Civil | Fan Sheng is unripe
A friend told her to coach with me today the process that the daughter works, very break down.
She is told, myself also is very stupid, before I coach, I am holding the mood that understands her in the arms to go, but broke down to finally. She cited a case:
15+5, how much doesn't the child know. Mom guides the child ordinal ask about: How much is 15+1, 15+2, 15+3, 15+4, the child is ordinal reply: 16, 17, 18, 19. Next does mom ask how much 15+5 is again?
The child was cheated, say not to come out. Mom is anxious, repeat next 15+1=16 again, 15+2=17, 15+3=18, 15+4=19, how much is 15+5 equal to?
The child visits mother anxious, begin talk rubbish to be equal to 12? 17?
Fire strings together mom at that time came out, with respect to out of control, does she say the child how not have one's ideas straightened out?
We chatted later a lot of, mom's mood alleviates gradually, arrive a little finally, I say actually we read a title to the child, interference jumps over little child to be done weller, are you agreed with? She says is, I am agreed with, I observed. I say you explain more child can jump over a disorder only. She says yes.
Is this why?
We are returned carry dry on, when mom guiding answer, with 15+1=16, 15+2=17, 15+3=18, 15+4=19 will undertake introductory, build the acknowledge in oneself to go up actually. In mom's acknowledge, 19 later natural carry arrived 20.
But if the child returns the concept that did not master carry, she is to do not have method to understand, doesn't she also know to add full how should do? 15+1=16, 15+2=17, 15+3=18, 15+4=19 still is the carry algorithm of 10 less than substantially, with 15+5 not be same a category, in front also cannot derive the result from the back.
But mom's reaction was to derive really however a result: Your maths not have one's ideas straightened out, you are too stupid! The child by such judge be the mood with meeting huge generation, method job is being done not have in the mood.
Adult had a mood to do not have method to throw the job, more what is more,the rather that the child, the child also does not have method to throw study in the mood. Can feel more things look not to understand only, look to hit frown, can feel more oneself not have one's ideas straightened out.
The child absorbed this stupid, not the belief of have one's ideas straightened out, see the place that maths does not know later, perhaps encounter a setback, can appear automatically give me not to suit to learn maths, I am not the idea of this makings, meet only stupidder and stupidder.
To maths, actually the child needs to feel only, do a problem to won't see the result, feel, feel a few times more, a certain time with respect to have one's ideas straightened out. So parents wants little participate in, the child says won't, you can say with the child, that sees the result, feel. Believe him child has the capacity of study.
Have parent concern, one grade child, do an exercise, do not know a word occasionally, read how to know a problem to should do?
What does one grade child write to work actually! Do not write best. If you had not twisted the school, must let the child write, make the part of good yourself only. Only frank read a title, do not try to unscramble.
The child says: Mom, I what you read still am understood not.
The child's understanding may slant leave a problem dry, the key that become and standard answer are different, feel frustrate, you can respond to the child so: Baby, I see what you understand understand with the answer different, is defeat there is a place?
Hum, yes, these examination paper are a system, in this system, their apt understands so, such doing. You can try to understand issue them, also understand this next titles according to their means. Do a few times more later, know they are what covers a region.
The child can know, oh, I understand so right also, just follow standard result different just. But I know to do this work, need understands means to go according to this kind.
If the child says: I return mom was not to understand her why is this answer such.
Most 3 two, the child covers a region with respect to what be familiar with those exercises of the school.
If parents is unscrambled, build the acknowledge in oneself with respect to need, perhaps build feel in me child some is cognitive on, have cannot the risk of true understanding child, the child is afraid need spends more time ability to understand truly.
Actually, parents of a lot of moment thinks he knows the child, understanding child, also come from parental narcissism. The child developed which level, only him child knows, our observation is again fine, also do not have method to know the child all.
Let go let the child grow with his force.
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