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Marie Fulangsi (Mary Frans) in " cold force " in have a paragraph of such descriptions, this is person of a kind of injury at invisible force, the bruise on the body is passable see, the cut on the heart is aware of hard however.
The author sets out from the angle of the person that suffer cruel, it is case with domesticity and duty field experience, the condition of the not know what to do after the person that will suffer cruel suffers cold force is shown incisively and vividly, look in Fulangsi, invisible force is the vitallest.
In affinity " cool "
Generally speaking, cold force is the most incidental in a paragraph of affinity, when every can have occurrence contradiction to sweethearts, they handle contradictory way also is varied, but, "Cool " a kind of kind that often prevents direct conflict as them.
Selecting this kind of person that settles way normally is narcissism person, the person with narcissism higher level often considers him to leave only not happy, and exceeding lack in all affection (Empathy) ability.
They lack a kind of feeling the other side to be put in the ability of more significant position, after choosing cold war, they can can't help want how to make oneself increase the biggest change, and oneself how may this kind of cool behavior injure another person, they are paid no attention to, although the other side is his closest person.
Snatch one the individual's value to feel
Look from psychological level, the potential psychology influence of cold force is the value sense that snatchs a person. Those people that are injured by cold force can be immersed in a paragraph of longer low self-esteem level level, they can think over ceaselessly even is where he is done not quite well, whether is final him suspicion worth to be loved? What is oneself existence value?
In a paragraph of normal affinity, no matter be schoolboy or schoolgirl, need to be taken seriously, by care, be understood. And the demand that pays close attention to oneself blindly, and demand the other side compromises termlessly, include, lose this paragraph of relationship very easily.
We should understand a fact, any brawl, cold war, essence is to hope the relationship can be better and better. We did not forget our original intent because of temporarily power struggle.
Compare the cold force in affinity, duty field cold force accepts numerous scale more extensive. Wisdom couplet invite applications for a job once also had done cold force of field of a concerned duty to investigate, investigation shows, near 7 into (the white-collar of 67%) states he once had experienced duty field cold force.
Those had experienced the people of duty field cold force, the person that has 16.9% says he can be searched actively settle way; Of 38.1% by force person state oneself can be immersed in depressed condition, working attitude is more and more negative; The duty field person of 20.9% can choose with cruel make cruel, pay attention to one's own moral uplift without thought of others; The white-collar that still has 20% chose abdication to find new job.
Harming a person's most efficient way is, keep cool to him
The person is the animal with a kind of gregarious extremely strong attribute, surface of square side of need and society maintains connection, and be not approbated by located social environment and accept, meet us cause huge anguish.
Especially the other side is atttacked without what use any materiality to you, is a choice only cool, victim (the person that suffer cruel) can be immersed in ground of miserable condition of Bei of inarticulate having pain.
What make a person be accepted hard more is, after all sorts of complex moods such as sadness, spellbound, anxious, anger are quiet, be enmeshed very easily in deep ego suspicion by the person of cold force.
Because they are final the meeting is clear, even if cost with one one's heart is thought of also cannot from get explanatory apologetic even over there the other side, they attempt and themselves can reconcile only, oneself give oneself cure injury.
Cool it is an invisible sharp, the person with dark heart serves as his weapon with this, their heart is empty and apathetic, but, will kill a person eventually oneself, the heart cannot pay close attention to the feeling of other without the person of love, the esteem of more unavailable other, be those who hide is self-abased person.
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Reference material:
" cold force "
