We often say, random quadrature does not become circumference, using the education to the child to go up is euqally applicable, love plays the nature that is the child, some parents think the child errs, like to play what is be troubled by important thing, so every time when the child gets into trouble, the metropolis is appropriative the part of umbrella, and say to the people of send a punitive expedition against: "Is it worthwhile and child lower oneself to the same level as sb? " , in small make up look, a kind itself of this kind of care is pair of children additional kind of harm, now socially " ursine child " increasing, the car that is blown to spend in the village, even the scree on train orbit is " ursine child " people classic, become to avoid the child such " social terrorist " , the parent wants to be able to establish rule, touch when the child when coming up against these 4 bottom lines, the move that fasten be used to, although we do not advocate bludgeon education, but special situation is special treating also is not not OK mix below ~ small make up look together, the child is touched when coming up against which 4 bottom lines, does the parent fasten be used to to wear?
The parent wants to be able to establish rule, the child if lay a finger on these 4 bottom lines, the move that fasten be used to
1, steal a thing: As a child mom admonishs I and my elder brother: "The hour steals gold when the shot is big secretly " , because took mom's one yuan, black-and-blue there still is psychological shadow presumably now, but I do not blame mom, because this is the custom in the home, because inobservant just got a lesson so, it doesn't matter can complain! Small make up think this custom should be in child firm begin to remember things when be about to stand below, if others him some is done not have, we can be envied, but cannot be gotten with wrong step, this is the main reason of humanness, hope children can as a child with respect to embalm.
2, see what is about what: Others of some children not to be exposed to has a what thing, others has him to be about to have, see other little girl has a toy occasionally, return the home to begin to cry be troubled by, be troubled by should let parents be bought to oneself, this moment does not want the parent softhearted, resembling because of this is Panduola demon case is general, if the child thinks oneself cry be troubled by can let parental compromise, so next time he still is met so do, because have the child rarely,know stop where it should stop. So the parent should teach the child: Father mother shops to you is to be very fond of you, but you cannot take mother of this minatory father!
3, err to escape: "Why do you want so do? " , "I am not done, it is others lets me so do! " , believe major parent hears such answer can reborn gas, because of err thing be about to dare admit to dare take on, of one be ignorant of the practice that how can you be man v/arc true man to escape? Then this is in with respect to requirement parent add education more to the child at ordinary times, tell the child, err not terrible, terrible is to connect the courage that admit one's mistake to be done not have! Must not learn " ursine child " people the parent, choose to harbor only after the child errs!
4, what thing should say a condition: Some children like to say a condition particularly, the mobile phone that if oneself eat a meal to have to reward oneself,plays half hours, cartoon that if oneself do not do a person today,can look half hours is waited a moment, it is very normal that the parent gives the child a few active encouragement, but if if child everything wants to mix,parents says a condition, that problem is serious, the parent had be toed put on the heart, if after the child filial if you need to say a condition, is that very terrible? Want to let the child know, he should do some things, and not all thing, did can have get one's own back, otherwise the anticipation of child of redound short of, the child can be accepted hard.
The parent wants to be able to establish rule, the child if lay a finger on these 4 bottom lines, the move that fasten be used to! The child can make the appearance that parent place expects later, that sees domestic education whether use a heart, those who write down so that a word says is particularly good: "Let the child correct, be inferior to correcting oneself first " , of the parent teaching by personal example as well as verbal instrution can be best education to the child! Wish our small lovely people can be brought up happily oh ~
