One often sings in the song: "A thousand li is searched hard is a friend, the friend became much the way is good go. " write in libretto of no less than in that way, in boundless and indistinct sea of faces, can encounter to be acquainted and become a friend, it is very few really, need profound lot, ability knot issues this paragraph of friendship.
In our lifetime, affirmative meeting encounters a lot of setbacks and cross, adversity sees the real situation, every time this moment, total meeting has friend station to come out to replace our rescue sb from a siege, bear together harships, become our warmest company. So, many friend, with respect to many road, on the road of advanced travel, we won't be alone, when harships will raid, we also dread no longer, it is painful to because somebody can help us one case,partake.
Nevertheless, affection of the what on this world is each other, include friendship. Mutual help is between the friend should, this also is the ligament of hold together friendship. The friendship between the friend is become even more mellow in be helped each other sweet deep.
But go up in this world, some friends are selfish, can ask for only do not want to pay, still have a few people, the flag that raising friendship lets you be being done do that, easily with respect to break off relations. And some are busy, it is the side is not gotten really, helped a meeting let his hold regret in the arms lifelong.
Between the friend, no matter friendship has many deep, below these 3 kinds are busy, beat dead to also fasten a side really, can regret only otherwise.
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Those who surmount him capacity limits is busy, do not want to help
My boudoir sweet Lan Zi has shared a paragraph of her experience to me, I feel to be here very convincing. Lan Zi has a high school fellow student that plays very well, the city that although read aloud university and job to be in,differs, but two people still lie between 3 difference 5 connection, love is deep in that way like full sister. Once, that classmate midnight calls to Lan Zi, say her mother be in hospital needs brushstroke money, let Lan Zi borrow her 50 thousand.
Lan Zi hears that figure at that time muddled dropped, graduate 3 years, enrage cost and life cost besides chummage water and electricity, her live frugaly talent save money 20 thousand. She very care about this Duan Youyi, final decision thinks method helps classmate happen by chance. Asked a few people, searched over there the fellow worker that employs very well from eventually 30 thousand, him along with deposit just enough.
Classmate originally acceptance returns Lan Zi after two months, but time goes one days a day, a bit activity does not have that classmate, lan Zi also feels embarrassed ask, be forced to keep looking for reason to pull delay time to the colleague. Half an year went, the work in the same placing's mother comes perform an operation in the city, be forced cold face lets Lan Zili horse return money. Lan Zi calls to the classmate, the classmate is unmindful, say to be in two days are returned recently, but when Lan Zi hits the past again, the friend also does not receive her telephone call again, with respect to Lian Wei the letter pulls her black. Finally, she must brush credit card, borrow to parents and kin, just block this cavity up on. But think of the classmate's fail to keep faith is mixed every time to friendship profanatory, she the heart is wrung like the knife.
Helping between the friend is of course, any friendship that did not undergo difficult test, it is loose, do not calculate even going up is friendship. But before help, must examine his conscience above all, this busy can you make oneself faint bear? Exhaust all-round, those who pay oneself is all, had been the biggest limit, but because help,let oneself overdraw, or drag in enters someone else, true too not should.
We must recognize reality, "Of course " it is a very big drawback in human nature. You feel you have made great efforts, but the other side won't be gone to at all that direction goes wanting, can feeling to regard a friend as this even is the obligation that you should use up. You give the sincerity of hundred and effort, the other side will be direct oversight your number, know you were helped only, only this just. So, it is OK to help, but must be inside him capacity limits, otherwise the one side that you can see human nature is gloomy.
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Those who violate virtue and morality is busy, do not want to help
Respecting friend, everybody can emerge for certain in brain such term: Have affection justice, each other side helps each other, the dependence on spirit, warm company is waited a moment, basic the term that is a few happiness; When respecting a gang of scoundries, everybody can emerge for certain in brain these terms: Join in the fun on occasion, indulge in dissipation, affected, duplicity...
So, friend from some justice is for the respect, warm status is symbolic, in you when deep-set mire, he can pull you to to disembark, when your go astray, he can go all lengths prevent you to err, persuade your repent and be saved. He is met be considerate ground is your consider, is not to be in in your depth when darkness look on indifferently to aid your a helping hand even, won't play the banner of friendship more, minatory you help him do a few things that violate virtue and morality.
True friend, he hopes you pass more fortunately than him, won't pull you to enter the water, won't go to you push in fiery pit, won't take friendship to embarrass easily you. Let you disregard virtue and morality to help sb to fulfill his wishes the friend of self interest, be worth to be handed in far from, this kind of person is selfish dark, can go in your drag in sooner or later.
Make friend inadvertent, meet only the upper part of the body of ask for trouble. When choosing a friend must sharpen one's eyes, the Lilliputian of those crafty selfishness, have many far hide much further. Goodness of justice of much associate with weighs affection justice person, the circle that you interact, not only the 3 view that can affect you, affecting oneself future even, must make friend cautiously so.
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Those who help a person make major decision is busy, do not want to help
In the person's lifetime, can face major decision a lot of times, be us choice, just made present life. That is to say, each issue lets our life possibly adapt, become additionally one kind of model. Especially those major decisions, to us this all one's life is having crucial effect.
It is when the friend between a few choices indecisive, when letting you help him make a decision, you must think reason declines, otherwise you can decide to assume for this cannot beforehand the consequence of appraise. In the day of in the future, he can complain easily, if you do not let him at that time how how, he won't fall to today this end. It is to help kindly originally, became a big bad wolf however finally, destroyed the happiness of his lifetime. Want, still hold out bad luck!
Change an angle to look actually, he is not to cannot make choice, assume the result that choice error brings without courage however. If you are foolish help him choose, final final result can be assumed only by you, he also can turn all misfortune to your head. Between the friend, anything is good say, those important decisions, he loves how to be chosen how to choose, the moment of truth fastens interference certainly, silent the safest.
Each other side helps each other between the friend, ability can make the tree of friendship evergreen. But 3 kinds this when above says are busy, it is to beat dead to be fastened really busy, who does help regret.
