"The child, I ask you read diligent, because I want you to compare result with others,not be, however because, I hope you can have the right of the choice in the future, choose the significant, job that has time, is not to be forced to fend. The job that becomes you is significant in your heart, you are successful feeling. The job that becomes you gives you time, not privative your life, you have honor. Accomplish feeling and dignity, give you pleasure. Give you pleasure.. -------Long Yingtai
Why do we want effort study, where is the purpose of effort study? Remember in one's childhood, parents asks we try hard to read, can seek a good job in the future, sit in the office, need not resemble them so painstaking work. Effort study is different to the requirement of each person, change me and character, before is effort study can find a good job, work hard now for better life. We learn hard is for later can dovish station is in this socially, to succeed, we need to find those to be able to allow the thing that you hold to after all, incentive your thing and the thing that invigorate you. Struggle, teenager, without warm blood, without youth, do not struggle, nobody are unripe!
Before paragraph time reads Dennis. Weiteli (Denis Waitley) is in " successful psychology: The meaning that discovery works and lives " in the meaning that tell us to want to know hard to learn and work hard in the 7th chapter through ego drive after all should how does ability succeed.
We want to be in this to live socially, we need the dress and housing not only, also need to have safe feeling, get the care of other, we still need food in order to maintain healthy, and need self-respect in order to support oneself spirit. We achieve our goal hard, because we need experience self-respect and achievement sense.
The form of loaves and fishes that a few requirements of some people often live to need basically with exceeding appears. For example, we need healthy food, comfortable dress and safe dwelling place, but we do not need delicate coffee truly, the brand of elaborate design or the garage that can park 4 cars. Of material abundant and OK bring joy, but the requirement that cannot satisfy us.
How many kinds of significant demand does person altogether have? Two kinds? 5 kinds? 300 kinds? According to the view of psychologist Ma Siluo, demand cent of the person is 5 sort to fasten. According to from undertake the most basically permutation to the most complex order. Demand of administrative levels of demand of these 5 mankinds:
One, physiology demand
Physiology demand is to support our physiology health and existent main demand, regard the mankind as it is important to be mixed the most basically among demand, physiology demand includes:
Fresh air
Clean water
Be full of nutrient food
Do not suffer wind to blow the dwelling place that rain makes
Sanitary living conditions
Appropriate dress
Primary medical treatment
Close sexual relationship
Have in our life very major the physiology requirement that is used at satisfying us, we work hard, in order to buy food, housing, the dress and medical treatment. We are done housework and wash clothes sweep, in order to maintain the clean sanitation of your environment. We see a doctor and dentist, in order to keep healthy. The time that we use at satisfying physiology requirement is more, so the time that we use at satisfying requirement of higher administrative levels is less.
What everybody hopes he lives is better, no matter be corporeal respect or mental respect, should work hard hard to make money so these desires that will satisfy oneself
2, safe demand
Once our physiology demand got satisfaction, safety and safeguard became our the next to pay close attention to a dot with respect to ground of follow a rational line to do some work well. We include about the demand of safety and safeguard:
Avoid body harm
Stable environment
We are sure to be able to rely on other
Avoid suffer mistreat
Relieve fear, angst and disorder
Structure, order, law and limit
Before can satisfy higher individual demand, we must have a kind of radical safe move and safeguard feeling above all. Always be oneself safe and anxious person, experience joy very hard also, make feeling or attributive sense.
3, social demand
The person is social animal, communicating with other is main demand. We have a kind of such demand, those serious people in needing to feel we live namely are approbated, admire and have deep love for true we. We also need to give other to approbate, admire and have deep love for. The demand of this kind of with other impact that makes a person contented is so called attributive feeling.
The demand to attributive feeling can pass romantic affinity or the safety of ligament of friendship, family feels, or the companion relation that is place of the school, work will satisfy.
Without attributive feeling, a person may be depressed kill with low self-esteem place: Alone, undesirable or feeling of good for nothing. No matter we feel how safe in physiology and mentally, we always need another person.
The effort that wants our everyone only adds up, so the society can progress, so we also are the drive person that the society progresses.
4, esteem demand
Be in this " successful psychology: The meaning that discovery works and lives " , early childhood to succeed to be mixed happily, demand him feeling of people is precious and valuable, and others also thinks oneself are precious and valuable. The esteem of other and self-respect are closely related, we need to feel important, useful, success is mixed be respected, we also need other to recognize our ability and potential.
Low self-esteem destroys us to achieve target and the power that serve as personal growth likely. For the health of mentally, we need to be able to encourage ourselves often -- celebrate taking success, retain the power of oneself, when the thing is done not quite well, offset disappointing time.
We can do better business through knowing our and obtain basic satisfaction, arrive from the egg that make fry in shallow oil write a book, once achieved a target or society a kind of skill, because know we can realize new mastery of a skill or technique of new target, society,we are met and feel harvest somewhat. When our establish new target comes true hard when them, our self-respect can continue to increase.
The person is living want to be waited for by the look of additional key point of others namely, this is feeling of so called achievement, I think where individual does not hope he is looked down on by others. You do not go hard, can stretch his hand to others, because you want to eat you to want to drink you to want to wear, for our proper pride so we also must try hard.
5, self-fulfilment demand
Self-fulfilment is the top layer in demand administrative levels, self-fulfilment means the full potential that produces a person to achieve long-term personal growth. With the success, self-fulfilment is itinerary and not be terminal. When we are in the condition that grows continuously -- admit new idea openly, use new knowledge quickly, it is even acquire knowledge from inside our mistake.
We still need to reach self-fulfilment independently, the freedom that means a choice independently, independent character and the opportunity that exercise judges independently. This means a palm to dominate the our life, activity that chooses ourselves, decide the viewpoint of value of ourselves.
Have powerful effect to our motivation and expression independently. When lack is own, we feel to resemble is a helpless in talking by other pilot participator. Our motivation can disappear very quickly. But, when we have own right, we have motivation to achieve a success in learn and working. For example, can choose the way that oneself work and learns freely, should control oneself than parents more active. Can the employee that the palm accuses him to work, the personnel that should manage than be in charge of by the leader is more active.
So reason of above so much lets us hard learn to be in in order to assure we can obtain better standard of living in the following life. We should be not lived, be in tiredly by oneself place, want hard to go forth, the ability before the trend has export.
