"Our home child good obedient, how can you be troubled by contradiction with other classmate? How can you be troubled by contradiction with other classmate??
"My child natural disposition is lively, love to laugh again, unlike has been bullied by others ah "
"My son fat strong, who was bullied he, it is really, did not joke. Did not joke..
The parent acts on him to be opposite the control of child disposition, review oneself life experience. The child that represents him home in succession won't by bully approach, also won't bully others.
But, are you clear that the campus of your child lives really?
Ma Saichun in one's childhood, because grow badly to look to mix disposition problem, often get of classmates bully, once a female classmate reachs chalk ash and the water that had washed mop inside Ma Saichun's coke, force her to drink go down.
Qiao Busi of malic company author, because the meeting is certain the success of course is too remarkable and by bully approach.
Fondling of Japanese royalty princess, because be bullied by male fellow student in the school,also meet, frighten so that dare not go to school.
Anybody is become possibly by the object of bully approach.
Institute of Taiyuan normal school, meet with incident of roommate bully approach, the heat that caused a netizen is discussed. The heroine of incident, wang Zhizhi is on small gain an account in one's own words, suffer roommate Li Mou and Zhao Mou for a long time " campus is violent " . Case contumelious monicker, threatening she gathers up her dress pats video, assault and battery to wait a moment.
Wang Zhizhi an account in one's own words: "Because arrive as a child big, what I am in with the person beside is pretty good. Feel campus bully approach is the film occasionally in, did not think of reality lives to still have this kind of case really. Did not think of reality lives to still have this kind of case really..
How does the Qin Dynasty of the Gansu Province learn Wang Mou of the one 3 students at the beginning of the name in prefectural temple chew. Be the same as before a month disengaged personnel hits the society of Zhao Mou kink of grade to lumbar to burst apart. The other student of class of of the same age also has what had sufferred Zhao Mou not less to beat up. President Yang says " as school square, handle the student that lays a person without method now. Handle the student that lays a person without method now..
When when each similar story is reported to come out by news media, we can plaint below public morals day, our meeting Bei comes from which, we are met be filled with indignation, after causing public opinion disturbance carelessly finish.
We cannot put an end to the happening of campus bully approach completely, but we are OK from the family, the school, society proceed with of a few respects, try to prevent campus bully approach effectively, let child both neither become the person that gets bully rise high, also do not go someone else of ride roughshod over.
One, domestic education.
The child of campus bully approach, two extremes often are in the home. It is in the home equipment suffers firstly favorite " a beloved daughter " , it is secondly warmth is not experienced in the home and often be ignored.
Modern society, we often can see, a few parents are very compliant to the child's manner. This kind of parent satisfies all requirements of the child, in the home not be willing to part with or use, dozen not be willing to part with or use is scolded, be partial to appears personally when the child that teachs his in elder. Let the child do as one wants, cannot get be about contentedly to hit break vent one's anger, often cry cry unreasonable.
The child of this kind of type, easy the behavior because of others, the intention with oneself not conform to, make the conduct that atttacks other, evolution upgrades to be able to become campus ride roughshod over. Easy also because disposition is overbearing, and become everybody place evil, become be isolated, by the person of ride roughshod over.
What so we want to guide the child to understand act is good with bad. The child is done well, we can give admittedly a few encourage and support, let him form a habit for surveyor's pole with this.
And once child err, want to see serious rate of the thing, small error we can give oral criticism, big mistake we are about severity checks, had better let him realize the value that waits for a quantity namely, confiscate the toy that he likes, entrance guard is punished scribal, beat and scold even, what want an attention nevertheless is accuse good measure.
Additionally one kind, it is the child in broken family partly greatly very. The child of the family that leaves other often is couldn't get too much the care that come from parents or says elder member of family, and this kind of environment can let the child produce huge insecurity, close oneself inner world rise, not with person character.
The child of this kind of type, can pretend oneself, mask oneself to lack the one side of care, come through other of ride roughshod over him drain affection. Because the likelihood is introversion, little character, support without the friend and become by bully approach person.
So we should give the child more care. Each family, need to offer the child measurable care and education, should let them understand parents is right his affection, domestic warmth, and the family is his strongest supporter. But we want abstemious, not doting, want to tell a truth with the child, let him learn to wait for the person plays and good-tempered admit.
Let the child develop toward positive direction, moral character is good with the child with powerful heart, avoid campus ride roughshod over effectively not only, still can better gregarious.
2, school administration.
Appalling campus backside of bully approach incident, the management that often is the school and teacher is unwary.
The concentration that the school is bully approach the ground. School the record of school regulations school that just should make phasing close in the light of bully approach incident, establish a special superintendency panel to carry out, take 0 tolerant attitudes to bully approach behavior.
Want a foundation at the same time student circumstance, take the education of different kind. The student to low grade can undertake mental health teachs ﹑ ego to protect education more; Begin an activity actively to train a student between the atmosphere of mutual care; Want to use regulation management and psychology to lead union of photograph of two kinds of means to the student of high grade.
We can look treat campus bully approach other country has what kind of as.
The United States:
Undertake opposehegemonism approach study a project, this project is the special guide that the teacher provides, go assisting teacher and other employee, answer the bully approach question of campus, include class regulation to make among them, the part is acted, handle issue of individual bully approach, interact with the parent etc.
If the student bullies a classmate inside school, the parent must accept education or assume corresponding legal responsibility to wait a moment.
England:
To campus bully approach adopts 0 patient policy, once make clear illicit conduct, no matter serious, want severe punishment, do not grant condonable.
Act gifted president of middle and primary school, to campus bully approach is having the punish power of regular suspend from school and permanent rustication.
3, the organization is social.
Be in school by bully Ling Zhe often is alone individual, farouche, did not belong to oneself organization.
Walk into the circle of the child that make friend. To the child, they still fail to choose appropriate playmate well, what very difficult also resolution gives is good what it is bad. As the parent so we want great pack a time, walk into the circle of the child that make friend.
For example, in child birthday when, we can ask child opinion, invite a few classmates and classmate parent to come be a guest, come so we but the condition that close quarters observes to children get along, still can pass what will know oneself child with the talk of its parents to reach friendly circumstance and mass at the same time.
Participate in the activity that the school organizes more. A lot of parents, can serve as excuse at labour with oneself, do not participate in school activity of the child, actually, this missed the opportunity of a lot of incentive children among them.
The activity that joining school organization at the same time, can help the child get more respect before the classmate not only, because appear often your,still can make teacher assuming a tax right you be able to hep, also meet the child that notices you naturally.
The parent tells your child please: This world may be paid without redound, likelihood your inflict sweet candy, the person anounces arsenic.
But you want to remember, kind-hearted and commendable. Hope you stand in glazed place, look place and, all be bright.
If agree with our viewpoint, please forward is shared, let more person see. Our joint efforts, create a more healthy growing environment to children, wish every child is brought up in safety, the heart has sun.
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