Today is con gentleman accompanies you lifelong the 2041st day when grow
01
A few days ago, have on hot search such a news.
On May 2, on a motor-car, when the Li Mou of in front of is adjusting seat back of a chair, touch carelessly turn over backlash Yang Mou the water cup on teapoy board, water scattered Yang Mou to go up personally.
It is a bagatelle originally, dan Yang some has resentment however.
She cheats Li Mou to go toilet helps her handle, by the boiled water chance that motor-car takes directly later, took cup of an one-time paper, installed a cup of boiled water.
Be in boiled water from Li Mou's wind and right shoulder neck next, divide second dump to go down, cause scald of Li Mou much place.
More terrible is, incident explodes after coming out, return somebody to explain for Yang Mou on small gain unexpectedly, applaud even.
Still have a netizen, masses morality kidnap, Li Mou apologizes to be not waited a moment cordially all round assail, some does big Hu Yang well.
I do not know to publish the person of these words, just say casually, still think so really.
But the fact is, spill a person to already offended with boiled water criminal law, be extremely not sensible illegal behavior.
According to this kind of logic, if somebody scolds you, can be you hit kill each other?
If everybody is solved so, must be this society become in disorder what kind of?
Really, look from effluent video, masses somebody echoes sb so all round:
The family is bringing child inconvenience, the family is not careful. Do you want how to be handled now then? Took off trousers to blow?
These words, see atmosphere without delay not only apparently, incendiary instead Yang Mou's mood.
But, all these should not make the argument of her do evil.
Also can see from inside video actually, the schoolgirl of in front of has apologized, express to be willing to blow dry, go with her toilet, this affirmation is to want to solve a problem.
But Yang Mou, be controlled by temporarily mood place however, make so ultra conduct, pay severalfold price finally, the injury that injure a person oneself.
Someone ever had said a such words:
"An adult is uncontrollable oneself mood, that consequence may be disastrous. If let a mood control your cerebra, then you may lose those who regain consciousness to ponder over force, eye, psychokinesis, and the ability that solves a problem. And the ability that solves a problem..
Deep think like that.
Be born and be a person, the distinction with we and the most substaintial animal, do not depend on us you can dominating our behavior, sentiment?
Be controlled by mood place when you, make ultra conduct, what do you and animal still have to distinguish?
I think, a person's oldest incapacity, reduce the slave of the mood namely, be controlled by mood place.
02
Some closer year, because of the tragic that mood out of control brings, common occurance.
On December 27, 2018, public transportation when quickening travel, before one woman passenger goes up suddenly, fan driver spank.
Because this passenger oppugns a driver,collected a yuan of fare more only.
Later, the driver jockeys call the police, this woman by punishment arrest.
This year on May 9, the result came out, this daughter passenger is sentenced set term of imprisonment 4 years.
One yuan, spank, the prison term that changes, the stain of lifetime, price cannot say not disastrous.
On May 4, 2017, hunan a mom of 27 years old, the son that becomes good meal to cry 3 years old has a meal.
Cried a few times, the son still is considered oneself from playing, do not want to have a meal.
Husband is not long-term beside, what a person looks after children is painstaking, the child is not obedient still, she wants to jump over gas more, mood gradually out of control.
She called the son the toilet, at the same time loud and objurgatory child, the cuff and kick that annoys at the same time.
Who tells an assistant too heavy, beat dead oneself one's own son.
This moment, this mom just regains consciousness suddenly come over, the son had done not have reaction.
This mom is panic-stricken under, cut wrist commit suicide, think for company son goes together.
Wait for excellent person to discover, the mother child send a hospital, mom is saved came over, but little boy of 3 years old, also wake to come nevertheless again however.
Last year, chongqing inside some village, quarrel in the home to husband and wife.
The wife throws the door and go out, preparation drives leave.
Marital follow closely ever since, stand beside the car, break windshield suddenly, block the way she drives leave.
Result, wife mood out of control, one foot accelerator walks after all, strike the man dead.
After the event, this wife is vexed unceasingly, say repeatedly in police station:
"If at the outset, so not angry good. . . . . . ..
Tell candidly, make the person of these things, the hellion that is guilty of unpardonable evil? May not is such.
Their great majority just is in that flashy mood out of control, made mad conduct.
Say like place of that wife after the event: "If at the outset so not angry good. "If at the outset so not angry good..
Once the person is gobbled up by the mood, follow distinction of animal it doesn't matter, make the issue of unimaginably queer very easily.
And, major person is after mood retreat, can feel regret.
Regrettablly, the life is not teleplay, cannot repeat forever.
You temporarily out of control made conduct, those who cause is sequential, likelihood finish your lifetime.
Buddhist nun of no less than collects in " the other shore of good and evil " in be said: If the mood always is in condition of out of control, can be pulled by feeling nose goes, lose freedom.
03
" do not enrage a song " in have a such words: "Wisdom person dominate a sentiment with reason, impolicy person control reason with the mood. Impolicy person control reason with the mood..
In the life, temporarily mood above, a lot of people can have.
The key depends on, some people can look for his reason quickly, and some people are met however by mood place bondage.
As an eligible adult, in the instant that the mood is about to erupt, how should you look for your reason?
Want to share 3 effective methods with everybody today.
1, be far from accident dot quickly
A lot of moment, the outbreak of the mood is concerned with the environment all round, person beside.
Stay in old environment, can stimulate a mood ceaselessly, let a person more and more out of control.
So, when you him feeling annoys to acme, hard sober when, had better leave the person that makes oneself angry or environment quickly.
Trade a place, search the environment that makes oneself sober come down actively.
When after you feel to be returned to from personal reason, farewell goes seeking a means of settlement.
For instance, this motor-car spills boiled water incident in, if that lady at that time can of short duration leaves accident railroad car, come back again a little while too, her mood most propbably can alleviate many, maybe of this actuation incident that injure a person can avoid.
2, deep breathing, give oneself 12 seconds
Dr. Ronald ever said expert of American mood administration:
Consider to make clear, the anger like rainstorm, duration often does not exceed 12 seconds, everything is destroyed when erupting, but afterwards calm however, had controlled this 12 seconds, can untangle is negative mood.
Occasionally, because conditional place is restricted, it is for instance in the car, wait a moment on the plane, you cannot leave the environment at that time possibly.
Below this kind of circumstance, have again big fury, be sure to keep in mind to must give oneself the time of 12 seconds.
Because the person is when disposition is the most irratable, the made issue, word that speak, often did not think through cerebrum, it is negative disposition mood temporarily child.
Close a key point, give oneself 12 seconds, what redeem possibly is your future.
3, prescind force
Erupt besides instantaneous mood, also can have after the event " want to jump over gas more " circumstance.
Some people do not have reaction to come over at that time in the accident, or it is the mood did not get abreacting, result him after the event is unripe fuggy.
Hold back is worn, the possibility gives him hold back disease comes; Erupt, the likelihood injures innocent person.
So, face when you cannot when the sentiment that Shu interprets, the most effective method is, divert oneself attention.
For instance, go out go coming loose a pace, the movie that guard the threshing floor likes, become reconciled friend chats a little, let you possibly come out from the disengagement in negative sentiment.
Actually, when the person that sees mood out of control every time, I feel very terrible.
Because of that moment " Ta " , be one lost reason only, by the incompetent person that the mood operates.
After the event sees him the appearance at that time, a lot of people are accepted hard even.
I think, if can see oneself wild look beforehand, with terrible consequence, also meet with respect to nobody impulse created trouble.
Regrettablly is, if,the life is done not have forever, all consequence, you yourself also can be assumed only.
04
The person's lifetime needs to learn a lot of ability, among them a bit the most important, run the ability of the mood namely.
Con gentleman is in vocabulary entry of lifelong growing dictionary " 509: Mood ABC is academic " in explanation:
Arouse incident itself and can not cause mood consequence directly, the to arousing incident acknowledge that be based on oneself belief however and arises and evaluation, caused mood consequence.
Visible, same excitation incident, happen on different person, can bring different result.
One knows the person that manages a mood, won't mouth not choose character, at every turn beat snarl, make a person disturbed; One knows the person that manages a mood, won't pester blindly at sodden person sodden thing, make oneself deep-set lair; One knows the person that manages a mood, because little is exciting,won't be controlled by mood place. . . . . .
The incapacity with a the biggest adult, be controlled by mood place namely.
And the breeding of an adult the superlative degree, it is mood stability.
Be in like Aolisen Madeng " the capital of lifetime " in say:
Allow when to be awaited, a person should not become the slave of own mood, should not make everything acts him be enslaved to be enslaved to mood, and should dominate a sentiment conversely. No matter how circumstances is bad, you should control your environment hard, save oneself from inside darkness come out.
Encourage with you.
