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Go attending a meeting the parent to the child a few days ago, teacher and I said the child's condition, the key is him in the class not very and other little girl talk, let answer a question on classroom at ordinary times, he always is low head not utter a word. The teacher says this child lacks self-confidence too too to oneself, the attention that lets our parenthood a few. I listen anxious, still think the child at ordinary times not talktive it is some introversion only, did not think of the problem is so serious.
A lot of parents know the self-confident heart that enhances the child is how important now, also had made many effort, but often effects is very small, the child can say very much before oneself person, arrived before stranger with respect to Song, mouth also resembles is like was being sealed a word also dare not say, more do not carry brave project oneself. This lets a lot of parents headache quite. Do not want to let the child become self-abased, the parent wants to worry about more on these things, not undeserved return a responsibility.
Let the child become independent from the thought, have particular strength to the view of someone else
The child is not so clear to his acknowledge, often need to affirm oneself value through the effort of others, no matter be the view to the parent or someone else,they are valued quite. Can encourage because of a word confident, be debased possibly also because of and disappointed dismay, generate suspicion to oneself. So we say to want to be encouraged more to the child via regular meeting. This is the self-confidence that can enhance the child on certain level, but also can let the child become slowly the encouragement that depends on others, he to oneself however the fixed position of neither one clarity. When the encouragement that should obtain others so, caper of their meeting self-confidence, once cannot get the affirmation of others, they are met dispirited come down.
Accordingly, the parent should develop the independent character on child thought, to the ability of oneself he himself should have a clear fixed position, be not controlled by the view place of other easily. The realises oneself good qualities that can help him be clear about so and inadequacy, both neither will be excessive self-abased, can have him promotion of specific aim again, let oneself become more outstanding. When encountering a thing, the parent does not tell him pair of faults, let him himself judge, exercise the ability that he ponders over independently gradually, is not what people says what does he listen to, do not have oneself idea completely.
Come from the outside help strength: Encourage the child to do a business independently, the parent's proper encouragement
Want to make the child not self-abased, not be those who say the parent it is not important to encourage. However the independence on child itself thought is dominant element, the parent's encouragement serves as auxiliary. Such work along both lines, ability helps the child eliminate self-abased feeling of the heart, more gas of know how things stand and feel confident of handling them goes project oneself.
Let him child do a few businesses more, the parent does not give him Bao Yuan. In the process that works independently, exercising thinking ability of the child, he can build his cognitive system, be controlled not easily by someone else place. In the process that working additionally, when encountering difficult problem, establish the moment of truth of child self-confidence heart namely. The parent's proper at that time encouragement is directive, help child finishs the job. So alone the achievement feeling that completes a work, enough lets the child produce huge affirmation to oneself ability, self-confident heart also can arise spontaneously. Who is this also cannot of efface.
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