disease can affect each person almost. Two authors are based on them to seek advice from the rich experience that 25 years are as long as in the domain in psychology, made detailed, professional exploration to protracted disease. This book logic is clear, argumentation careful, straightaway, practicality is strong. On one hand, analyse the source that protracted disease forms and performance from psychological angle, on the other hand, explain from the angle of practice how conquer is protracted disease, offerred give up the practical skill of protracted disease.
Core content
About protracted disease, a lot of people are existing error, it is lazy that some people think, some people feel lose face. In fact, the author thinks: "Protracted disease from go up at all for, not be the problem of time government, also not be moral problem, however a complex psychological issue. However a complex psychological issue..
Drive the psychological issue of protracted disease patient for solution, this book is mixed from the analysis should analyse protracted disease to two parts. The first part, analyse the source that protracted disease forms and performance from psychological angle. The 2nd part, explain from the angle of practice how conquer is protracted disease, provided the practical skill that treats protracted disease.
One, 4 cause of formation that protracted disease forms.
Protracted disease person do not think at the beginning protracted, but be affected by the mood, was immersed in " protracted disease is encircled quite " , cannot extricate oneself. What Sidier ever had summed up psychologist mention to cause 4 cause of formation of protracted disease in the book:
The first, to successful confidence inadequacy causes protracted disease. If the thing is not so easy,finish, you can produce fear of difficulty, there can be a kind of sound and you to tell in the heart: "Put first put, say again later " , procrastinating to be not done. Or a thing has two plan, do not know to choose which good, with protracted replace an option.
The 2nd, be fed up with by person accreditation task. Some protracted disease person always hope him palm controls the job, when leader allocation task, if feel to do not have value, generate resentment very easily, caused protracted disease likewise.
The 3rd, attention disperses and easy impulse. If you do a business at ordinary times not quite dedicated, so time is met from point to to in seaming, escape, protracted disease also did not arrive oneself please.
The 4th, target and recompense too too distant, experience less than is opposite oneself have what sense, also can choose protracted disease.
As the development of research, two authors are in above on foundation of 4 cause of formation, discovered again more accord with modern two of protracted disease main reasons, it is respectively " fear to fail " and " fear to succeed " .
"Fear to fail " person, the trouble is immersed in after can fearing to act, fear short of requirement, fear oneself are not accepted by others, so protracted disease became very good protection.
"Fear to succeed " person, him concern can harm those successfully to do not have successful person, feel owing family, so oneself do not succeed intentionally, protracted disease after all. This kind of protracted disease that fears to succeed person, often be a completist. Expect to oneself exorbitant highbrow even, ultimate responsibility is aggravating, protracted disease became the instrument that breath.
2, conquer is protracted the 3 big a magic weapon of disease and two subtle move.
Conquer is protracted the 3 big a magic weapon of disease:
The first, the society judges time.
Want to prevent protracted disease, you must make a plan. Decompose your target smallish, specific small target, little cause is reached easily, can accumulate big target.
The 2nd, the society is accepted and refuse.
The society accepts what had happened, bad thing or backward reality, thing already such, protracted disease goes down also no point, go seeking the means of the change. When you no longer kink these, the thing changes since the meeting. And when you do not want to do a business really, refuse decisively, you should protect your time.
The 3rd, the body that uses you reduces protracted disease.
Movement is right protracted disease person particularly useful. The body that motion can invite you is moved rise, the cerebra that lets you looks brand-new, can handle those to waiting for the thing that you go to handling at any time. Consider to make clear, exercise is done before handling thorny issue, the effect is much better, the brains that after taking exercise, a hour controls you will be more sober.
Conquer is protracted two of disease small subtle move:
The first, do not want to finish whole thing at a draught, begin to do simply. All things start is bad, once opened a head,stop no less than coming. When you do not know how an article is written, you want to begin what do to write namely, no matter what write. Once valve open, the character can resemble water emerging euqally.
The 2nd, not chronic ground looks for excuse to come protracted disease. Picture " I became tired " , " hungry " , " very busy " , " very irritated " , " later redo " these excuse can be found forever. You should think so, I am tired, so I write a report with 15 minutes only, next I rest a little while again. You are OK and protracted, you also can act, even if in your heart uncomfortable, you still can act.
No matter you are the person that the person that spend protracted disease gently still weighs degree of protracted disease, begin what you need to do namely. Not too pursuit is perfect, abandon those needless things, the circumstance can produce a change.
Gold sentence:
1.Protracted disease from go up at all for, not be the problem of time government, also not be moral problem, however a complex psychological issue.
2.The 4 big reasons of protracted disease: Insufficient to successful confidence, be fed up with by person accreditation task, attention is moved with Yi Chong dispersedly, target and recompense too too distant.
3.Protracted disease is mode of a kind of behavior, be by element of psychological germ, biology and life experience 3 person interweave together to form. And make change and society a kind of new behavior pattern, it is the process of an advance gradually.
4.The person of protracted disease often did not realize he is a completist, to prove oneself are enough and outstanding, their do one's best accomplishs the thing that accomplishs impossibly.
