We do not know a lot of moment how to refuse,
Because of the look that we petition via removing others,
We fear to make others disappointed,
Also be afraid of I am sorry that ethics morality,
We always think others has difficulty to should help.
Then, a lot of people are very much moment always grants whatever is requested to others,
Again bitter again tired also won't tell to others,
Always still be the expression of a pair of buoyant,
Let others feel he has a pair of warmhearted forever,
Feel oneself life is You Zai You Zai forever,
Without trouble, do not have place to beg, when can be people go through fire and water.
Until discover place of the other side begs him one day helpless,
Or oneself also as it happens is caught up with critical issue needs to handle,
Fail to promise place of the other side to beg,
The other side not only do not understand, removed rancor even,
Think oneself are to not be willing to help each other,
Be do not put opposite party in the eye.
Also him heretofore just realizes gradually once oneself are how foolish,
When Ceng Ji begins he is just to help each other,
The gratitude that eyeful of the other side has his heart filled with all over the face,
To later the time is much, the other side just says lightly " thank " ,
Again later, the mouth of a pair of of course enrages the other side,
It is each other consider as best friend only,
So this process by oversight.
Also heretofore, just realize or from at the beginning oneself do not have a principle too,
Overmuch pay final nurturance termlessly the habit of a kind of of course,
Your too much good intention is helped, exorbitant grants whatever is requested,
Brought up the other side finally you should such psychology,
Even if you were paid 1000 times, did not achieve the other side this to ask only,
The other side can think you too too fickle, undeserved association, to Yu Huai of your be troubled,
What you harvest finally is the grievance of the resentment of the other side and own bellyful.
Had turned round to think carefully,
The other side asks inconsequently or him blame can solve inside capacity limits,
Should say " not " when should say " not " ,
Proper rejection probably instantly of the other side can become aware indolence is fast a bit,
But the other side can seek other measure very quickly,
Very quick also meeting understands your difficulties that one is reluctant to mention,
Friendship not only won't destroy, or each other will be more straight-out wait for,
Say accordingly: Want to learn to refuse, rejecting may not is harm.
