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The child just went up nursery school is met then, the teacher often praises him clever, sensible, polite to the person, can have a bad trouble namely: Read a book every time, play a toy, had had a thing, always be a book, toy and tableware conveniently are thrown, not reductive do not say, still be not written down so that oneself put the thing where constantly.

At this o'clock I have feeling greatly.

Remember once, he comes back from nursery school, arrive home to turn over his toy ark with respect to ground of too impatient to wait. Passed a little while, he runs to ask I say, "Mom, where is my remote control aircraft put? Where is my remote control aircraft put??

The child always is conveniently chaos is thrown, look for a thing to cannot be found

I say: " be on toy ark? Move it without the person "

"But, was not found. Was not found..

"That did not know, where is yourself put? Common did the place that you like to put a thing search? Common did the place that you like to put a thing search??

Hint repeatedly in mine below, he was searched many times, but still did not find.

I sighed by, feel especially other and helpless, the family turns round him every day, not be to help him seek a thing, help him clear away remaining pieces namely. Sometimes myself also very feel puzzled: Should say also said, also scolded what should scold, why do the child or chaos put a thing? How is this to return a responsibility after all?

When often chatting with a few mom, they complain their child often drops about the thing chaos is put always also, clear away shipshapely originally, by the child so one do sth over and over again, get again farfetched.

The child always puts a thing in disorder, begin to scold him, can be old pattern a little while

Some mom say even, every time child chaos puts a thing, I begin to scold him, but the child did not grow ear it seems that, meet too, on the floor stack toy, book, it is has taken sock even...

Perhaps this just is an indisposition of the child it seems that, but the life that meets the child however in fact, study, and even the job in the future brings not little trouble.

Why so say?

Because be born to if,go up alive desultorily, sure meeting brings about the child the following study, job also can be without main threads of an affair, the person arteries and veins that still can affect him even concerns. So, parents may want to ask, since so important, that why does the child always lack a kind of consciousness that is in article replace formerly?

Why does the child always put a thing in disorder?

1.Do not have neat consciousness at all

Child chaos puts a thing, a lot of moment are optional. When he wants to use what thing, he is met very of the intention go searching, after find and giving out, such things are then right for the child, so not important, he can throw the thing in certain corner at will, had not thought of to want to be in article replace formerly at all.

For instance, the child should play remote control aircraft, he turns around search first to toy wearing is to be in have, after he is found and playing, the likelihood has a meal time arrived, at this moment, he can throw the thing, without giving thought to. So, every time when I clear away a room, always discovering is not much sometimes on desk an Aoteman, it is the head of a bed still hid a Thoms sometimes.

Do not go blame child, his original idea is not to want such, just 3-4 year old right-and-left child still does not understand at all, can yield thing replace primary point become neater in the home, and still can go to the lavatory oneself did not continue use.

Child conveniently chaos is thrown, get father and mother the impact is bigger

2.The effect that suffers parents is bigger

Some him parents did not hold neat convention at ordinary times, the thing in the home huddles, put in disorder, oneself also are seeking a thing constantly. The child grows below such environment, be influenced by what one constantly sees and hears, how may nurturance love is neat, diligent Where is the habit that clear away?

Home of intentional a Confucian school of idealist philosophy of the Song and Ming Dynasties says, the person is in children moment, behave besides love me-too nature, for instance the child prattles inchoately learn language, be pair of adult languages imitate. The child is born is a piece of white paper, pass just about imitate, just learned various skill, thought and behavior.

So, do not love when the child neat, when throwing a thing in disorder, parents should take care, is the child imitating you?

The child did not clear away a habit, parents wants compulsive child to clear away

3.Parents is cleared away without compulsive child

A lot of parents have a such idea: The child is small still now, understand how to be cleared away far from, etc after be brought up good, help the child had been cleared away first.

I also am to the child's manner at the beginning such, think the child is small, not sensible, everything always has a process, help him clear away first below. Still can bear 9 times, but slowly, I lost patience, I discover I am cleared away trimlier, the child " destroy " fiercer. Come down a few times, whole person sense broke down, gas makes one part scarcely.

Psychological expert points out, for the child that controls to 3 years old, litter at will, it is an issue that must want education, otherwise, let this kind of bad behavior very easily make a habit.

" openly certainly " in mention the Ha Zi that has undesirable action, it is value sense and attributive feeling are short of the child that lose

Be in " openly certainly " in the book, such saying have a word:

Have the child of bad behavior, it is value sense and attributive feeling are short of the child that lose. Most invite a person ah the child often is the child that needs love most. Be worth to love least of all when a child that is to say when, namely when we should love him most.

So, throw a thing to chaos, we should see essence truly through the phenomenon, analyse the reason with bad behavior real backside, avery kind of is undesirable the backside of behavior, hiding a kind of demand of the child, only you understood the real implication of backside of this kind of behavior, you help him, ability can let the child grow.

Since such, how do we help the child build an article conciously gone replace is in formerly, and does nurturance put the thing orderly good convention?

How does the child clear away his article actively?

Above all, parents is the child's example, want to make model to the child

At ordinary times when we are teaching the child, always give the child a few regulation with its, be inferior to establishing a model to the child.

For instance, if you always are accusatorial child:

For instance: " remember wanting a thing break! " remember wanting a thing break!!

" how to bilk a bed again in the morning? " how to bilk a bed again in the morning??

Be inferior to telling the child a few fronts and negative example, point out will to him look, why is telling him at the same time good in that way or bad, this compares you to preach purely absolutely more effective fruit.

Parents wants to remember, your every word and deed, can produce very big effect to the child, and this kind of influence often is exert a subtle influence on, clear away liquidating goods also is such.

If we want the child to had arranged the thing on toy ark or desktop, so be about above all an article in the home, the thing that includes oneself should be put orderly;

If we want the child,put shoe orderly, must ask oneself shoe did not take off optional chaos to throw above all;

If we want the child to be in has used thing replace formerly, above all must oneself should make model.

A word says well, " the force of example is boundless. " the force of example is boundless..

Example affects the child's understanding not only, return the affection that can affect the child. When the figure that when him the float in brain reveals ideal, can produce a kind of vast power from the heart, drive him to act in that way like example. The formation of this good to him moral character and development have profit.

Want to create a neat environment to the child

Next, create a neat environment to the child

We besides wanting to establish model to the child, also should build a clean, neat, systimatic family hard at the same time environment.

The family with an external neat environment, the child that education goes also is different.

The child is good probably natively, but arrived later, good perhaps, bad perhaps, it is the relation because of domestic environment. The environment is good, the child ameliorates easily, conversely, the child allows easy addle.

An extremely messy family environment, the child is optional the gender is big, easy nurturance works unconscionable bad habit.

So, create a clean and neat family environment to the child hard, how be done than telling the child only, more valuable.

Let the child form clean the habit that arrange everyday

Moreover, let the child form clean the habit that arrange everyday

We should have such experience: Clean a room everyday, the room is very clean, but if often be not cleared away, can become very dirty random. .

Liquidating goods also is such. 9 days messy be very easy processing, but the disorder that adds up everyday, can become send irremediable.

So, we can decide a custom to the child, undertake clear away and be arranginged in when everyday. For instance, before you can be with child agreement after dinner or sleeping, at the beginning, the child has not formed active habit, we can take the child to be cleared away together, in clearing away a process of course, can give the child taletelling, say break a jest is waited a moment, let atmosphere become a bit more relaxed as far as possible, OK even more interesting point.

Slowly, a few week hind, the child is met slowly the good convention that nurturance clears away everyday.

Nurturance a good convention, need time

In " psychology dominates art " in ever had said, "Nurturance a good convention, need 21 days. Need 21 days..

Actually, it is 21 days of it may not be a bad idea no matter, 60 days, it is the research data of one caboodle nevertheless, to the individual, we should turn to additionally one kind of condition from a kind of condition, can get the influence of a lot of respects, the likelihood is used to nice person, can accomplish twice, and some people, the likelihood was done all one's life, still do not do possibly also.

Discover when you him child was formed after clearing away the habit that arrange, you can discover he won't seek a thing in disorder again, because have these time, he can be willing to play a little while more more.

Anyhow, child chaos throws a thing and do not clear away, we can let the child change through certain way. But parents must create an opportunity to the child, after the child has been done, the encouragement with give the child certain even and praise, let domestic hour maintain a kind of good atmosphere.

The fact proves, it is only in a kind of harmonious atmosphere, the child can be willing to ponder over parental word calmly more, understand parental pains, be done even according to parental word, this, to his body and mind development is very important.