Recently, be in Wuhan on some forum, have a netizen furious hair post ↓
The original poster says, the girlfriend likes to see her mobile phone, like to search chatting record even, he is very furious: Since choose together, be about to believe the other side.
The netizen feels, see mobile phone of the other side bad really ↓
The netizen feels, the other side just is met without safe feeling such ↓
Still the netizen feels, this has nothing to do with with accredit, if enough faithfulness, see mobile phone it's nothing.
A news has watched before, a woman wants to examine marital mobile phone, be rejected. Then she goes to wadi to want commit suicide, minatory the other side hands over a mobile phone, countless people surround wadi two sides those who watch her is vociferant with struggle. She is procrastinated to be being dragged by the husband finally left river course.
This behavior backside, the unspoken words in a play left to the understanding of the audience or reader that shows fully is probably: "If I am the closest what the person does not expose him to me is all, my life is worthless also " , "If I cannot get a relation that deserves credit, living with respect to no point " .
In living now, husband and wife gets along answering to should not give put apart of the other side privacy is many families some problems, some people think even if is husband and wife, but the privacy that also should have oneself, also since be husband and wife,some people think, why cannot trust each other?
On some forum, have a such topics:
"I and husband marry 3 years, love one year, what the head lives 2 years is very quiet, perfect and happy! This year March, he erupted, he thinks to there should be privacy between husband and wife, be not too should transparent, bill of gregarious Zhang date, mobile phone, credit card. . . Not should each other knows, everybody should have enough space. I am very confused, is marriage such? is marriage such??
Such the netizen saying:
@toxictoxic
It is the distance that should keep proper, nevertheless this is apart from because of the person appropriate, somebody hopes economically maintain a distance, somebody has a space on hope habits and customs, somebody hopes his social circle and wife maintain a distance.
I love @ you and you have nothing to do
The problem is not to depend on having privacy, or privacy arrived which one pace, will tell husband and wife to have tacit agreement commonly, and every pairs of husband and wife are same. The problem is tacit to both sides privacy measure dissatisfaction, so affirmation and privacy have nothing to do, and and other about.
@anneshanghai
We marry 3 years, property is public, the account is public, the password is public, gregarious Zhang order is public! Want to know the other privacy of the other side, make visit at any time, this had become the fun between us!
@ Xue Fei
Each one think of a way is different, without what should. Like finance departure just like some husband and wife, some jubilation that close. I was not to accept what what my Laogong has to hiding the truth from me, all information and code are published each other between us, nevertheless I also did not want to go to those who record sheet of mobile phone detailed what checking to chat.
@mybluemoon
Still want a few spaces, of course, when the other side wants to know the thing inside this space, also very can straight-out take the other side to look, this calls credit! Of course, if become the credit of the other side good luck, offend affection of a few harm, be like off the rails ah the thing of what, take or leave earlier, who is this world short of to be able to run, err finishs sth affection must be punished!
@ is not known
Should look to conceal what thing. Some things can be concealed, some are no good. It is the closest person originally, if maintain certain distance even, that marries dry what.
@jennifer.yu
Husband and wife is not Lian Tiying, did husband and wife, do not represent all want to share. Why the woman is done namely do not understand this reason, want what see LG to be appeared fully namely.
@janeqi22002
Privacy of need reservation dot should is on the truth, the problem is to should see the other side accept this to plant reservation, I asperse ability to make public with respect to best husband, if he has those who conceal me, my accurate with respect to 100 thousand minutes, the meeting of leave no stone unturned goes explore after all.
@huihui2007
Can have privacy. Want space of individual of the other side after all. Spend, had held.
3 females shared her experience ↓
@ small Ling, 32 years old, marry 5 years
I and husband marry 5 years, the child 4 years old, we from first deep love, to now insipid, experience very long period of time among them adjust, original when, whatever thing can be opposite husband I am straight-out, there is privacy between us, include the issue between the cummer before he is mixed, I just should make a joke at that time, after all we married, she is a past type only.
But do not know why, every time we produce brawl, the thing of the cummer before he is mixed can skip automatically in my brain, why the cummer before you can be right is so good, so disappointing to me? Quarrel originally with respect to the mood bad, these paltry things that think of him are more afflictive, quarrel a lot of times because of these its aggravate the level that we quarrel.
After experiencing brawl a few times, gradually I also felt relieved, the feeling is done not have really necessary, even if is the closest lover between, still withhold bit of privacy to had been compared, speak out privacy to look it is quite good to be like, but the burden in the heart that can increase other one party in virtually, what be inferior to knowing in that way with its is good.
@ longs for, 29 years old, marry two years
Before I and husband marry, had agreed, want to give each other appropriately the space, allow the other side to preserve a few privacy, the thing that if the other side does not think,says only, cannot importune absolutely. We want to show best one side in the other side before, although we are husband and wife, but I won't the mobile phone information that privately leafs through him, we are adult, should understand the heart that holds a person is not to rely on to restrain, rely on to send the self-discipline from the heart however.
If I discovered he and other woman's ambiguous speech on his mobile phone, how do I do? Divorce? The value is undeserved, not centrifugal in have a knot in one's heart again, brawl more cannot solve a problem, the error that uses him with its folds him Zuo , not as good as what do not know, said I believe him again, also be willing to believe the feeling between us likewise, if which days he is off the rails really, I won't be persuaded to stay absolutely.
Original we feel this agreement meets some affect feeling, but crossed a day to just discover together truly, these concern are redundant really, we are met share the good bad perhaps thing in a few lives to the other side, each other respect the feeling of the other side, many bits of small mystery in the life feels, let the feeling between us pull however instead close a lot of.
@ luxuriant and beautiful, 33 years old, from different
So say, because,I and former husband are too too straight-out just part so, we are to date of understanding, the feeling is very good at that time, acquaintance did not marry to half an year, after marriage, he discovers I am not maiden, next I told him the thing with predecessor, he says to have nothing to do with at that time, do not mind.
But be in next in the day, he always carries my defect, bright in dark in taking me is not maiden say a thing, we talked later, he says he is a very traditional man, cannot accept me once, with respect to such our divorces.
I located a target again now, because had last lesson, I disclosed my associate with in a way a few, but withhold somewhat, if mind to say continuously,tell him. To now we got along more than one year, preparative marriage, in the process that gets along in us, he never can allude my past, can respect my privacy, the feeling lives together so the meeting is very relaxed, do not have pressure, feel each other preserve a few privacy the meeting is better.
"It is reasonable that this word returns distance generation beautiful " , explore ceaselessly when you the inner moment of a person, you had better have made the preparation in the heart that can accept a fact. Otherwise, all knows may not is a favour. But in our life, it is somebody has pry desire very much, those who like a person to be able to want know him is all. If the other side is a person that is willing to share, so your pry is about to satisfy very easily possibly; but if the other side is a person that is not willing to share, you those who examine minutely a meeting to let refus of the other side in.
A lot of people may mix privacy cent of know the inside story must not be very clear, although we should have the privacy right that belongs our, but the know the inside story that the other side also should have relevant news counterpoises.
Know go up to also have such one discusses:
This is to get the ↓ of answer ↓ ↓ with most approve of
Know netizen @ wintersweet
Actually, the core dot of this problem is to respect 2 words, however, esteem and accredit are inseparable.
Whether we should respect a spouse, whether is the spouse worth us to respect. Moreover, it is us whether trustful spouse, whether is the spouse worth us to trust.
On this world, a lot of rely on the spouse of chart, also a lot of do not rely on the spouse of chart, we should be respected and accredit is former, as to latter, since you know TA,do not rely on chart, you are dry still be together with TA.
Want to understand, one paragraph concerns, if both sides lost faith, did not have esteem, be impossible to continue, had compared apart before it is too late, such ability won't by accident person by accident oneself.
So, you can pay close attention to your spouse, still think in you TA is worth to you are respected and trust when, give TA certain dimensional space please.
On this world, without felt light and darkness, some people look light clinking, but actually his heart also is existing dark, but, he is in hard, hope oneself become bright hard, so, he needs light and region of dark have a common boundary, this region is gray, you can not contact, this is privacy with respect to what can say.
Want to understand, our everybody lives on this colorful world, having a lot of associate with and memory, associate with perhaps follows wind and die, but still can leave a seed, perhaps, the seed is met as time slowly ageing is destroyed disappear, but, before it did not disappear, we need certain space to deposit it, this space is privacy with respect to what say.
You trust your spouse, so you won't see gray region, you respect your spouse, so the seed won't sprout because of you rooted.
Of course, when if you discover he is suspect Ren Hezun,be being weighed, you are OK this Li Jianlai repels brandish privacy he, part till you. Before this, ask both sides to hold respective privacy, concern in order to promote good husband and wife.
Want to understand, spouse concern also is not unbridled, since, he thinks he has privacy space, so you must want his privacy space, otherwise, one and again, again and the kink of 3, you will be unpleasant, he also is met unpleasantness, final result is detached.
Develop relationship of good husband and wife, it is the bottom line that both sides does not want to break the other side egoistically again and again, want to know, husband and wife also needs mutual compliment.
Husband and wife also should have intimately, be helpful for benign development.
If, you and his acknowledge is discrepant, that explains, you are considering beautiful conjugal love in amative days, did not consider on match 3 view, bring about prepared to marry to still come for this problem now kink.
