The pupil of one Hangzhou spits saliva greatly in the composition -- mom takes a little sister to go to Hong Kong only Disney plays, however oversight oneself.
He writes so:
"61 Children's Festivals, be the red-letter day that attributes us? But, but ought to the top of one's bent libertinism, this returns important happy festival time than birthday to me, was disregarded severely by pa Mom however. Hey! I know I am an elder brother, must let a little sister everywhere, want to do the person of a magnanimous, although I did not speak out, but still get hurt extremely in my heart. But still get hurt extremely in my heart..
See these words, there is the boy of an expression sadness it seems that before my, he is installed to be in vitreous bottle, all the time aloud is saying him one's innermost thoughts and feelings, but be not heard however.
Because of those words, he just said a lot of times to parents in the heart, there is courage to speak out however in real life.
Unlock as 2 embryoes policy, 2 treasure family is like emerge much more general rise.
For opposite Yu Dabao, 2 treasure are a stranger, he and the emotional need parents between 2 treasure go foster and be being built.
Respect big treasure, before wanting 2 treasure, want and big treasure " discuss " .
A lot of children are in do not be willing below the condition that mom lays 2 embryoes, there were 2 treasures however in the home, result, big treasure is very bad to the manner of 2 treasure, also meet often wait for one's chance goes harming 2 treasure.
So, want 2 treasure, should shift to an earlier date and big treasure " discuss " .
The child is an independence is individual, discuss with big treasure, let him experience him to be respected, also by care, won't go with a hostile attitude so look upon 2 treasure.
To avoid the inner conflict of big treasure, before parents can let big treasure be born in 2 treasure, like to go up he.
To parents, what should let big treasure understand most is, as the arrival of 2 treasure, his part can have change, guide big treasure how to do an elder brother or elder sister, and how to go take care of and caressing 2 treasure. For instance:
Mix originally through game, draw cartoon, elder brother or elder sister the duty of this part and influence, little inputs big treasure. Also can take big treasure, contact with the child that lives in 2 treasure family more.Pregnancy, do not want to part with big treasure, such doing won't let big treasure because had 2 treasure oversight,experience mom not only oneself, and, the gold that also is heart of responsibility of education big treasure period. For instance:
Let big treasure often separating the 2 treasure speech in abdomen, let big treasure participate in the thing that buys 2 treasure need, seek the opinion of big treasure, enhance the responsibility heart of big treasure. Also want to tell big treasure, because had his help, so 2 treasure are in mom's abdomen, ability will be so shrewd, mom just is met a bit more relaxed, enhance the achievement of big treasure to feel.Big treasure is original to 2 treasure be very fond of, because,be his puny and lovely, can discover when big treasure, this bub can be contended for with him grab a toy, even, when parents pays close attention to force for the most part to be on the body of 2 treasure, big treasure may be about to adopt a few " the action " .
You can discover, original already the big treasure that Buddhist monastic discipline suckles, begin to making a noise to want to drink a milk again, carry make water even not wet, for no reason at all cries to be troubled by greatly greatly, do not be willing to go up nursery school...
Big treasure these behavior make retreat on psychology row, this is a kind of ego uses the defense mechanism that prevents angst. People is in get setback or face worry, should stimulate when waiting for condition, abandon what already matured quite via what acquire getting used to skill or means, and the inchoate level that go back develops to psychology, will deal with current circumstance with primitive, babyish method, in order to reduce oneself angst.
So, appear in big treasure when withdrawing an action, parental ten million is necessary blame he, should remind oneself instead, be too little to the attention of big treasure.
So, to much embryo family, how should parents balance big treasure and the relation between 2 treasure?① gives two children different love
Mix to big treasure for 2 treasure, because the age is different, the love that they need is different also, 2 treasure need more it is to take care of, and big treasure, the likelihood just needs you to enjoy his picture seriously, a manual work, or they join for company together the work of the school.
Simoduoke says psychologist Ai Rui: "I can learn the way of love through loving to go only. "I can learn the way of love through loving to go only..
Get enough attention when big treasure only, feel the child that oneself are being loved, they just can express their love to others.
Because I am a person brings two children, say somebody will assist me so, let me time goes accompanying big treasure, it is impossible almost. How to do?
Girl likes to read a book, I recalled a way, we look twice same this book, after looking, two people talk the respective feeling after reading.
This means makes girl particularly happy, when be free, I also can do handiwork together with her, these are the my specific means that pay close attention to big treasure.
② makes big treasure take care of the opportunity of 2 treasure
Live at ordinary times in, parents can be big treasure hook in oneself " comrade-in-arms " , choose a few right things, in letting big treasure share daily life, come.
The Yo of this Hu Ke way is particularly good, she can create an opportunity intentionally, ranganji illuminates Gu Xiaoyu, the purpose lets how Ji Youzhao is considered and protect the little brother's responsibility namely, also help An Jishu establish his to be in as the elder brother the mana before the little brother.
Shop in the supermarket, to small fish bought snacks, hu Ke says he cannot be opened intentionally, let small fish look for an elder brother to open.
Be in a supermarket, small fish do not be willing to walk, want to take a car, hu Ke face shows embarrassed look to say: "I cannot shift two cars " , later, an Ji is in charge of pushing a little brother, hu Ke is responsible and absorption shop.
What need reminds is, when if big treasure is in,taking care of 2 treasure, did the business of a few in one's power, parents should give in time praise and praise -- prevent corporeal award, and the encouragement that goes up with spirit is given priority to.
③ is reasonable resolve the contradiction between two children
There is conflict between the child, if not be a circumstance very serious, can let themselves completely solve.
Nevertheless, contradiction should happen between two children, a lot of parents can blame big treasure, perhaps taking interrogatory tone to ask big treasure, produced what job.
Actually, not be big treasure bullied 2 treasure sometimes, however because 2 treasure age is small, do not understand the regulation of game, cry greatly when oneself need was not satisfied. Be blamed blindly and criticize big treasure, may let big treasure think parents is prejudicial, be fed up with small treasure. Often such, return the bad habit that may let big treasure nurturance lies or look for excuse.
" mom is preterhuman " in the little sister was overturned when and daughter wave girl are together, but, walk over when Gu Jingwen, one face gravity, when ask with the tone that blame, she says however: "I am playing with the little sister " .
Apparent, is lying.
If at that time Gu Jingwen's manner is gentle, perhaps can tell mother, because also want mom to hold in the arms,oneself are, angry mom is holding a little sister in the arms all the time, just overturn the little sister so.
④ is opposite because of age difference big treasure " kidnap kissing affection "
The parents of family of very much embryo, can have to big treasure " kidnap kissing affection " requirement, ask big treasure is letting 2 treasure. Actually, make such rigid demand, it is unreasonable.
After letting big treasure get respect only, ability hair goes from the heart care, self-effacing 2 treasure. This guides with respect to need parents, let 2 treasure respect big treasure, timely when, establish big treasure the authority before 2 treasure, make 2 treasure clear, "Elder brother " or " elder sister " this appellation at him for, what is real significance.
For instance, big treasure is playing to be out of shape the toy of the car, but 2 treasure also think very much,play.
Mom can say with big treasure so: "The elder brother is too marvellous really, the little brother adores you too, he wants to learn with you particularly, how to go operating this to be out of shape car. " want bigger than forcing treasure to share far so should get easily much.
Do not ask to big treasure " because you are big treasure, how you should be done so " . Let big him treasure realize however, oneself are an elder brother / elder sister, how I should be done so.
Make a person actively recipient than passivity forever, loving a person also is.
Of course, if be the fault of big treasure really, parents still should criticize education, but, do not censure the old as far as possible before the face of 2 treasure.
Say blood is thick at water, want parents to give two children same deep love only, see big treasure the language of backside of a few behavior, and solve a problem in time, believe two children can be deeply attached to each other very quickly.
