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Tell story of a ghost to everybody first:
Run quickly on the first batch of 90 wheeler 3, the earliest 00 hind already grown also!
Time is the fairest, no matter poverty is rich still, 30 years old of metropolises as scheduled and to!
90 hind the backbone force that has become a society slowly, the pillar in the family, once scallion teenager, clear pure girl is reincarnate nowadays for super grandma pa, inapproachable hot Mom, the idea that uses oneself and practice are overturning the educational view of older generation, also be born to plaint a lot ofly in the process that ego fumbles.
90 hind parents, it is mostly 50 hind, the 60 children after, experience is writtened guarantee by parents' desolate gloomy too, witnessed 70 hind parental ashamed remorses, had cold-shouldered 80 hind of parents indulgent, he does not want to let him sink not Gan not the parental affection of Ga in eddy, begin to pay close attention to Yo common sense, mostly the mobile phone installs Yo software, foreword of growing Xiaocheng of a few cheeper downloads even on some mobile phones.
90 hind no matter parents works much busier, can take out little time accompany the child everyday, he can give child make tea powdered milk, meet the child change diaper, meeting training child moves, meeting patience gives the child taletelling, dare bend over to accompany the child to play on the ground.
90 hind parents won't allow to come loose by the child raise, won't give others nurse the child easily, the inurbane requirement of won't indulgent child. 90 hind parents has a Yo almost classics.
Serve as the first batch however 90 hind novice pa Mom, can they also be faced with a lot of real pressure and domestic contradiction euqally?
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One, economy is contradictory
Common saying says, economic base decides superstructure, in the times that this prices soars, the extent that wages of husband and wife rises does not follow to go up, two people feed one everybody child indeed not easy, especially 90 hind be in the majority with front courtyard of singleton the bride's side more, most propbably of problem of provide for the aged also is heavy burden.
2, the family is contradictory
Front courtyard of singleton the bride's side mostly as a child by parental coddle, there can be a bit selfishness above disposition of hard to avoid, in matrimony, the meeting when the likelihood is handling relation of spouse concern, wife and mother meets many troubles, add on 90 hind the thing that contacts as a child is more, the thought can be opened a little a few, in Yo science, careful feed is paid attention to quite on the problem, this just the Yo with older generation the thought can come into being huge conflict, mix in older generation of the respect that bring child so new one generation can produce difference and contradiction again, affected domestic harmony.
3, the job and family are contradictory
90 hind novice pa Mom just is in a career rise period, find place of a balance very hard sometimes in the job and life, the investment in if be in,working is too much, can lose a lot of chances that communicate with the child, parentage is affected; If want to be accompanied more,accompany the child, there is one party to want sacrifice necessarily between husband and wife so a bit, need chooses a relatively smooth and steady, comfortable job direct perhaps abdication becomes full-time treasure father or treasure Mom.
03
Although 90 hind the question with parental right meeting has a lot of, but 90 hind parental Yo view will be more scientific!
Most 90 hind parents can hold to this tripartite face:
One, company is best grow
Raised child to big time can accompany darling to grow once upon a time, and 90 hind parents, it is office worker mostly, the time that can accompany darling is less and less, how work evenly and raise child to become one big pain spot of the parent. In the traditional idea that raise child, the time that accompanies darling grows better more, and new era raises child, although accompany the time of darling,be inferior to greatly once upon a time, but the quality of company is higher and higher.
2, it is the most important that equality is communicated
In the past, "Do not lay become a useful person " , " the dutiful son gives below bludgeon " idea all the time implant is in China parental Yo in the idea. Close child the communication that communication more is from above to below, parents is in to maintain his the majesty before the child, often with strict, inside the figure of collect, not good at expression appears. And it is a singleton more female 90 hind parents, although be judged to be for a time " disposition ego " , " do not understand share " , " the most alone generation " , but after parenting more apt communicates love bravely to the child, church child expresses love, the language that also is willing to use active, affirmation more goes praising the child. In the meantime, they take the equality communication with the child seriously very, can listen attentively to the child's aspirations seriously, is not commanding place parent style. Below such ideal drive, 90 hind parents is paid attention to build to be full of growing environment of love and valued, often also maintaining more close parentage with the child.
3, pay attention to extracurricular education of the child more
Deepen as what world each country communicates, force of internationalization eye shot, innovation, leader force waits new talent concept a moment to become 90 hind the educational objective that parents pursues. In the process that developing the child so, they besides making sure child foundation education does well, foster to extracurricular also very on heart. In extracurricular time, 90 hind the regulation that parents won't give the child to install conventions normally, wanting them only is not willfully make a trouble, so even if entered disaster parent to also can be excused. This with 80 hind parent requirement child " good " the regulation is to differ somewhat really.
Probably as a result of great majority 90 hind it is a singleton female reason, often be denounced to be " the generation person that break down " , this kind of word became alone, traitorous, selfishness on their body hard the label of efface. But after parenting, they are none inferior however on the show that leaves generation in education, they use with when the point of view that all takes and idea are him renown: Without affect domestic condition, without affect the status, break through the hedge of traditional education, the means carry out that uses oneself is going to attribute his educational outlook.
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A lot of 90 hind parents, experience those who spend him childhood to be short of break, understand this kind of vacancy can give him child brought consequence. So, we see gladly, they walked out of a tradition mostly " severe father loving mother " domestic mode, more between attention and child interact and accompany, with the child be " Yi Shiyi is friendly " relation.
This father, giving the daughter of a few months wash one's hair, little hand of the child is touching father's face, those who keep is happy crying " father father... "
This father, see mom holding the child in the arms to do not have a law to have a meal, decisive had received the child, oneself are being held in the arms.
"Son, hear you like spider a person adept in martial arts and given to chivalrous conduct? Come, change good clothes, pa takes you to learn! Pa takes you to learn!!
In stream congested subway, one takes the father of child alone, maintain asleep child with solid arm
Young 90 hind father, the day has not shined, risking severe cold to run in snow ground, drew a tremendous piggy admire to surprise!
And he so do, it is to give 21 months only big, like the daughter with strange admire, send a surprise.
Know the father and mother of company, be worth to nod assist for them most!
