The child too dillydally, the settlement that you may not know the method of child dillydally!_News

Eat quickly, otherwise meal wants cool;

Sleep quickly, will rise not to come again tomorrow otherwise;

Get up quickly, go to school so that was late otherwise;

How to return a responsibility? How has not been exercise written good?

Quickly ah, gave a door to cry 20 minutes, you had not changed date clothes to now.

Each mother, is the speech above very familiar? Probably everyday a lot of parents need to cry on several times with the child; No matter have a meal, writing job, sleep, get up, cannot leave mom talk on and on just go doing.

Because mom feel,that is the child, too dillydally, must urge. . . . . .

Occasionally mom can feel puzzled, all along works I agile, how be born work so dilatory " enemy " ?

Mom scene one:

Awake everyday I call the child to get up, wait for my breakfast to had been done, discover the child still is washing gargle. Good not easy when he eats breakfast, the result is slow ah, get me urgently feel nervous in the heart! It is every time urge by, "Eat quickly, must be late otherwise! Must be late otherwise!!

Mom scene 2:

"To me everyday job of writing of for company child resembles sufferring cruel torture -- resemble be being worn in the decoct on oily boiler same ah! Often was not to write a word a long time, silent reads aloud me to want to keep back keep back, I still cannot help scolding him finally, compose course of study to want the end in the cry of the roaring in me and child every time! Compose course of study to want the end in the cry of the roaring in me and child every time!!

Mom scene 3:

"A lot of mom go to work by day, study still looks after children after coming back in the evening, attend class, and be opposite with best condition as far as possible even the child, the child has ground of bit of what a sign of disturbance or trouble to be like person meaning very much, family can say is me do mom not was in charge of good child, but I am very tired also ah, go to work by day, come back to be returned so that teach him in the evening, not obedient, maintain so that work hard well! " ...

These aspirations serve as mom are you familiar? But, be in when us when seeing child dillydally, want to help dillydally of child give up with respect to of one mind, we should like to ask serves as mom you have true care to perhaps had noticed backside of child dillydally behavior is having power of what kind of psychology, demand of what kind of affection having?

(one) , not be child dillydally, however. . . . .

What the physiology rhythm of children, life rhythm follows us to Your Excellency namely originally is a little different, occasionally they have a meal slower than us, brush one's teeth slower than us, because think intended dillydally,not be, however their ability only this just. And decide the child is dillydally, cannot be measured with the parent's rhythm as the standard, however with with age the child's speed serves as reference, of course, the child that the child that always also cannot take others home adds with oneself makes contrast.

Proposal: The need that serves as mom respects the rhythm of children, cannot the too anxious behavior level with adult asks the child is accomplished, should not censure the child impatiently more. After all they had endeavored, still be short of your requirement, also fasten too exacting the child that you love most, however slowly the life rule that adjusts children, slowly accelerate rhythm.

(2) , they are not reason expect dilatory, however. . . . .

When the child is keeping operation, rate is slower, because the strength of oneself is slow,not be, more be too over- most beg perfect. And this kind of consciousness, it is the parent and the environment all round commonly aeriform in bring to bear on to the child, because fear to inscribe err, written word is illegible, do not do best, so the child is writing exercise to hesitate, it is to do not have self-confidence, always generate suspicion to his behavior. Resemble writing line of business every time same, written word a little not orderly, write again afresh with respect to erase.

Proposal: To having the children of slow coach, regard pa as Mom always cannot be hurried child, if do not listen urgent can let the child become only more angst is disturbed, more " of " perfect creed, can remind a little below. Write line of business for instance, the feeling is not orderly brush those who all over to revise the result with rubber, you can pack up rubber to brush first, let them learn to believe them, slowly adjust good convention.

(3) , correct guiding, than urgent, scold more effective

The dillydally of the child in the life, because do not have the idea of time,be. This is a kind of common circumstance, because children do not know the "5 in mom mouth really minute " " half hours " even " a hour " it is after all what kind of, it is after all how long period of time. Resemble this kind of circumstance so, as the parent, you can be used time or mobile phone alarm clock serves as remind, for instance you want the child 5 minutes to brush one's teeth wash a face, a hour finishs exercise, then you take alarm clock to set very corresponding time, let the child feel the time sense of real life, 5 minutes, half hour is after all occasionally how long, let them slowly nurturance time idea.

Occasionally the child goes out dillydally, this kind of circumstance needs those who serve as mom to chat with the child well, do not think up the door because of the child, do not want where to go to and do not go out tardy, the dillydally that cause.

Occasionally child dillydally, because attention is not centered,be, e.g. writing course of study gazes around, want to drink water a little while, think a toilet a little while, such very influence efficiency. There is what operation tonight with respect to understanding child when receiving the child to come home so, psychology must make a plan, when to finish sleep; Return the home to also need not let him write line of business instantly first next, have a meal first however drink the toilet on water, provide time next, write line of business than letting him like a hour, cannot come out to have a thing casually, such time are long, the child slowly learned time program, protect the child's attention, improve working efficiency.

Additionally notable is, in hurried child when also should notice to use a word;

For instance " at once, we should go to two places a little while " , instead " I hope we can go out after 5 minutes, want to go to two places today, and be apart wants the car Cheng of a many hour "

Offer an alternative to the child: If we can go out 15 minutes, won't be late before the film is broadcasted, if cannot punctual go out, will see one share less, perhaps will look only tomorrow again. What cannot remind child dillydally directly is sequential, let themselves consider consequence however: If present exercise has not finished, did not have a law at 6 o'clock punctual go attending class of painting and calligraphy, what thing can you produce? Make the child active think so.

Actually, when parents moment of negative sentiment reductive, the child will be easier sober, all dillydally decrease, must give some of patience relatively to treat the child so.

When teaching the child, seem to pulling a snail to be in. Once we urge him, bluff he, blame him, pull him, pull him, want to kick him even, but we ignored the child to resemble snail however same, had used up main.

If become us rein in footstep, we can discover the child's heart is kind-hearted, the child's eye also is forthright and sincere, in there is life on child body original the best one side.

Then so we might as well a bit more patient, grow each when feel the child of the intention a little bit and progress.