Recently, one about " top of building of 10 years old of ursine children throws steel tube " the heat that the report caused broad netizen is discussed. Netizens spit groove in succession to this: "Ursine child " " ursine " , it is to have likely " Xiong Jiachang " give its support. This kind of view is not devoid truth, after all conduct behavior of the child was to get greatly of parents teach by personal example as well as verbal instrution.
On small gain, the People's Daily once had published to concern at " Xiong Jiachang " the writings that behavior consults a table oneself. We join this event today, to everybody summary went out to be raised easily piece " ursine child " unqualified parent 8 large action, hope each parent can avoid as far as possible.
The female has the advantage that is good at expression inherently, but if maternal all the time is right child wag one's tongue, meet those who affect education carry out instead. The parent may think this is to be in child preach manages, but beyond the mark nag lets the child easily feel adult is not approbated to his ability, begin ego suspicion, weaken the child's proper pride and self-confident heart then.
2, force the child acknowledges a mistake forcibly:Adult hard to avoid can err, be the child what is more,the rather that? Of course, thinking method to let the child realize wrong itself is must. Nevertheless a lot of parents still can continue to question the child closely: "Next time are you returned dare? " , reply till the child: "Again also not dare " ability be apt to stops be willing to give up.
But year young the child errs on bagatelle frequently also is commonplace, because probable they still are in understand the age of the truth not. If the parent always is forcing err no longer after child promise, so when the child the heart when erring again is met clinking fear, can become more and more sensitive even be afraid of getting into trouble.
When child err thing when, ask the parent first smooth good oneself mood, ask inner opinion of the child again next, such ability from go up at all solve a problem. And blindly growl abuses the child, not only cannot solve a problem, and still can let he and parents send alienation more.
4, enjoy special treatment to the child:Present child is inspected to be like jewellery by family almost, a lot of such as enjoy in the home: Eat to be fed alone, alone the special treatment such as authority of palm TV channel. But if things go on like this, easy depend on bestows favor on the child and arrogant, after be brought up, become bad certainly.
Some parents won't let the child help participate in housework, with " the meal comes dehisce, clothes will stretch one's hand " will describe had not been. Even some children went up nursery school still won't be used the toilet by oneself, 5, 6 years old still must feed a meal by adult. Does we should like to ask go down so when does child ability master independence?
6, make contrast with other child:"The child learning that you visit neighbour home is much better " , " compare with the classmate, you are wood head simply " wait for similar speech, became the pet phrase of certain parent almost. The good point that uses others actually will blame the child, it is very unwise. Can let child mistake do not like his for parents not only so, at the same time proper pride also can be damaged.
Supervise overly, also be the behavior of freedom of a kind of privative child and right actually. The child does not have the free, space that does not have his, esteem that cannot get privacy to go up, not only the development that can affect its disposition, still meet those who disturb parentage build.
? 8, indulgent child passes minute of act:Article begin place mentions " top of building of 10 years old of ursine children throws steel tube " attribute this kind of action. This parent thinks the child is small still, need not assume what responsibility. Each parent offers a piece of advice here, always must not return with the child small for excuse, not be willing to part with or use is severe impose surelysubject sb to discipline. Caution may become aggravated after him, commit bigger mistake.
Each parent, do you have above action? If discovered, want to be corrected as early as possible! If still have what problem, might as well leave a message tell us ~
