Saying path: "The home has one old, if have one treasure. " we to " treasure " general understanding is wisdom person, beacon light, but set of this kind of part may go against posterity grow, also had brought great pressure to oneself, unavailable carefree old age lives. So, how should old people do the treasure in good home? Shi Chenzhuo of psychotherapy of science department of heart of hospital of total fleet of armed police Guangdong expresses, have the treasure in two kinds of typical homes, it is a town curtilage treasure, 2 it is happy treasure, see an old person how choose completely.
Chen Zhuo of division of psychotherapy of science department of heart of hospital of total fleet of armed police Guangdong, Master expresses, "The home has one old " medium " old " refer in particular to the age for certain, and the demarcate of this one age is in at present we can decide our probably after retire. Old people is in after retiring, its society part is met till wear off is lost, and domestic role can increase gradually, and suffer traditional idea effect, most old person can continue to dedicate for the family, it is sacrifice even, what regard the family his responsibility and senile life is all, regard the value of survive as this. This kind of old person can say is " town curtilage treasure " , but they live very tiredly however. Some likelihoods still cannot get the understanding of junior, be thought to be Suo of take advantage of one's seniority, by accident.
Chen Zhuo points out, olden " town curtilage treasure " be in at ordinary times ancestral temple consecrate, close an ability to be able to be employed in the crisis only, the town with so medium home curtilage treasure people also want to know, momently exhort and cannot have best effect. Give a youth appropriately the space that a few freedom develop, when junior is really difficult or guidance and proposal give out again when junior is consulted, be helpful for junior not only so grow, also can let junior know the value of the old person.
But if old people " take advantage of one's seniority " , was used to will preach with experience youth, a lot of moment, even if says reasonably, youth also won't of feel grateful. After king uncle is for instance emeritus, the Xiaogong that often meets a son turns in department. But king uncle discovers various problems every time, not be to feel the worker is lazy, be environmental difference. The son begins to return patient explanation " company need human nature turns management " etc, flat later strong king uncle shout: "I 40, can you be in charge of me again? Can you be in charge of me again??
Chen Zhuo points out, the junior in the home actually the biggest to the old person hope is " the old person is happy " , and happy treasure people below the situation that stabilizes in junior life, when needing oneself, have this kind of god-given and muddleheaded wisdom. They more lives that can have lived oneself, accomplish oneself happy.
Chen Zhuo says, "She once had seen an old person, he is a standard " happy treasure " . This old person is an emeritus heart physician, children people the life need not oneself worry about, his emeritus life is very so bored also. But in accidental opportunity falls, he discovers he is interested particularly to psychology, the book that see psychology technically then and listen to relevant course, and obtained the letter of psychotherapy respect. Finally because this doctor of heart internal medicine is perfectness psychological knowledge is returned to hire by a hospital, coming true again is the life value that increased his even.
Chen Zhuo suggests, the old person is in after retiring, do not stop the pace that increases oneself, rational wants to be about hard to come true, do the thing that oneself like, the study ability that does not doubt oneself, memory, start work ability. This doctor proved, want you to strive for only, total meeting has get one's own back.
Civil | Weekly of healthy preserve one's health
Responsibility edits Yao Zanyuan
