I have a happy thing, want to say to listen to you, let you be the same as heart of my one step aside;
I have the thing of a lose, want to say to listen to you, hope you understand my lose;
I have a furious thing, want to say to listen to you, hope you experience my affliction.
01
Lin La discovers the feeling of that pair of couples of management food store is really good.
That is a sunshine is bright afternoon, the Lin La that tone rests clears away good room, wash the clothes that a week piled in dirty clothes basket, considering husband and the course that the son loves to eat at the same time next, come to downstair food store at the same time.
Either buy food bit, there is her only in food store a guest, the boss sits leisurely at the back of the counter, the proprietress has one to build did not build the ground to placing green pepper and potato, two people are chatting with home town word.
The boss says: "The spring of Xi'an is very strange this year! It is minutes of a year season at ordinary times, good this year, light is a spring demonstrated with respect to the weather Chun Xiaqiu winter. Light is a spring demonstrated with respect to the weather Chun Xiaqiu winter..
The proprietress is very interested in the ground to say: "Be, you do not know, when tomb-sweeping day, adjoining eldest sister goes river of short for Weihe River plays, wore a thin cardigan, the face when coming back freezes green. The face when coming back freezes green..
Boss laugh, say: "Still had calculated this summer fortunately, cooler. Cooler..
The proprietress agrees immediately, say satisfiedly: "Be, heat issues a rain a few days, this temperature is too comfortable really. This temperature is too comfortable really..
Lin La raises tomato at the same time at the same time interrogative: This couple should get married quite old, the son goes up elementary school, but how can they have so much word to say? The issue with large sesame seed also can say to get in spirits actually!
Weighing tomato, suddenly double eye puts the proprietress to say solely: "River of respecting short for Weihe River, I have a hair small live in river of short for Weihe River by the side of, I often go to her home when 945 years old, river side has a lot of water bird... "
The ground sees boss with a smile on one's face proprietress.
Lin La becomes aware get hot eye, this where is to chat, it is be passionately in love clearly! And how long is big Zhao of oneself and husband done not have so had talked about a day? Perhaps be a year, perhaps be two years, perhaps be longer.
02
Firm love at that time, lin La and big Zhao Ye have the word that does not say. They are the small white-collars that duty field enters first in those days, lin La and parents live, big Zhao is in from Home Lin the place of two stations road rented a rented house.
Date every time, big Zhao sends Lin La to come home the most interesting:
Take entrance of Home Lin La, two people still feel to did not chat enough, then the hand pulls a hand to turn back, send big Home Zhao Hui by Lin La. But arrived the rented house of big Zhao, the word still did not say, then, big Zhao You sends back Lin La.
If have in those days can of scale distance walk software, you can discover two people keep drawing fold line along a road everyday, and of this fold line in the sky it is happy, the word of trifles, saw the person with a strange looks by subway that day for instance; In the friend who who is the most humorous, said how the Duan Zi of amusing...
Which resemble now? !
Now, lin La and big Zhao marry 9 years, elementary school also should be read after child summer vacation, the case of two individual speech is such,
Scene 1.
Big Zhao is leaning on the door of the kitchen, say feeling pleasedly: "This client energy is particularly big today, be together with him specialty knowledge. Be together with him specialty knowledge..
Lin La loses abluent spinach in anxious past boiler, oily boiler is given out " " . One edge brandish wears Lin La scoop stir-fries, at the same time disinclination ground asks: "Oh, how many money can this sheet earn then? How many money can this sheet earn then??
Big Zhao says: "How do you know money? "How do you know money??
Lin La hits an egg to say at the same time in deft past bowl at the same time: "Good, change a term, can you help you how many forehead promote spent outstanding achievement? Can you help you how many forehead promote spent outstanding achievement??
Big Zhao face about went, play the mobile phone went.
Scene 2.
Lin La says despondently to big Zhao: "Husband, neighbour is used today pay software to buy a fruit, shook unexpectedly relieve sheet, 58! I did not shake however one wool money. I did not shake however one wool money..
Big Zhao Zheng works overtime to computer, attention is not complete on Lin La body, the eye sees ground face about walked along wife in a huff, just come out a moment ago word from the attune in memorial library, sent red bag of a small letter brashly to be an apology.
03
Lin La often thinks, this is the talking means of the old couple!
The word says less, work does more: Big Zhao hardship works to make money more, in order to assure domestic income; Him hardship works wash clothes cook, in order to make sure food and clothing lives comfortable, healthy, safe.
However, lin La feels marriage is like a body now. The body is in inferior health, we often do not know, but run with age person when what we see healthy vigor field marathon follows play like, and ourselves runs 800 meters breathless, know to have a problem.
The information of food store lets Lin La decide to recall the does not say for a long time word in marriage, let what oneself become big Zhao afresh talk about friend.
Apropos, humor of day of big Zhao Jin is very good, when having a meal, say to Lin La: "There is an auspicious thing today, made an appointment with with that client autograph that tangles the hardest unexpectedly.
If previously, lin La's heart is eating a meal to seeing the son body of TV early completely, in the mouth although wear with big Zhao Shui: "Oh, dishy. Dishy..
The eye is to look at a son however, now and then return can big growl: "Darling sits far, do not leave TV too close. Do not leave TV too close..
Can be today, lin La placed one chopstick for big Zhao the spinach of dry stir-fry before stewing that he loves to eat most, in spirits ground asks: "Husband dishy! How are you accomplished? Still have, that client tangles much harder after all, say quickly! Say quickly!!
Big Zhao filled electric gramophone to wait for Lin La to press like " switch " , he double eye put hullabaloo of smooth, hullabaloo to say one pile, and Lin La was driven completely also by the topic of big Zhao, feel the client pesters allergy hard a little while, feel big to Zhao is in charge of seriously to the job again a little while, and quite capable, can't help nodding assist to him.
Like fighting previously 15 minutes of dinner that settle a battle ate half hours unexpectedly, two people say the appearance of josh laugh lets darling feel incommensurate. Bub will play Lin La's hand, jealous ground says: "Mom, did not accompany father to talk, accompany darling to build building blocks. Accompany darling to build building blocks..
Lin La is pulled to begin to be pulled by darling, but 2 people of husband and wife are right look, there is brilliant to shine in the eye, long-unseen warmth.
They were returned again it seems that old before, although go straight towards a thing each in time going to work, but a few words after coming off work filled apart time to come back, he knows the interesting thing that she experiences, the difficult problem that she encounters to him also know sth like the palm of one's hand.
04
From this, lin La very watchful beautiful time and big Zhao Liaotian.
For instance: Block a car up today, what did when blocking a car up, he do to come untangle be worried? Is today's work great? What small episode is there?
In Lin La guide painstakingly below, the word of big Zhao becomes much rise, and he also exchange gifts, more and more considerate also to Lin La.
Next coming back that can help wash dish, shop of transient now and then flower still can bring back a bundle of good-looking flower.
The most important is: Hold the bagatelle of those blueness sesame seed gram in the arms to Lin La, he also can be listened attentively to patiently,
Say to did not grab the rapeseed oil that makes an activity when Lin La or some grooms the orgnaization tries the happy high tax that listens to 4 99 yuan, he stands high above the masses no longer the ground sends a red package, anounce the smile of understanding however, say: "Wow, really regretful! Cheer next time! Cheer next time!!
Everybody says the feeling of Lin La and husband is better and better, but feeling is better, lin La can understand thoroughly the key of the problem more:
Their marriage cans say nothing before, the biggest question is not everybody does not want to talk, talk to did not find open-eared ear every time however.
The hand is pulled to walk in years when us, became you to lay the person that hits the target to be familiar with most when other in part, when facing a topic, what our cerebra always turns around judge the other side to say first is a bagatelle or important matter, if bagatelle is met automatic oversight, then vacates attention to pay close attention to more important thing.
Encounter a client that has energy very much? Since the client has been in " in the bowl " , what still worries about! Signed one ticket large sheet? Had signed, the process is not important.
With pay software to pay, shake did not shake when award one wool money? How old a thing? Send 2000 spirit to comfort a paragraph to you.
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When such doing, we did not notice the other side and we talk is not to want what result, our oversight great much time, the other side needs truly in communicate, it is opportunity of affective of a drain only.
I have a happy thing, want to say to listen to you, let you be the same as heart of my one step aside; I have the thing of a lose, want to say to listen to you, hope you are understandable my lose; I have a furious thing, want to say to listen to you, hope you can experience my affliction.
And one pair knows open-eared ear, it is to the other side one releases affective medium of communication not only, also was to give love a channel.
Even if again small issue, because you are told, I can feel very great; Even if insignificant matter, because affected your mood, I can care very much.
Good marriage, need two pairs to be able to make money not merely, the hand that knows keep house, still need two pairs clever, the ear that listens attentively to seriously.
What assiduous both hands makes material is comfortable, and of the heart comfortable need however Trinitarian, that is:
Go talking with mouth, go listening attentively to with ear, go managing with sincerity.
