On May 20, it is network Valentine's Day, be in this day, many people meet the person of afferent love to express love, but also one part person puts love in the heart, stealthily dark loving the other side. So, is the undergraduate dark amour condition how? How many undergraduate has had dark love an object? Whether can you follow dark love an object to profession? Dark love the can right study that what effect to produce with the life? Should profession when be being rejected, how can you do again?
A few days ago, news agency of campus of Chinese youth net is right undergraduate of 859 colleges of countrywide undertook questionnaire is investigated. The result shows: Exceed 8 to had had into the undergraduate dark love, like inner sincerity goodness, temperament more the opposite sex of good, Yan Zhigao; Student of close half the number is not willing to profession, "The other side becomes him friend " " the other side is too outstanding, oneself do not deserve to go up the other side " the main reason that does not profession into the student; Exceed 3 to think into the student dark love it is better to can let study and life become, exceed 8 to become a student dark during loving, can choose to become outstanding through trying hard to let oneself; Exceed 5 not to regret to had not professioned into the student, student union of close half the number abandons by refus because of professioning dark love.
Whether has the undergraduate had dark love object scale. Cartography of stannum of Li Hua of reporter of Chinese youth network
Exceed 8 to become had had dark love, like inner sincerity, temperament more the opposite sex of good, Yan Zhigao
How many undergraduate has had dark love an object? Investigation shows, the undergraduate of 81.14% expresses to ever had had dark love an object, 11.76% express to never pass dark love an object.
Courtyard student Chen Huilin expresses Hubei engineering, oneself monitor is handsome and optimistic, when the college is entered first, had good opinion to him, "When developing class activity every time, I always can use Yu Guang in spite of oneself to take aim secretly he, cautious, for fear that is discovered, look at him to be able to have a kind of very cozy feeling. Look at him to be able to have a kind of very cozy feeling..
Him refer of Huang Yan of student of college of medicine of Chengdu traditional Chinese medical science dark love an object, "He is a person that has talent very much, and very kind-hearted, attentive, patient. Study is counteracted to go up in the life, have very great help to me, like him two years secretly, in these two years during I discover he is more and more outstanding, and I also all the time silent to his love bury is in bottom of the heart. And I also all the time silent to his love bury is in bottom of the heart..
By dark what advantage is there to attracting an undergraduate on the object body that love? Investigation shows: Dark love an object " inner sincerity is kind-hearted " " temperament is good " " Yan Zhigao " the choice is most, each have 72.53% , 70.31% choose with 69.15% students; Additional, the undergraduate of 62.98% chooses " each other have collective topic and interest interest " ; 62.05% choices have the urge for improvement; 61.35% choices have talent; 54.48% choices capability is strong; 50.06% selections achievement is outstanding; And family circumstances is good only the undergraduate choice of 21.65.
Colleger king fine and soft shows appropriate guest, dark love be happiness, await broad-leaved epiphyllum to blossom like night same, already nervous and excited fear again disappointed. "Wait for together merely with him kind-hearted can feel very comfortable, also can be affected by the inner institute of the other side at the same time, let oneself become with the other side, have kind of feeling that stands by him slowly. Although I also can pay close attention to,Yanzhi pledges compatibly, but the advantage of the other side is the infinite motivation that makes I become myself more outstanding. But the advantage of the other side is the infinite motivation that makes I become myself more outstanding..
"Everybody likes good thing, the first be admired by his outside Jing, but later I discover he does everything very serious, systemic heart is devoted, work active, won't practise fraud, and be opposite oneself are very strict. " Jiang Yu of colleger of hope of southwest traffic university states he wants to be opposite only dark the object that love is guarded silently, can see him, pay close attention to him, enough.
Attract an undergraduate dark the reason scale that loves the other side. Cartography of stannum of Li Hua of reporter of Chinese youth network
Close half the number is not willing to profession, "The other side becomes him friend " into do not profession advocate because of
Whether can the undergraduate follow dark love an object to profession? According to investigation of reporter of Chinese youth network, the undergraduate of 52.62% chooses to follow dark love an object to profession, 47.38% choose to won't profession.
Chen Shu of university of Chengdu information project thinks, like to be about roar comes. "Liking a person is a very good thing, if be dark only,love, dare not step one pace forever, so two people are destined to be able to be missed, we are in an university now, love is very normal, brave pursuit just won't regret regret. Brave pursuit just won't regret regret..
"Speak out not to cry dark loved, I like dark the sense that love. " Tan Li of student of Sichuan agriculture college feels, some love speak out to had been not put in the heart valuable, "The sense that loving a person silently in the heart is very good, professioned actively felt without this kind, was rejected not to become a friend easily still. Was rejected not to become a friend easily still..
Whether does the undergraduate follow dark love an object to profession scale. Cartography of stannum of Li Hua of reporter of Chinese youth network
So, what does the cause that causes an undergraduate to not be willing to profession have? 54.95% with the undergraduate individual choice of 54.83 " the other side becomes him only friend " and " the other side is too outstanding, oneself do not deserve to go up the other side " ; 46.8% choices are in " wait for to profession suitably opportunity " ; 37.6% express " the other side already had a sweet heart " ; 27.36% " be afraid that Tan Lian loves to be able to delay bilateral development " ; 17.46% think " amative cost is big, economic condition does not allow " ; "The person objects him talking about love all round " occupy only 8.85% .
Li Zhixiu of colleger of profession of Chengdu agriculture science and technology expresses, period of him high school ever dark had loved a science department " learn bully " , "I liked him 3 years also not dare confess, choose science department in a college for him, think for him answer read, think now babyish and really immature, sensitive, but in dark feel his each respect is very good in 3 years when love, send him a handwritten letter finally, thank him to enlighten my high school. Thank him to enlighten my high school..
Wu Ji of Chengdu college student tells a reporter, he is compared as a child self-abased, it is one dare not know stranger actively " small transparent " . But went to an university to see a schoolgirl when him, from most begin to attend class secretly pay close attention to her, after arriving, pretend to sit beside her randomly, countless come across are made in the school. Wu Ji stands by her more, discover she is more and more outstanding more, kiss to the person and, disposition is candid. . . . . "I want to wait for some him day to be able to deserve to go up when her, profession to her again, can grow ceaselessly later, overtake the footstep of the other side hard. Overtake the footstep of the other side hard..
The undergraduate is not willing to profession directly to amative object reason scale. Cartography of stannum of Li Hua of reporter of Chinese youth network
Super- 3 cause of formation are dark love become better, exceed 8 to let his become outstanding through effort into the choice
Dark love the study that meets pair of undergraduates and life what to effect produce? Investigation shows, because the study of the undergraduate of 34.49% and life are dark love become better, 35.04% think to do not have an influence, 30.27% express dark loved pair of study and life to cause a worry.
On the other hand, the undergraduate once was dark love an object what to business had done? Investigation points to show, the undergraduate of 82.19% chooses " let oneself become outstanding hard " , 72.06% are to go " the hobby that tries to know the other side, interest, find collective topic " , 60.65% meetings " go watching opposite party secretly everyday " , 52.85% choices " oneself are dressed up meticulously in in person " , 35.39% meetings " contact actively everyday " .
Liu Yaqing of colleger of the normal school that install this world is in a paragraph dark in loving, make oneself grow rose. Liu Yaqing says, oneself are dark the schoolboy idea that love is well written, thinking special also careful, belong to particularly outstanding schoolboy. "I regard him as at that time my belief, want on the sly hard, let oneself become outstanding rise, hope he can see me. " two people are familiar with gradually later rise, liu Yaqing is done not have instead dark the sort of feeling when loving, two people became the good friend that does not say without the word.
"My dark loving an object is in junior high school, but like actually to go up she still is after graduation of junior high school. Her achievement is very good, one's deceased father entered us place is best one in, and I entered town only 2 in. Thinking at that time, if can be taken an examination of a bit better word, can be in same place school with her. " Lin Fansen of student of Anhui Normal University expresses, him high school is in try hard ceaselessly, the hope can be taken an examination of with her attend same place college, but after achievement of the university entrance exam comes out, she lost out however, also did not take an examination of even undergraduate course on. "And my take an examination ofing got on, the alma mater that she went to me later answer read, before long, she says her love with me, this paragraph dark love also announce to end. This paragraph dark love also announce to end..
The its scale that the undergraduate can make to amative object. Cartography of stannum of Li Hua of reporter of Chinese youth network
Exceed 5 to become do not regret to did not profession, close half the number can refuse because of the other side and abandon dark love
Dark during loving, were those missed right dark can the undergraduate that loves an object to profession feel regret? Investigation shows, the undergraduate of 56.93% expresses not to regret, the undergraduate of 43.07% expresses to regret.
Ceng Huiqing of medical university student ever missed abide by justice right dark love an object to profession, but she does not regret. Ceng Huiqing of high school phase was opposite dark the mind that the schoolboy that love speaks him, once, she is in casual discovered the other side is in class group there is a woman student in the chatting background that share, dress military training is taken, grow very comelily, "The schoolgirl should be his girlfriend, I may be a brother that he likes only just, not be the schoolgirl kind that he likes, did not profession at that time, I do not regret. I do not regret..
Zhang Jing of student of Chongqing traffic college China from ridicule be " black younger sister " . Because color of skin is blacker, prefer so white fair and snow-white schoolboy, in her eye, the man student with white skin brings a ring of light oneself. "In period of time, I have good opinion quite to a schoolboy really, also be a kind dark love, but slowly the feeling was done not have, I very rejoice to because,be done not have at that time temporarily actuation and go professioning. I very rejoice to because,be done not have at that time temporarily actuation and go professioning..
Should be opposite dark love an object to profession when refusing, how can be the undergraduate done? Investigation shows, the undergraduate of 47.85% is professioning suffer refus never to be seen again, can direct choice abandons; The undergraduate of 40.28% expresses, won't abandon, but can guard the other side silently; The undergraduate of 11.87% expresses, do not abandon, continue to look for an opportunity to profession.
Chen Zhaowen of student of Guangdong medical university is in first time is dark in loving, sufferred a setback. "I like to play volleyball, but hit very poorly, his volleyball is hit very well. When playing volleyball, he is used very distained eyes looks at me, in my heart very ill-affected, mad experienced volleyball, want ' chase ' he. Want ' chase ' he..
Two people had feeling finally, one day, chen Zhaowen heartens profession to the other side, sufferred excuse oneself from however. Chen Zhaowen says, the mood of period of time after her is very disappointing, but adjust slowly came over. "Experienced this paragraph dark love change to be ' Ming Lian ' after failure, I feel him psychology becomes mature, also do not think love returns a responsibility then. Also do not think love returns a responsibility then..
Li Cheng of Zhongshan college student is promoted in big 2 when dark a schoolgirl that loves a class to go up, "I am one is compared inside the schoolboy of collect, I try to write an article on the net, profession in the school on the wall faceless profession, next check scheme is alluded to Banqunli. Li Cheng is promoted later professioned with the other side directly, discover the other side felt to him however however also do not have, still think his behavior is babyish, decisive abandoned a heart in dark love, "I know, the melon that twists by force is not sweet, oneself do not think so low-down. Oneself do not think so low-down..
If profession,suffer dark love an object to reject undergraduate practice scale. Cartography of stannum of Li Hua of reporter of Chinese youth network
College teacher: Dark love the process that should regard promotion as ego, implementation ego
Be in in the light of the undergraduate of student period dark love behavior, chemistry of Guangdong marine university and environmental college group appoint clerical king Xu Dong expresses, review everybody grow, in around of junior high school individual had reached maturity on physiology, the ability after entering a college moves toward psychology to mature gradually. And love is those who march toward psychological maturity is important one pace, it is education health affinity surely the road of classics.
But, dark love unlike love, it is the affection that individual home remedy faces other one party. "From psychological level, dark love so general in the undergraduate, I feel the likelihood has the reason of two respects: The first, ' dark love ' the happiness with accessary itself; The 2nd, ' dark love ' the affection that is individual one-sided, can be controlled by party and control, have can charge a sex. " king Xu Dong says.
King Xu Dong thinks, no matter be dark,love, love is lone still, have the reason that its produce, it is individual own choice, need esteem and understanding. As the counsellor, he suggests the undergraduate wants correct look upon dark love, dark the process that loves this thing to regard promotion as ego, implementation ego, with period encounter best oneself.
Beautiful of afterwards of Zheng of teacher of major of in addition to one's regular job of Sichuan agriculture college thinks, dark loving is not an evildoing, have liked person or be liked to be very good thing stealthily by others, occasionally may because of hesitation or fear, lose a few serious people, what differ actually is to speak out bravely only just, speak out to need very great courage.
About the student dark love impact study and life this one viewpoint, zheng Jijia thinks, need is adj think, some people because the meeting is dark those who love an object is outstanding and it is better to become, but because the dissatisfaction of mentally is sufficient,some people also are met wait for a reason, produce bad effect thereby, so about dark love this thing, still need to go objectively look upon, go as far as possible avoid or slow down its are negative influence. (requirement of the person that merit is visited, outside Xu Dong of the king in article, Zheng Jijia, other suffer the person that visit to all be alias)
