After term begins, little bit came home to say the thing about travel with mom, among them a child tells everybody they went a country still played phreatic water, parachute, spent a lot of money. Little bit asks mother: "Do not have money because of us, cannot go to so good place travelling so? How many money does our home have after all? How many money does our home have after all??
This problem believes every mom can be come up against, the meeting that every child avoids hard in grow is opposite because of a lot of influences of the outside the psychology with the finance curious generation of own family. But face such problem, how should be responded to as mom?
---This dry what do you ask? This is not the thing that the child worries about!
---We a money of it doesn't matter, so you should read hard well!
---Do not have money to do not have money, what to want to buy again?
Reply to these, can you feel familiar to the ear? In our childhood period, if ask about problem of the finance in the home, major parents can make such reply, look in them, what does the child care money to do? Can be the change of the times, a lot of parents realize now, about money, we cannot give the child cursorily the reason of an optional prevaricate, we should guide the child in the change.
The school is a small society, every child comes from different family, children are planted in this big collective natural meeting experiences the gap between the rich and the poor, so how will analyse the problem about money for the child? After all child heart is more sensitive, not the word of tread lightly, had vying state of mind, also can bring not little negative effect in life of the following school.
1, let the child participate in excellent come in the conduct financial transactions in
Explain at phonetic relatively, come more directly as real operation, clear. After class of some the world, can take the child to go to market rambling, the goods and materials of the need in home of try to win sb's favor, the record fell to spend how many money in all, a list is listed with the child after coming home, tell the child our home needs to cost how many living cost everyday, how much is gross income, balance how many, let the child's intuitionistic economic atmosphere that sees a family.
Parents do not suspect this kind of practice, has Liu Yong said: when talking about parentage? Does Lei Yao of quarrel drink ハ octogenarian to drink ash of waterlogged fear of セ about does quail of Xie award make fun of does of card of human relations Yong of Huang of ostrich of of an ancient drinking vessel of vinegar of quail cough Fu dry up instrument male ends about imprint?
Through this kind true and direct way understands " there is " of how many money after all in the home this problem, won't let child deviate orbit, be immersed in go among vying wind.
2, not lying before the child
Some parents can feel the child comes home ask this kind of question, because oneself family financial situation is bad,be, cannot the corporeal condition with can be offerred so good like other family, because this feels ashamed remorses, lie before the child say: Our home is good also, very rich still. . . . . . Little imagine, if Your Excellency,such answer is met misdirect the child, let the child become aware is in from personal parents money side does not have any burdens, below such idea, some children are met the habits and customs with easy prodigal nurturance.
And parents also jumps over defect in the crammer trap of own dig down deeper, until bear again feebly one day the economic pressure that the child brings and stopped the supply to the child, can produce the case of a lot of deadly danger so. For instance before 10 years of boys are matricidal case, the prime cause that creates this appearance is parents again and again beg with accord, created the desire that the boy expands ceaselessly, one day these desires are couldn't get contented, meet the person beside whole vent one's anger on sb who's not to blame.
3, should not be before the child too go about telling people how hard up one is
A boy oppugns his mother in an activity that the school conducts, always tell him to there is money in the home, very poor, let the boy worry about his life very much as a child, for fear that arrives thoroughly in the home one day cannot read for him, was anxious to perplex by this kind a lot of year, discover finally, it is mom cheats him all the time so, oneself family life is very good still, even father still bought a car. But come for years by the " in the home the grievance that very poor " worries about this kind to strand, let the boy can'ted help crying, still suspect oneself are not mom place is born for a time.
The grievance in this boy heart is actually in our life reckon a lot of him parents also had been experienced. Because some elder fear his child lives too happily as a child, excessive attention to plaything saps the will, accordingly, like to be before the child very much " of " go about telling people how hard up one is. The nature of children is kind-hearted, do not see them age is small, they are very actually clear also rich with the difference between end, and " of go about telling people how hard up one is of this kind of " often can let the child be immersed in panic in, more serious is to some of sensible child can abandon his school work help the parent, this moment parent not was reached with respect to afterthought.
Zhou Guoping says: The child's heart is more exquisite than what what we think much, acumen is gotten much, we must not be underestimated.
A problem about money, can let children be on different way, as parents, how to guide the task that makes us want to consider for a whole life.
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