Did not try hard in the holiday,
This is what masking your inferior quality is assiduous.
The society tries hard really,
The get twice the result with half the effort with true ability,
Encourage!
The person often says: A minute cultivated a minute of results, should try hard more only achievement affirmation is better than others, assiduous may not is successful, but be destined not conscientiously to fail.
But, why some students obviously very hard, is result bad however?
Because, they may be in holiday study, false effort, we are occasionally so called " hard " , cause by oneself ignorance nevertheless. So how to change, how does Mom audition a tree say! Look to remember sharing friend circle to let more parent see ~
One, adult and child, likely " false effort "
Discuss this issue with everybody today, actually I got a lot of people inspire, most what inspire me first is a in the class little girl, this little girl takes the first in class, particularly clever, quiet, clever even arrived the teacher is met the degree of oversight. But be in in final examination, her achievement very not ideal. The child's father can look for my illicit to chat later in the parent: "The child is common very obedient, why is achievement not ideal? " I also wondering, say: "Such, we observe again, in your observation home, I survey the school. I survey the school..
Through two weeks observation, we discovered the problem of this child:
When the school attends class, no matter the teacher is in lecture, reveal PPT, query... this girl is in mark note, even occasionally, the teacher turns over PPT faster, she need not read an edition, staring at screen only, next apace is written down;
And the information that the child's father feedbacks is, she returns the home everyday, can close oneself in the house, with a very delicate notebook, by day the note of each division again copy out arrives on this notebook, till the late night.
See this, everybody should have discovered the problem is in, it seems that, this girl really very assiduous, very hard, but in fact, as a result of the method not proper, her behavior, namely a kind " false effort " , the effort that disables namely.
Next, inspire me still have friend of the colleague beside me, kin. These adult also complain via regular meeting, oneself worked to make old, everyday very busy also, but working ability does not have promotion. It seems that, these people are very painstaking also, squeezing the subway to go to work every morning, come home in the evening cook, but N after year, his life condition still may be such, it doesn't matter progresses.
2, inferior quality is masked conscientiously those who fall is really lazy
We often by the assiduous becloud of a few inferior quality double eye, feel this is in hard namely, and a lot of moment, of inferior quality mask conscientiously below, just be really lazy. Be two kinds of types below " lazy " :
1. limbs is lazy: The student with lazy limbs, attend class not to love start writing, like to use an eye, think with brain, the exam is constant constant have grandiose aims but puny abilities;
2. uses a brain lazy: With the student with lazy head, it is mechanical ground marks note, brush a problem, and not " consider " , not " take a heart " .
The little girl that we say above, be a model " cerebral lazy body is diligent " learner, I think such child is very poor -- when others learns, she also learns; People plays, she still is learning, but finally, her achievement still plays the child that the edge learns as family edge. Did not play already, did not learn from good examples again, so, such " assiduous " , we must avoid.
My constant sees a kind of such children, they are learning and behave particularly leisurely on the life, say simply even if -- also play, also learned. Because they are cleverer,this is not certainly, use the time that attend class very because of them however " take a heart " , in significant time, the business that does this was finished, naturally more times abound his life. We are discussed below, what is true assiduous.
3 what is true assiduous?
1. does right thing in right time.
This time of dry what does what, need not invest all time to study.
2. is good at thinking, be good at summing up, be good at discover a problem and be being solved.
Some children attended a class, learn to what went up one day very, did not raise a question, but " sure " was met really namely? Actually also may not. A lot of moment, "Sure " just proves the child was not understood, in blending in classroom, just think, to the domain that you do not know completely, let you quiz, can you ask? Of course cannot.
So, to the child, we must want to guide him himself to think, go discovering a problem, such ability education give the ability of own study, ability accomplishs businesslike study, is not to spelling assiduous appearance, make false appearance, scamping. Say like that adage in that way " go to work do not exert oneself, exert oneself not yield results in work. Exert oneself not yield results in work..
Think first please before 3. is assiduous
My weak division and powerful family are respectively...
The weak point of my weak division appears in...
It what my study is used to is good that what my study is used to, what bad...
What problem exists in my current study...
What is badly in need of solving, what I myself can be solved, what must appeal at the teacher...
4. does not take time to measure assiduous
Our parents must avoid an error, think to want child from morning till night to sit before desk only namely, namely " learn well " , namely " assiduous " -- learn for long to not be equal to deepness to think, also differred to go in at learning.
Studying a possibility for long is to be in those who be without a meaning to brush a problem. The not likely that brush a problem is good, in some learning that be born even if brushing the process of the problem, , two, the 3 mistakes that repeat oneself everywhere, this is very terrible.
Because syare blankly,long study may be, talk about Q, see a mobile phone. So, children are not performed again please assiduous, the parent pays close attention to the child to discern please assiduous true bogus.
4, what is efficient effort?
1. is reasonable allocate energy
This are very important, what is meant by " reasonable allocation energy " ? Choose to be when him energy is the most exuberant namely do the most important thing, those who achieve time and energy is optimal match. We say a lot of time " a day plan in Yu Chen " , most person is to be in the condition when just getting up in the morning is best. But this also is not treat as the same, some children may be after dinner, or at 9 o'clock, status just can be received after 10 o'clock. So, here, we do not have uniform schedule, the groove that the parent wants to know observation child adequately is in when, want to respect body law of the child, cannot force interference, ability can accomplish get twice the result with half the effort.
2. does which thing clearly first
Come home everyday children have a lot of to learn the job: English word, chinese ancient prose, science department exercises, error correction, review, prepare lessons before class... some children come up to begin carry a word on the back, carried on the back a little while, remember maths has experienced exercise in school work, put down English, wrote maths a little while, remember Chinese teacher decorated prepare lessons before class again... busy one in the evening, however whats did not finish, also did not do good. My proposal is, before beginning to learn everyday, must have a general plan, of set good job " first step " .
Review preferential.
After coming home, the focal point that said the teacher that day first, with " cross the film " the form is recollected, have punch-drunk place, clutch certainly read a book, aggrandizement memory. Such practice conduces to us making clear a key in learning a process, make clear a method.
Fulfil preferential.
No matter made what kind of plan, fulfil be more than everything. Fulfil the important knowledge drop that has explained on teacher class first, go doing work, do an exercise.
Error correction is first.
Below the premise with certain gross, wrong less and less, those who be opposite is inevitable increasing, repeat err the inertial thinking that can raise a mistake, future trouble is boundless. In error correction process, want an analysis to give wrong reason above all: It is knowledge is deficient in, still be used to bad; It is the method must not be become, is integrated still ability defective? Do after understanding, the back of this back, the nurturance of this nurturance, the change of this change. Still have, want to correct memory in time, boycott inertial thinking, be absent same a local trip two.
3. does right thing in right time
Attend class be about to be given priority to in order to listen, give priority to in order to understand, it is in order to write down complementary;
Usually, the teacher can be in 25 minutes of time on the class, tuitional new knowledge, this is most 25 minutes of gold, if be in this time, child sneak away, so the channel that he lost first-rate to get knowledge and time. So, the time that child energy focuses and teacher tell the time that gives elite knowledge not to match, scarcely of efficiency of attend a lecture will be tall.
Efficiency of attend a lecture is not tall, come home won't become a problem, want to pay more time cost necessarily, undertake " learn again " , and the germ that many time take lessons after school spends after class of a lot of children, going up at the class missed gold 25 minutes.
Train the ability that child attention centers;
Actually, foster child attention, should be the thing before school age. But a lot of children missed that phase, bring about when attending class, the time that can focus attention is too short, this needs conciously ego tie and outside force intervene, on a class 449 students, ground of very difficult reach every aspect of a matter reminds the teacher. So do the child and parent want how to be done?
From short to long training. Begin from 5 minutes, decide an alarm clock, inside the time that allows oneself to be in 5 minutes, become a problem, back absorbedly a poem, extend this time slowly.
Do not put the thing that makes you abstracted to be beside.
The person that has common language is far from when study.
When necessary parent company, remind.
How does church child mark note.
When attending class, give priority to in order to listen with understanding, it is in order to mark note complementary. And, note cannot reach every aspect of a matter, give priority to with key and ego characteristic. Avoid by all means one word not be born writes down next teachers all words.
Want to mark note with his language. The teacher may use a lot of professional term when attend class, real conference remembers the child of note, meeting the language professional term him translate into of the teacher.
4. has accurate method
The means is alternate, again much effort also is useless result. When learning English for instance
Back word
Wrong method: Holding the university entrance exam in the arms to show glossary all the day, the A word head that does not carry on the back forever.
Accurate method:
The word can be read first, go carrying on the back again, break up the whole into parts.
In the recital on the basis that understands a scene, touch scene new word.
Apply remember a law opportunely: Homophonic law, affix law, couplet idea.
Experienced audition
Wrong method: A day of an audition problem
Accurate method: And listen and read, in order to read experienced audition.
Always the person with bad audition, spoken language is differred certainly, because you are read,forbid, so you listen not to come out what is tape saying. My view is, experienced audition, must begin from experienced spoken language, through be being recited aloud, improve oneself speech appearance, the spoken language that becomes you is skilled, can accomplish read definitely, read quickly, institutional Lian Yin and swallow when sound, nature can be understood.
So, the method that practices audition correctly is, first thick listen, become a problem, go reading audition material next textual basis recording: Corrective oneself pronunciation, get used to canned language fast, imitate its to articulate, strive for accomplish flawless audition. A problem lets repeatedly, note circumstances characteristic, every word is understood every sentences. Use a data to acme, surpass ground of skimming over the surface to hear 100 stuff.
5. has exceed powerful executive force
The content that interprets in front, the likelihood lets everybody burn with righteous indignation, but light has glow insufficient still, let learn enthusiasm to produce a magic weapon of the greatest benefit, it is executive ability, send everybody 6 words, hope you are clear, true overmatch, not be strong making a plan, go up by force in executive force however:
Made clear direction and method, go doing, difficulty also wants to do;
Overturn ego is an extremely painful process, expensive holding to;
Study cannot be a completely happy process, sure it is difficult, alone;
Study can bring you the biggest contented move and happy sense -- the process is more painful, the contented move after the success is bigger;
The overmatch on study has necessarily extremely tall dedicated the spirit that spend and perserves;
Tall dedicated spend and a magic weapon that perseverance is prospective success.
5, how is the parent helped?
1. is replaced with the examination interrogatory with the nag
Every parent wants to become the assistant on child learning road, but we want to notice, the attention on the action just is true attention, do not take the child's study seriously on the action, and use only complain to express with the nag " care " , also be actually a kind " bogus cares " . We should do have:
The article that the child writes is read;
The child's word is taken an examination of;
The child's examination paper breaks up;
See holiday coach have on the teaching materials of the class " human activity " trace;
The problem of child err asks him himself whether summary experience lesson.
2. money wants a flower to be on edge
The child's study, need beautiful money certainly. I am a teacher like that most, but also be the parent at the same time. I think all the time, give the beautiful money on child learning, cannot count consumption, and should count investment. In this process, we should be accomplished a bit -- get on money flower in edge.
Extracurricular take lessons after school and coach the data must not be had an insatiable desire for much, cannot blind, suiting ability is good sense.
Once begin to be about to hold to, once learned,be about to fulfil. The newspaper coachs a terminus that is not parent help child, however start. To attending class the monitoring of the effect is very important also. Communicate the feeling that attend class in time with the child, help child is evaluated coach currently whether does the class suit him, it is the job that the parent cannot neglect.
To child reading demand must not grudge. Want to buy book of book, try to win sb's favor to the child regularly, enlarge the child read a cover. The advantage that read, I am absent this give uncecessary details.
Write finally: Genuine effort, not be than who beautiful time more, who gets him cruel more miserable, find appropriate method however, cast next distracting thoughts, investment of systemic a person's mind goes doing a business. It is very easy to cheat others, it is easier to cheat his, but it is a bit difficult really to should deceive this world, your place is owing, still can come back both the principal and the interest one day eventually.
