The adjustment that how passes an environment reduces the conflict with the child?

Have a lot of time, with the child's conflict, must be not solved through communicating, circlet condition adjusts a likelihood to be able to have very great help. E.g. , the child in one's childhood, feel this to be touched a little while a little while touch that, we may worry about safe problem.

But if you always tell him here,must not be moved, must not move over there, can he listen to you? Won't listen commonly. And, you also are to telling him, this world is very dangerous. Can child life have safe feeling in a very dangerous world? So, you do not let him move more, injure safe feeling of the child more.

If we can adjust an environment, exclude those insecure factors, put small knife broach to altitude for instance, protect socket rise, give drawer mount the safety lock. The thing of such child bring into contact with is safe, how many talking around do this expend less?

Environmental adjustment can be used in the any area of behavior window, as long as parents is intentional, a lot of conflict can be adjusted through the environment avoid. The method that the environment adjusts has 3 kinds: Increase, decrease and change.

We say to increase first, add something in the environment namely. For instance, have period of time, fabaceous beans wants me to help him wear a shoe all the day, I feel very irritated, how to return a responsibility, can wear a shoe early, how 5 years old wanted me to help instead?

Wear a shoe for this, I and he has been communicated many times be no good, want mom to help namely. I realize later, in that home that we stay in before before, have a taboret, the child sits over to wear a shoe just good. And new home does not have this bench, the child is standing to wear a shoe to be afraid of trip, move bench to feel troublesome again, always can want me to help so. I bought a small shoe that can take to wear a shoe to wear later, fabaceous beans did not say to let me help.

We say to decrease again. For instance the child rises in the morning carry the dress, this also is no good, that is not dry also, the dress that having very large possibility is the child is too much, how to so that he does not know,choose. Generally speaking, a season has the child it is OK that 45 dresses are replaced, the thing is more, the child chooses difficulty more.

Occasionally, the child can want to wear the skirt of summer in the winter, probable be you put the clothes together, was seen by the child, she wants naturally to wear. If receive the dress of those other season, this problem also won't be commonly.

General for, now the toy of children, draw is not too little originally, however too much, so that the child should go out only,be about to buy a toy. But the toy is too much, he does not know to should play which, this plays, that plays, which cannot go deep amuse oneself. It is the toy that he does not play obviously, but want other little girl to want to play him to be about immediately only, want to cannot play twice again, these are caused.

Our retell negotiates a change. What a lot of mom trouble is the child always wants for company to play, but for company plays the game that joins and so on of building blocks, play house, did mom time grow to be sure the meeting is very irritated right incorrect? The child wants you to accompany again, how to do? The practice of a lot of mom is, do not have sunset night ground to accompany the child at ordinary times.

The child was asleep, oneself wash clothes rapidly cook, even if such, a lot of mom are very self-condemned still oneself are bad-tempered, want 24 hours to look after children, still cannot get angry, should you yourself be preterhuman?

Can change company way at that time, company has 3 kinds of kind: One kind is child of your for company plays; One kind is do a business together with the child; One kind is same a space, you do your business, the child does the child's business. These 3 kinds are the company of high quality, not be you accompany him to play ability to call company.

And the child also does not need you always is for company he plays, you all the time for company he, he can be formed depend on, cannot leave you momently. But his ego does not have method to develop again, he can have kind of asphyxial feeling, can become so depend on again be agitated. The child's real need is 3 kinds of different company kind, such he can have a link with you already, can develop ego again.

So, you can accompany the child to play a few game that you also are interested in, also can look after children to do a business together, pull the land for instance, wash dish of what, OK still you wash the dress by, the child is on the side oneself play. If among a day, you have kind of these 3 kinds of company, yourself won't be too painstaking, the child also has an opportunity to develop his ego, it is better that parentage also is met, with one action of it may be said 3.

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