Ceng Guofan can say is history a miracle that go up, gift is fatheaded low-born, still can be in the late fine political situation of foul atomsphere stand firm foot, not only the feel just like a fish in water that pay attention to one's own moral uplift without thought of others mixes again, this " competence of exceeding lofty or great " , must let person admire.
Do not say idea of neat home of cultivate one's morality today, will ever conducted oneself in society often a little result, can close in official circles put freely, the look is fairer than him very perfectness the way of the world, this not, ever period of old old age summed up to get along with the person 3 abstain from greatly, we will understand.
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One, self-righteous, do not hear the talk of other
The person that everything can become a major issue, all be can modest, Jing Xinzhi's person. Because of modesty, can listen to take the advice of other people, wide accept expostulation, reasonable analysis advantages and disadvantages, sober and sensible recognize is actual. Because of modesty, learning all the time so, innovating all the time, won't drop out.
Most those who abstain from is, obtain small result with respect to forget oneself, defiant, feel oneself are very fierce. This moment heart is full, a bit turns to be not entered, sure meeting fall.
And, this kind of person is the easiest also associate with caustic is friendly, when developing, adulatory person cans be found everywhere, abjection, adulatory person is met absolutely scramble for sth, but before had offended the person that takes fine word to you, be destined is bleak and helpless.
2, love defend oneself by sophistry very, everything is contended for surely be defeated win
In the life, always a person likes bicker defend oneself by sophistry, it is unjustifiable also can earn 3 minutes, won't approve the view of other and idea forever, it is to make a person helpless very.
When you and person chat, the be left without an argument that you say other people, oneself are completely one-up, won the battle of this talking around, conveyed popular feeling however. The be left without an argument that your people says, the affirmation in family heart is uncomfortable, did not want to come and go with you again for certain when necessary next time.
The person is surpassed on utterance, can make a person much to you increase complaint only, changing think of a way is very god-given, use only go confirming with real operation, perhaps talk about a problem down the idea of the other side, ability is popular.
3, the mouth does not have block, do not read aloud other people to experience
This is the expression with typical situation small business, to abreact the place in him heart thinks, a bit ignores avoid other experience, also do not care about other people happy. This is not candid speak bluntly, had not talked however cerebrum, do not respect a person.
Ceng Guofan is pensile inside him hall hall a board, writing above " Shen Yan " , out of the mouth comes evil. , our conversation works to want to pass consider one time, ability goes deciding. When you conversation handles affairs, can begin to scruple other is experienced, when accomplishing conversion to think, the person that is willing to work together with you will be increasing.
When interacting with the person, escape this at 3 o'clock, know modest low attitude, think with Rou Kegang, conversion, no matter be the life or job, you can feel more and more handy.
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