As standard of living rise, more and more parents do birthday banquet to the child, the birthday dinner that some parents give the child purchase even can compares bridal spot. At every turn several yuan expenditure, and hundreds on 1000 yuan recompense, let originally simple birthday banquet bore the weight of overmuch and lay meaning, every months a few attend come down, also accentuated the burden of a few families. Many parents sigh with emotion: Such birthday banquet, let person be unable to stand really.
The birthday that wants to let the child is gotten too valuable, significant, have multiple choice actually. So, what kind of birthday banquet is just love child?
Recently, " luxurious does become a common practice of 10 years old of birthday do how? An elementary school president of Nanjing caused open letter fire of the parent " one article is brushed explode friend circle, also caused the resonance of many parents at the same time.
Child birthday banquet, do or do not do? And if where,the balance is searched to nod in growing meaning and favor come-and-go, satisfy the child's requirement already, cater to lay socialization again, became a difficult problem that is placed before the parent.
Children birthday banquet does more luxurious more
The cartoon arched door with hotel tall entrance, gigantic a photo picture, grow long red carpet from the door outside outspread all the time to preside a stand, if do not see the picture that broadcasts circularly on screen, a few meters balloon and flower arch allow every other the illusion that the person has a kind to enter bridal spot by accident.
This is Wang Fang the 2nd when attend inside a month " banquet of 12 years old of birthday " , "Young longlived person " fine jade fine jade the classfellow that is a daughter.
In emcee chair below, birthday song setting is happy in, fine jade fine jade fall in the company of father mother, red carpet has gone like just like star. "Young longlived person " read out 12 years old enunciative, bow to parents be thankful, parents sends word, family person pours wine to champagne tower jointly. The classmate's hurrah, the applause of relatives and friends, the birthday celebration that feels the ceremony dye-in-the-wood is pushed to the climax. When full-court lamplight goes out, 12 candles are ignited... in classmates with fine jade after fine jade each other gives a gift, segment of singing and dancing was entered on the stage, fine jade fine jade parents begins to propose a toast to guest.
Besides leading role different beyond, the guest of more than 10 desks is pushed cup change small cup, team of ceremony stage in front of follows the honored guest of the ceremony, let Wang Fang feel banquet of this luxurious birthday, do not have with the marriage dinner that often attends 2 send.
In north, do to the child " full moon wine " " banquet of one full year of life " more general. In recent years, "Banquet of 10 years old of birthday " " 12 years old of banquets opening a lock " also gradually much rise. Shanxi folk has 12 years old " open a lock " view, "Open a lock " the mark is worn the child enters teenager period. Compare important time node as, major parents is met in the child the fete when 12 years old of birthday is celebrated.
"Child birthday is to buy a cake previously, send a little gift. " in the memory in Wang Fang, the birthday the daughter is 12 years old ago " it is the family eats a meal together " . After the elementary school on the daughter, "There also can be child birthday to entertain guests in the class now and then, but also be a few classmates that be close friends commonly, also meet each other gives a gift. A few this years the child spends birthday, do more ceremoniously than wedding, along with the ceremony also when the river rises the boat goes up too, from inchoate 89, went up 500 yuan, 1000 yuan. " another thing that allows Wang Fang to headache, it is for company daughter chooses a gift to the classmate. "Want to have originality already, still cannot too cheap, need 89 yuan at least, of be on speaking terms still meet more expensive. Of be on speaking terms still meet more expensive..
Taiyuan advocate dozen " birthday of high quality children is engineered " manager of company Cheng surname tells a reporter, demand of market of banquet of birthday of Taiyuan city children is at present exuberant, if the word according to estimation of 100 people repast, clique of birthday of a theme is in 50 thousand yuan or so to average consumption.
The parent from numerous vie businessman add fuel to the fire
"The parent passes to the child now ' 12 ' , grander, stress ceremonial feeling not only, still ask interactive link and originality are engineered. " controller of company of a celebration of Taiyuan city tells a reporter, now the parent the birthday banquet to the child, had resented to sufficient Yu Jian is decorated oddly and be chaired. "Emcee is chaired, growing course VCR, parent congratulations, give gift, ceremony opening a lock, cent the link such as cake is little not. From the plan, chair, to program, prop, be decorated plus arena and photograph resemble at least 779 yuan waiting for charge to come down, the parent still can ask to make photo, film small film, it is not to have man-machine to film even. Banquet of a birthday costs tens of thousands of yuan, even 100 thousand yuan have, ostentation and extravagance is absolutely a no less than wedding. Ostentation and extravagance is absolutely a no less than wedding..
The reporter visited Taiyuan a few carry on technically the hotel of birthday banquet, the first ten days of a month in May makes an appointment almost completely full. "General need shifts to an earlier date half month above is booked. Belonged to busy season to book meeting more May, if choose Saturday day, need shifts to an earlier date a month is booked, the client that has special demand to hotel environment partly can shift to an earlier date even half an year is booked. The client that has special demand to hotel environment partly can shift to an earlier date even half an year is booked..
Birthday banquet does more luxurious more, the gift chooses more precious more. This also lets many parents feel already pressure becomes aware again but. Just do Ms. Liu of birthday banquet to the son, very tired very helpless. "The effect that the child suffers surroundings is bigger. Once there was the child to open a head on the class, everybody can learn accordingly. If the school and parent do not try to guide, the wind that can vie finally only is more and more serious. The wind that can vie finally only is more and more serious..
Birthday banquet, over- , still do not pass, this is the problem of a kink making a person really.
"The person all round passes to the child ' 12 ' , the classmate on the class also passes, be afraid that the child is subdued nevertheless, still do not think too too miserable and shabby. Besides is so old come, follow a ceremony to the family, must has a courtesy demands reciprocity. " mix from numerous psychology " be afraid of be in an unfavorable situation " state of mind, let originally simple birthday banquet bore the weight of more and lay meaning, the parent's vanity, vie psychology lets birthday banquet do more luxurious more, do to change more more flavour.
To cater to this kind of psychology of partial parent, a few businessmen roll out individuation to subdue Wu to solicit the business surely. Refine what serve with individuation to roll out as essence of life, the charge of birthday banquet also has the power of when the river rises the boat goes up too greatly. Cheng manager tells a reporter, they are OK according to child sexual distinction, age and hobby, the thematic group that provides more than 10 kinds of different styles such as Alice somnambulate elfland, young prince is right, engineer charge to differ to 50 thousand yuan from 10 thousand yuan only. "Professional and the cartoon star with rich birthday theme, distinctive pompon adornment, antic performance, lovely humourous, lively spot atmosphere, true group, make the birthday clique that belongs to oneself only be opposite for every child. Make the birthday clique that belongs to oneself only be opposite for every child..
The expert suggests to let birthday become more significant
Cross a birthday to congratulate this give no cause for more criticism, but the improvement as economic condition, a few parents place banquet greatly for child birthday, make " spend birthday " bless from the happiness to the child, evolving to vie each other is the method of dazzle rich accumulate wealth by unfair means even. Jump over to doing more however luxurious " birthday banquet " , is the child that serves as leading role experienced how?
In interviewing, just spend birthday last month fine jade fine jade tell a reporter, "The classmate on the class had a half to pass ' 12 ' , content is about the same also, meaning of it doesn't matter. " fine jade fine jade think, banquet of this kind of birthday " actually I do not want, it is father mother hope only so over- " . To hoping to a what kind of birthday spend? Fine jade fine jade the answer is " not luxurious but want significant " .
Original preparation does not pass to the child " 12 " Wang Fang, after the birthday dinner that attends Wan Qiqi, kink rise. In the Wang Fang that mechanism works, another concern is " the regulation of the unit " , "Be in charge of severely now, already somebody got disciplinary action. As far as possible low-key dot, preparation and child are communicated well, compensate in other side. Compensate in other side..
To " should do birthday banquet for the child " problem, shanxi Normal University teachs Yang Xiao of academic assistant dean to think, a significant birthday group is right, can keep good memory in the child's life not only, return the relationship between OK and harmonious classmate, help child grows better. But to the child character fraud is more than the fete that the adult changes benefit. "The child is lying grow development period, philosophy viewpoint of value also has not finalized the design. Of child birthday banquet vie, actually in the final analysis is the parent vies one kind of psychology is reflected, do birthday party, entertain guests receive the communication that this kind of typical adult turns the ceremony, can affect philosophy viewpoint of value of the child not only, also can affect the friendly feelings between the child's study and classmate. Also can affect the friendly feelings between the child's study and classmate..
"Birthday regards an important time in child growing course as node, we should take the opportunity, teach the child to know be thankful and cherish, know be kind to oneself and other, joy grows happily. If the child is satisfied blindly in materially, vie each other even, it is adverse to the child's character and disposition nurturance. " Yang Xiao suggests, the school or class can consider to pass the collective blessing, fellow student that calls the form such as birthday song to had been birthday to serve a blessing. Have the parent when discovery or the student appears to be held greatly when handling the birthday banquet, appearance that vies each other greatly, the school is responsible also make remind and standard.
"Can like according to the child's interest, the way that chooses rich souvenir meaning is celebrated for the child unripe. For instance, the child that likes to read a book can invite a classmate to hold a diminutive to read share meeting, the child that likes piano can consider domestic piano concert. Parents also can look after children to see a little girl to welfare courtyard, perhaps plant tree of a birthday is good form. Compare a luxurious birthday banquet, the birthday of one specific type, what leave the child probably is the memory of more happiness and the meaning that grow. What leave the child probably is the memory of more happiness and the meaning that grow..
