On May 10, city of the forgive on Jiangxi happens inside school of the 5th elementary school hold event of knife wound person, suspect Wang Mou builds suspect Wang Mou rushed to be interrupted into the classroom directly the teacher that attending class and classmate, stab Chen of student Liu Mou cause death.
On September 21, 2018, luck of Zhejiang lukewarm city installs elementary school of experiment of city grand hill leaf of schoolboy of 9 one full year of life is such-and-such inside campus by the father of classmate female classmate Lin Jiansha is killing. This year on March 1, lin Jiansha of the accused person is sentenced capital punishment, privative politics right is lifelong.
Not come singly but in pairs, small firebug investigates the discovery after relevant data, be in the United States namely, almost every 3 high school students have 1 ever by ride roughshod over, the student that the whole world has 15%-30% gets the influence of ride roughshod over, happen in the school for the most part among them, die even to limbs deformity from humiliate of mental scar, body, produce a lot of disastrous effect.
2002, our country scholar also began to wait for the research of pertinent question to campus ride roughshod over. Zhang Wenxin uses castigatory ride roughshod over of abstruse Er Wei Si's student / suffer edition of Chinese of questionnaire of ride roughshod over to save middle and primary school of country of 9235 famous cities to be born to Shandong province and Heibei undertake special questionnaire is investigated.
The result shows, the person that elementary school phase suffers ride roughshod over and ride roughshod over person what holding proportion is respectively 22.2% with 6.2% , the person that suffer ride roughshod over badly among them and ride roughshod over person what holding proportion is respectively 13.4% with 4.2% ; The person that phase of junior high school suffers ride roughshod over and ride roughshod over person what holding proportion is respectively 12.4% with 2.6% . Ride roughshod over is in student group not only radiation range is wide, also have very serious negative effect to health of student body and mind.
Campus is the setting of main society life after the child is 6 years old, but acuteness recently contradictory conflict has begun to be mixed from children hospital groom the class spreads to campus. How to accompany conflict of campus of child appropriate antagonism and ride roughshod over, ought to become the parent a new attention central issue.
The campus force in teacher mouth ases if and small gain, know the campus ride roughshod over that go up is not a wind direction it seems that. Outside element thinks generally, the campus ride roughshod over that thinks generally originates of the indulgent, parents of the school put in a suitable place to breed, bureaucrats shield one another and the Qian Quan with smooth not to be exposed to trade, but in fact, indulgent and of all kinds teenager bully approach campus is violent, is just the parent " how old select an issue? Not so exaggerative " the mood.
Old people knows advantages and disadvantages, many the kindness of children and ill will are naked. The egocentric consciousness of singleton female generation is far strong at 2 embryoes of family of much even embryo, the child is consuetudinary before the level still is in the age level morality of school level, did not develop an enough heart that be the same as manage, when put to good use is so baleful, did not happen even " we are to be in maleficent " state of mind.
And weak force just is can clear however realize oneself got harm, this kind of harm does not divide the age not to divide area, no matter be the might between the schoolboy or force, or close and trifling conflict with is mixed between the schoolgirl fleer.
We divide a respect to analyse campus conflict, each composition, rise in the process or a bit, or huge action.
Speak of campus ride roughshod over, the morality that does not circle teenager children develops a standard this problem. American psychologist Lawrence Keerbaige develops theoretical foundation to go up in Pi Yajie's morality, put forward morality to develop 3 standards the theory of 6 phase.
Produce the child of campus ride roughshod over, the age level of taller hair is 4-10 year old, the child of this phase, the period that before be in, consuetudinary level and consuetudinary level hand over, namely from " utilitarian orientaton " to " good child orientaton " the process of development, say in vain continuously, be from " I want to do " to " everybody hopes I am done " process, this time level that also learns ability with the society in teaching psychology happens to have the same view.
The child is retaining love of his good and evil in this phase, begin to pay attention to at the same time all round the person's view and purpose, this phase is the level that child individual be fond of and regulation of good and evil produce conflict. Of the parent scanty at the morality of certainly, teacher education is short of break, the aggressiveness that oneself exists more or less, can let the child be willing to harm someone else with attack behavior more in this phase with him please, if parental itself is put below act as a tyrant, bully to hide the truth from good deed mode, same meeting is had by the child in this phase appearance play the ape. The case confirm that begin mentions this viewpoint, the class with bad result of a study bully, the parent is the capable cadre of city straight office, child of 7 years old, the incisively and vividly that has learned parental appearance.
This phase, it is the child the easiest by the society undesirable ethos " pollute " level, we the effect that surroundings of should vigilant study may cause to the child and harm.
The essence with violent campus is minor to order of rank of adult society layer adore and imitate, they pass the bully and oppress, repellent, specific target behavior in making fun of a group to affirm their located in this system position and act part. Bully approach incident is development of modern society spiritual civilization is carried fast the inevitable condition that cause.
The school turns the parent into a of the society small glasses already, human characteristic had seen embryonic form on this group of innocent children.
Parent friends, small firebug advocates everybody to must have made adequate psychological preparation, become the victim of campus ride roughshod over to prevent the child, the following 3.1 want to remember well surely! With one one's heart endeavors to escort the Emperor for the child convoy!
The discovers the child confronts campus force trace of #1 acumen
Teach decent and proper child, can be in when be treated by improper harm, produce action of clear attrib border sense and repulsion, and report feedback in time give the parent. But the child of a little tacit also or not good at association, because self-respect or family teach an account, not be willing to part with or use perhaps is not willing to follow parent communication. At this moment, the parent needs additional attention this kind of child. We can use 3 footwork to have daily observation to the child: Hear voice (dialect) , 2 see the surface, 3 ask the mood.
The child gets after ride roughshod over, intelligence has not develop to be able to conceal variation of oneself mood feeling completely, endeavor to mask because examine minutely ceaselessly,also can show clues. Parent friends want intention patience only, can discover important clue certainly. The body that becomes the child discovers the following circumstance: Appear mode of defecate of disposition of unidentified bruise, disposition, behavior is changed suddenly, cry secretly, kip, theft property, intended him harm, the parent must is opposite immediately the possibility of campus force somewhat alert, begin to plan to work in the light of the child's protection.
#2 gives the child the sense of attributive feeling and backer
Parents must be in after discovering different changes, emphasize with the child, mother father is your strong supporter forever, fasten active stir up trouble, encounter remember a thing fastening be afraid of getting into trouble! Be aimed at mood condition of the child next, the choice continues channel is inspired, perhaps accompany the child to finish cry wait for a mood to abreact process, communicate inquiry detail further next, pass the course of this care, give the child attributive sense, let the child have the feeling of backer.
The child is small still, small firebug special do not suggest one part parent " with classmate confront the tough with toughness " viewpoint, but must not let the child feel my parents " do not have method to give me safe sense " . Develop the child's neither haughty nor humble sense, need a warm and responsible family environment. Be sure to keep in mind: Absolutely cannot will suffer the fault that bully duty attribution to go up to child body, such as " how to bully others to bully you " " it is the hand that you change first for certain " " how so do not let person save worry " wait for complaint, do not send to the child absolutely.
#3 is investigated first act again
Campus force incident should consider for some time just can fermenting commonly, and general existence is secret, sheer teacher and person much environment, all round person fear gets violent and not dare verbal problem. The parent must be done sufficient sufficient investigation, the child stems from the cause of ego protection and hope back up, the harm that can exaggerated oneself gets, right oneself behavior undertakes beautification. The parent should consider each confidence integratedly, specific evaluated the child after all to be harmed how oldly, give the child the truest feedback in the environment of illicit close safety next, consider to pass next " parent teacher talks " " the parent meets " wait for means, the child that is oneself seeks aboveboard asylum, the scar with accompany the child to spend campus force together the most painful cicatrizations period, meet happy tomorrow.
