Today's course, let us discuss order in sequence or arrangement of one conditions or feelings of the lower levels, this all the time does not leave the psychological reaction of our left and right sides, what effect does daily to us life have?
We envisage a such setting now first:
There will be a major examination tomorrow, you are arranging the thing that should use on examination room, pen bag, watch, glasses, Id, standard textual criticism... hum? Where is standard textual criticism? Where went? How to disappear? Then you are on the desk, searched a few times to was not found again and again in the house, this is begin in the heart a bit confused.
Spent half hour again, you still did not find standard textual criticism as before, right now your face has gone up aglowly, sweat from forehead gradually ooze come out, be clear about in your heart, this situation is a bit serious. How do this do? Which to put after all? Right now you, fretted unceasingly, be at a loss what to do however, had been in immediately the brim of out of control, how can be you done next then?
You may have the following kinds of show:
Depressive -- put the sentiment of nervous, angst in the bottom of the heart first, bear temporarily come down, bearing a tear next, shaking a hand to call to the teacher.
Retrorse -- allow textual research to had been lost anyway, although anxious and clinking, but now also is to do not have method it seems that, that broken jar is broken fall, was indifferent to.
Retreat row -- you know, affirm the exam that do not have a law without standard textual criticism, then your have no alternative, be at a loss, inside the room that you develop parents later, cry aloud.
Sublimate -- you are ad cool-headed and sober the ground solved a problem, and meditated deeply oneself mistake, admonish next oneself, same mistake also cannot appear again after.
Besides what afore-mentioned saying outside these, you still can have a kind of our most familiar show possibly, complain endlessly namely. You complain parents reminds you to check without breakfast, blame the exam system of the school, why should do " standard textual criticism " the thing of this kind of strange flower, you blame a fellow student, blame an exam, blame the school... abreact the dissatisfaction in the heart to go up to other person or content, will reduce the burden in him heart with this. This kind shifts psychological responsibility the action to others body, be called to transfer on psychology. These a few kinds behave mechanism of defense of the psychology that be called, it is initiate of heart of You Fuluo Yi, those who point to is it is when people when the difficulty in facing the life, to reduce inner anguish, and of generation dissolve a method. Today, we chat first " move " this psychology.
Respecting mood is transferred, the most typical and interesting example is about " the effect that kick a cat " story. This story is chain of shift of a mood actually: The boss is opening the car that buys newly to drive in the overspeed on the road that goes to a company, the result is captured by the police, after was being taught, left to punish sheet. In boss heart very rusty, after he indignant returns a company, nowhere go flat, call the selling manager office model then, the selling manager is indescribable by rebuke, in the heart very grievance, utterly discomfited ground to secretary find fault in a petty manner, the stubble that the secretary that skinful enrages looks for an operator. Innocent operator is OK without the person go flat, dare not offend a client again, after next coming home, scolded a son, the son is rusty and clinking, strong oneself cat is firm firm one foot, the cat screams, jumped from the window.
This infects a process with respect to the bad mood that is a model, in daily life, our nerve often lies nervous condition, psychology bears ability is very flimsy, not satisfactory bagatelle, the likelihood can let your mood erupt, and in the process that infects in the mood, you may be an among them link only. Because do not know the casuse and effect of incident, you can feel the mood of others comes indescribably, and oneself also are infected because of this kind be pulled by innocent ground in this chain. Think on psychology, no matter be openly mood or negative sentiment, metropolis along chain of human relations in society ordinal deliver, and negative sentiment is normally from grade tall to grade low, by arrive by force to be delivered infirmly. Those who be in pyramid bottom is the puniest person, often become final victim, for instance " the story that kick a cat " that cat in. Because those who be a person is subconscious,this is, it is this jumping-off place that I am based on protective ego as before, meeting choice abreacts negative sentiment go out, in real world, people will be subliminal abreact this kind of mood to do not have masty to oneself, compare oneself puny person namely, because they do not have the ability of backstroke, this namely why the person of pyramid bottom is injured the most easily.
Had turned round to look again, in this indignant chain, you are likely the person that since bears, also may be the person that deliver at the same time, although what you make the original intention that is not you at that time, but you still were done not self-consciously, later if do not have a course to think over, this kind of circumstance meets the likelihood circulate ceaselessly, such you can be immersed in a fast knot possibly: Next ceaseless compunction, ceaseless follow the same old disastrous road.
So, the process that we develop from incident itself will look, since annulus annulus photograph buckles the transmission catenary of this negative sentiment, so as long as among them a link is cut off, whole chain also subsequently fall to pieces. How that turns round this situation?
In psychology, mood management is a very main courses, the mood makes the feeling with our the basiccest everybody reacts. And the force of the mood is very powerful, because,be only too too common, so we often are met at ordinary times oversight it. Once become when mood shedding suffocate suffocate is serious, the thought of any impulse, destruction is met from individual the most fragile part spew comes out, this moment, all metropolises become irretrievable. Conduct oneself in society in humanness actually on, our individual value greatly, reflect was in we go up to the management of the mood. If you still cannot dominate your sentiment well now, perhaps say you had realized the value of mood management, but the word that still cannot run seriously, ask you to follow us, will learn how to promote your mood value:
One, become aware your mood: Loosen the body now, make oneself static come down, feel the state of mind of your instantly slowly next, no matter it is quiet, of sadness, depressed, still be angst? Close an eye, experience the sense of reality of your heart to suffer attentively. Do not generate any inimical sentiments, because any moods are your one part, should learn to face it honestly, admit it.
2, the sentiment that understands you. There is on psychology " ABC " academic, among them " A " represent a certain event, "C " the mood that represents us, so, what is there to concern between A and C? For instance " this incident lets A I feel very sadness. " so the sentiment that C generates namely, namely sadness. Looking roughly is the happening that A brought about C directly it seems that, but did not forget, such saying have a word: "The arsenic of armour, the sweet candy of second " . Before A and C, have a bridge actually, it is B. B is us the acknowledge to incident A, and its this ability is the immediate cause that causes mood C. This is why same an A, can have different C.
We will cite a case. For instance, you attended an exam, achievement came out, you still differ 3 minutes from target mark.
We will look, you may how look upon this thing?
If you think: Take an examination of this because I am too careless,be bungled is, this is particularly big to my life influence, everything my was finished. So you can generate self-condemned, compunctious, depressed sentiment possibly.
But, if you think: This takes an exam namely just, I had endeavored, besides is taken an examination of this the opportunity is done not have after was bungled to be not represented, next time I must better adjustment condition, avoid error. So, you won't generate so much negative sentiment possibly, be full of fight ground to receive however take an exam the next time.
You can see, face same a thing, the mood that you may appear to differ completely reacts, because you are right the acknowledge of this thing is different.
3, the mood that changes you: The experience that what B represents is individual life, viewpoint, viewpoint of value reads aloud, if want,promote our mood value so, be about from B proceed with, because C is direct,be affected by B. We will cite a case, xiaoli and small Wang Yi are the same as smallness company, xiaowang rises job recently, xiaoli's heart is lopsided, often speak ill of Xiaoli in the company then, xiaowang to this matter, original some are sad, the course thinks seriously, xiaowang is clear, this is Xiaoli drop produced in the heart, inner dissatisfaction and jealousy, need abreacts, so ability can missay everywhere, should have done the thing of own one's duty only so, treat another person sincerely, the heart is met gentle. won't again kink at temporarily gain and loss, vexed also become self-confidence with respect to can direct changeover.
In the life, we do not hope we establish too much enemy, but be in not self-conscious in, your subconscious meeting tells you: You need an enemy, the action of this enemy, let you admit that you to not be willing to face namely oneself. Actually we are fed up with, detest, negative is not others, just is ourselves. Accordingly, conscious, understanding, change a mood, it is a process that admits oneself gradually actually, what you change is pair of some thing, a certain person not just unscramble, more important is, promoted ego acknowledge and value.
Above is entire today content, thank everybody listen attentively to, thank.
