Is the child introvert how to do?

Say first: Introvert, be bad really?

Have a few children, behave possibly at ordinary times some " bashful " , or " slow heat " . For instance:

A bit nervous below new case;

Encounter stranger, appear a bit disturbed;

Still be a little baby when, do not like to be held in the arms by others, want oneself familiar family to hold in the arms only;

See kin friend, also not be willing to greet sb enthusiasticly;

Always see other little girl play by, very few oneself are participated in, even if is participated in, also was to look very long, just can decide to play...

Is such expression bad?

Actually, this basically is by a child " temperamental " of the decision.

What define in psychology " temperamental " , it is to show a person's immanent character is idiosyncratic, be like introversion and extroversion, brave with gentle. It is inherent normally, is not acquired learn and come.

For instance, some children are very natural below new case very comfortable, get used to ability very strong; And some children are a few more careful, need more time to suit, and more adult support, ability feels safe in new environment.

Can be this kind of careful child, often be very attentive observer, they can acquire a lot of things from inside their observation, and, they more apt considers a case first before the action, is this a characteristic that has an advantage very much?

So, temperament is not the thing that the child chooses, also not be the stuff that the parent creates. Not " correct " or " mistake " , " better " or " worse " temperamental.

Just, below different social culture condition, the child generation preference of can different temperament mixes our hard to avoid expect.

For instance, in the culture that in us the country goes, more the preference is gentle and quiet, a few shier, be opposite especially girl, but recently a few years, be like more the preference is active, a few bolder.

Even if is such, face the child of an introversion, slow heat, also do not need to think way " change " the child's temperament. We can respect slow hot sex of the child, help him learn the skill that he needs at the same time, so that get used to new case smoothly, or new person.

Although you may discover, no matter how do you guide, the child prefers and 9 good friends play together, is not with one swarm the person plays together, but this is very normal, different child has different gregarious kind, the amount that has a friend is not a main factor certainly, the quality of friendship just is.

How to bear the child of slow warm up?

1, period of time:

Whether does the child have specific " difficult period of time " ? Rise early for instance, before sleeping, tired, tired when.

2, environment:

Still be slow below all environments heat, be still slower below certain environment heat? For instance, when some children go neighbour home playing, behave very easily, but appear nervous to noisy bazaar, park, pressure is very great.

3, character:

Does the child appear more careful than someone else? So when he faces adult, appear more relaxed, when still facing dot, appear more relaxed?

Every child is actually different, even if be often bashful child, encounter a new teacher one day, he liked suddenly likely also to go up, the reason may be this teacher and him favorite little one's mother's sister grows so that resemble -- -- so you are not guessed forever give below the child one second to be able to cast an edge with who.

4, exciter

Some exciter, when can bringing about the child to participate in an activity, feel difficult. For instance noise, light, movement is waited a moment.

Occasionally the child does not like a certain activity, probable because,be inside the color that has noisy musical sound, too much person, light is incommensurate; Still be to need a shoe to walk likely, the child stepped on incommensurate floor grain; Or the child was felt sticky sticky dye, sizy... for careful to child, the experience accepts these unfamiliar very hard.

1, let the child know you love him, and accept him

Harming oneself, do not harm the environment, circumstance that does not injure another person to fall, we can endeavor to respect the child's demand. For instance, the child does not like the person's particularly much circumstance, then we can arrange the child and a few close young associate to play together, is not to ask the clique that the child goes joining a few people is right.

2, do not stick label, do not change forcibly

The child that heats up slow with says: "You do not want so bashful " , this and say with the child: "You cannot do yourself " about the same.

3, the self-confidence that looks for an opportunity to rear the child

The attention observes what the child likes truly, have what technical ability, spend some of time and child to play the thing that he is interested in truly together, witness the child progress in the dribs and drabs on this thing, feedback and encourage in time to the child. Indrawn, careful child, often dedicated strength is good also.

4, for child development gregarious skill offers comfortable opportunity

Alleged " comfortable opportunity " , namely with the child for present gregarious ability, the opportunity with not great pressure. For instance:

With more familiar 9 children play;

Want to go before new situation, inform the child ahead of schedule, let the child know " what can produce next " , can give the child sense of a kind of control, this can lessen his worry;

Allow the child to be in new situation is much observation, much suit a little while;

See new uncle aunt, the child feels embarrassed to say with the language " uncle the aunt is good, good " when, allow the child to use smile and be looked attentively at and the other side greets sb...

5, if you understand the child present feeling, help him come out with language expression please.

For instance: "You build the castle with sand in elder brother of winter seeing a winter, do you want to see us you can be joined? Do you want to see us you can be joined??

6, undertake in the home socialization interacts regularly.

Because be to be in oneself home, this is the child the most familiar, environment that also feels the safest, meet with family and friend here, make children organic meet what be familiar with, gregarious skill practices in safe environment.

1, " My Friends And Me " (my friend and I) author: Lisa Jahn-Clough

Conflict and discomfort also can happen between the friend, but we are final and proper can mutual understanding, mutual excuse, had handled the small contradiction between us.

2, " Big Al " (big guy) author: Andrew Clements

Big Al of this big guy wants to make friend very much, but grow too greatly because of oneself, and appearance is a bit fearsome still, small fish people dare not play with it. Until one day, big Al helped the small fish that encounters risk people, the goodness that let small fish see his and brave, won true friendship.

Big Al proved a such things: Want to win true friendship, not be you look what kind of, however what did you do for the friend.

3, " Little Blue And Little Yellow " (Xiaohuang and Xiaola) author: Leo Lionni

Xiaohuang and Xiaola are a good friend, one day, their two happy ground come a big hug, did not think of -- they become green!

4, " How Do Dinosaurs Play With Their Friends? " (dinosaurian how with the friend an amuse oneself? ) author: Jane Yolen

If dinosaurian friend comes,play in its home, how to meet? Does dinosaurian meeting hide his tip lorry? Does dinosaurian meeting reject to be shared with friends? Is dinosaur met a drawing book throw about?

The author was revealed to the child with very nifty character " what how play with friends is very good " .

I understand pair of parents for, be opposite especially itself disposition very for the parents of extroversion, those who have an introversion, the child of slow heat, the likelihood feels to have challenge sex too.

You may hope very much: When relatives and friends wants to adopt oneself child, the child does not cry easily; Go when square plays, the child can be participated in quickly, is not to stand by to watch half hour...

But, to foster healthy self-respect of the child, the child needs father mother to accept his original model very much. After all " temperamental " this thing is inherent, also do not have the cent of stand or fall.

Notice when us, when the characteristic that admires the child truly, we just can adjust the way that we teach truly, go getting used to the child, satisfy individual requirement of the child. Let the child feel he can be loved, very important, have self-confidence, and capable!