Constant meeting sees such news, parents works to give evening early to return everyday, of one mind wants to create good living conditions to the child, but the child not only the pains that does not understand parents, still complain to parents ceaseless. Somebody may feel the child too not sensible, because parents is short of mediumly in child growing process,somebody may consider as break, just bring about so a result. But actually, the prime cause that lets this thing happening is the serious unbalance between the life and job.
Be in early 20 centuries 80 time metaphase, people begins to discuss how to come true " the balance of the job and life " , as the ceaseless development of socioeconomy, people is right " the balance of the job and life " the attention of this one theme is increasing. The newspaper of before database LexisNexis ever was ranked to the world 100 and magazine undertake investigating, findings shows, arrive from 1984 1996 with " the balance of the job and life " the article that gives priority to a problem has 32, since 1997, relevant article number shows ascendant trend with respect to year after year, only the article number 2007 is as high as 1674. After 2007, the amount of relevant article also drifts up and down in 1450.
How to balance the job and life?
The people yearning to balance job and life is not to do not have a truth, if can each thing in good job of processing of reach every aspect of a matter and life, the life in can making others key point certainly wins the home. But actually, "Balance job and life " the myth that just is exaggerated, pursue reach every aspect of a matter blindly, can make each thing big sell at a discount only. The more the life in people look wins the home, be known more and time battle of wits fights brave, know the respect needs to pursue perfection in which, which respect needs attend to to help somebody attain his aim. So, go going after the myth that is expected to cannot be reached with its, make as the society judge, with " make judge " replace " evenly " .
We can have unbalance feeling, it is oneself normally the thing that feels very important did not do what perhaps did not get satisfaction and arise good, make judge when the unbalance condition that action is in a kind to cannot restore when us namely, pull us afresh, make we approach a center, in order to maintain the position of a relative balance. The society is made judge, be in namely prevent unbalance.
Make judge cent is two kinds of types, a kind of interpose lives at the job and individual between, a kind a consist in is both in.
In wanting to live in the job and individual, can accomplish best, want to understand the job and life are two completely different domains above all, the relation of the job and life is similar to the water that two end are carrying carrying pole, they are restricted each other, also be alone individual. If you emphasize particularly on carrying pole at at the same time, the flow of water of across will surely is short of somewhat break. Allowing the only method that relative balance position maintains between the job and individual life so is, distinguish the centre of gravity of the job and life, find make differently judge method. Had handled the issue of individual existence only, whole types or forms of literature can achieve the status of relative balance.
With " make judge " replace " evenly "
Make judge the method has two kinds, long term make judge make with short line judge.
In the job, your need is long term make judge.
If you want to pursue perfection, gain success one time, can be in the condition of unbalance for a long time necessarily. Because be in the job, you are impossible that affection handles an all issues of reach every aspect of a matter. To complete all works, go against between blindly overtime gain success, also go against maintain the job and life the balance between these two pail. You must find that the most important thing in numerous thing, allot enough time to it, reduce the time that allots other trivial matters. When you dedicated at that the most important thing, when becoming limited time more significant, you just gain a success more likely on the career.
To the job, accepting or reject is normal. Long term adjusting is to be on the thing with not quite important sacrifice, ensure you can be dedicated at the most important thing, help you score a success.
In individual life, you need short line to make judge.
Zhanmusi Patesen is in his novel " susan diary " in, to working to reach its with the balance of the life centre of gravity made an interesting figure of speech. He compares the life into the game of variety of a 5 balls, these 5 balls are the job, family, health, friend is mixed respectively sincere letter. Among them, the job is ball of a rubber, calculate the ground to go up to also can rebound come back. The rest glass makes 4 balls, once be born can have damaged, be fallen to smash even.
Zhanmusi Patesen's place compares no less than, 5 balls in the life, except the job, of the others is brittle article, so we treat the life to cannot resemble accepting or reject somewhat in that way to the job, long dedicated at some important thing, want attend to to help somebody attain his aim however, adjust all and main essential factor in let him attend to live to the individual with short line.
If say to be made on the job judge recipe is dedicated, so make on the life judge recipe is attention. If you want to acquire happy life, the heart that you must pay close attention to you, healthy, family, friend and individual demand. You cannot abandon for the job among them, also cannot because of some and abandon among them any. You can be the centre of gravity of the life in these element apace does to adjust, the element with different at the same time give attention to two or morethings, but cannot ignore some essential factor for long. Life need is made strictly judge.
The life is a course that seeks a balance ceaselessly
Use when you make judge the job and life these two individual unbalance condition had been adjusted, so you are OK finish between the job and life make judge, gain the status of a kind of relative balance. Individual problem was solved, the question that exists on whole is natural with respect to be readily solved.
The life is a course that seeks a balance ceaselessly, although we cannot gain the ideal status of complete balance, but we still can be used make judge, find the position of a relative balance, in order to acquire happy life.
