[whether does your child lack safe sense? ]
Generally speaking, feeling element has influence child security at 3 o'clock:
1, the harmonious degree of the relation between parents;
2, parental ego the capacity that controls a mood;
3, the stability that concerns with the child and close rate rate, and warm atmosphere of the family.
[make the child obedient, the target that is you? ]
The mankind is the biggest demand is safe feeling. When the child hears the parent's word, parents can know: What is he doing, how to work, can have what result probably, can have safe feeling so.
I ask a child: "If you are done completely according to the word of father mother, can you become hundred little father and mother? " he answers: "40% . "40% ..
Parents, become of 40% you,
Be the target that you develop the child?
[the child, what is what need truly? ]
The dialog of a girl of 10 years old and mom.
The child says: "I want to drink fruit juice. "I want to drink fruit juice..
Mom says: "Drink what fruit juice, drank water to go. Drank water to go..
The child says again: "I want to loosen. "I want to loosen..
Mom says: "That writes a composition,
Writing a composition is best loosened. Writing a composition is best loosened..
Parents spends a lot of money, time and energy to create good living food to study an environment for the child. And what the child needs most is understanding, admitted affection environment.
[if you teach the child a kind of competence only, what ability should be? ]
Thoughout the history most those who puzzle a person is the relation between person and person. The relation decides healthy, life and death, happy, success. Every parents reviews his life to be able to know, the most difficult on the world is not to learn knowledge, learn skill, if where manages,kiss affection, friendship, love and working relationship however.
What is the capability that so the child needs most after all? Be get along with the person, dissolve contradictory ability,
It is to be able to be in all sorts of pressure and concussion, what still can pick up a heart again is halcyon with harmony, can continue to be in calm in pursuit life aim, can have control rise and fall the ability of the world of free and easy!
Fight the ability of the setback namely.
The relation of you and child decides
The child can listen to you, how much can listen to
The person knows to want to ask a person to handle affairs, guard a pass department does well. Want certainly child, do well with child relation first. Ask oneself first before certainly, if will measure an impact with 10 minutes, a few minutes are you and child relation?
If under 8 minutes, love first, go again certainly, waste otherwise kongfu. Every parent thinks he loves the child,
Love and did not love you to say not to calculate, the child said to just calculate.
[the child is not you, the name with love, abreact the object of the mood]
Scar of majority of National People's Congress originates parents, originate the word that parents says, thing that do. Very few parents realizes: If you say, the likelihood is the mist haze that envelops child lifetime, the thing that does is child lifetime cannot the scar that cure heals.
Words of some your really good are child lifetime look forward to,
Some things that you did not do are child lifetime expect.
To a lot of parents character, the child is to abreact the object of the mood, realize the tool of him unfinished long-cherished wish, often making the name of love however.
[the environment that what the child needs is safe warmth]
When having much requirement, warning and criticism to the child when you, what you bring the child is a lot of angst, concern and distrust, the environment of the safe warmth that the child needs, their itself resembles contain the seed of powerful force, when should having enough security, warmth and support, can grow.
Become only when the parent is fearless, ability gives the child real safe sense, becoming you is not a requirement, when be admitted however and be being encouraged, child ability feels warm.
[the shortcut that think, morning and evening must repay]
Parents says: "Because we are a n experienced person, the roundabout way that has taken does not want to let you go again, the trap that meets does not want to let you jump again. The trap that meets does not want to let you jump again..
The times is changing, the crooked road that you encounter, perhaps be the child road, the trap that you encounter perhaps exists far from.
You think even if those who avoid, it is crooked road really, it is trap, also need to let the child the society identifies and be answered, not be to replace, capability is obtained in experience and struggling. The shortcut that think, morning and evening must repay.
[the way that the child feels love the most easily, it is a hug]
Often listen to the child to say: "Mom is held in the arms " ,
Actually that is to say: "Mom loves to love me " .
The most important way is in embracing the expression in all love, also be the way that feels love the most easily.
Too much parent is busy make money buy a room to buy a car,
Leave home and happiness is further and further however.
Spelled old order to give child creature qualitative condition when you, a lot of moment are the origin of child scar however, you make he and the classmate all round different, make he is lacked with most fellow student's same experience, make he is become by the object of jealousy or attack. No matter you gave him what to buy, cannot make up for be short of the company that break, with the loneliness because of this keep bottom of the heart.
More terrible than dying is alone,
By the abandon, feeling that did not love.
[the child's biggest safe move, it is father mother is deeply attached to each other]
9 years old of girls say to mom: "See you and father love each other, I feel very warm, the most important is I have safe feeling. The most important is I have safe feeling..
Safe feeling is the mainest demand of the child, on the foundation that feels safe, the child just learns attentively likely, healthy, happy.
Not be to send the child to learn various lessons to best education of the child, it is husband and wife each other love each other, found a warm domestic environment.
[believe, it is the child all start]
Parents brings the greatest harm of the child, either the house is not quite big, have a car, have fashionable clothing and other articles of daily use, the greatest harm is: Your concern to the child, debase and distrust; Him parents complaints are heard everywhere, brawl endlessly.
Former let the child do not believe his,
Latter lets the child do not believe life.
And believing is the starting point that makes everything.
If the child lives in criticism, learn to censure; If the child lives in force, fight with respect to the society; If the child lives,mocking in, go to school will be cowardly;
If the child lives,encouraging in, go to school will be self-confident; If the child lives in safety, go to school will be trustful; If child life is in,be approbated and in friendly environment, love is searched on the world with respect to the society.
Affect the life position that the child's is him parents truly.
When child occurrence problem, what we should ask above all is: Where and I very picture? How should be I changed?
You changed, the child can run.
Unalterable, adopt study change please.
