On July 1, chinese Zhejiang is defended inspect broadcasted first gear name is " accompany read mom " teleplay, the person such as You Meiting, Xu Yajun, Wu Junmei, Hu Xianxu, Zhang Zhaohui, Ceng Li, Hao Yang acts the leading role, in Suzhou, Shanghai and Wengehua 3 ground true condition films, with a few different identities accompany read mom to be a perspective, related the growing story between parents of family of student studying abroad of Wen Ge China and children.
Mei Ting, li Na of the personate in drama, it is the president of company of a cosmetic originally. Because the son goes to school in Wengehua,share campus bully approach, must drop domestic job, one is become to be accompanied full-timely toward Canada before read mom.
In accompanying read process, she encountered a variety of real difficulty. The conflict of culture of Chinese and Western, incommensurate to what the new student lives, with the son get along ground of occurrence contradiction, different lives apart as constant as facilities of marital feeling disaccord, home out of control...
Meanwhile, she still was encountered other 3 are accompanied read mom. They are accompanying read process in, seeking first-rate life status together, and handle way with the photograph of the child, husband.
"Accompany read " topic drama,
Contemporary family teachs pain spot in stamp
Wengehua, element has " mom village " say, accompany reading mom is a group, it is a kind of phenomenon. Now, a lot of families of Chinese chose mom to accompany the child to read to Wengehua, the lifestyle with the Chinese emigrant type that father home staying behind continues to earn money.
" accompany read mom " this teleplay jab became medium the pain spot that contemporary family teachs, disclose a parents to care very " accompany read " topic of this one heat.
Now nowadays, a lot of parents go abroad in the child not only when studying abroad, accompany read, take an examination of in, the university entrance exam, one's deceased father grind, go up in the child even nursery school when, parents want to choose to accompany read, deepness participates in the child's study to grow.
Actually, accompany read phenomenon to have in ancient time. Just, at that time, either will accompany by parents read, have special book however child will accompany a scholar.
Accompany read book child with scholar age similar, often be in charge of arranging a study, buy a book, take care of scholar daily life to wait, can learn together with the scholar even.
And now, accompany basically parents finish read this thing. It is parents not only, grandmother of grandfather grandma, grandfather undertake likely accompanying reading. Family neat go into work, can read better for the child only study.
Should accompany after all read? How should accompany read? These also become parents all the time since the problem of thinking, controversy.
"Accompany read " cent rank, which paragraphs is your home in?
first-order: The child does work, the parent beside supervise and urge directive
The child does work in the home, attention of total can afraid child does not center the parent, writing job efficiency the low, subject that won't become is too much.
Then, the parent sits in the child with respect to the choice beside, look at the child to do work, supervise and urge when the child wants to do other business on one hand the child is given priority to with exercise first, also can coach on the other hand the child's study.
Last year the end of the year, problem of every of A of platform of education of artificial intelligence of middle and primary school was released " pressure of job of writing of Chinese middle and primary school reports " .
The report shows, the parent of 91.2% has had the experience that accompanies the child to write line of business, accompany written parent to be as high as 78% everyday among them. And, child grade is higher, the parent accompanies the time that writes line of business to grow more.
The 2nd rank: Class of the extracurricular on the child, parent whole journey is accompanied
The child is accompanied to write line of business in the home, be most of the foundation accompany read, won't experience insolation drench after all.
Some parents can accompany exercise read upgrade to be accompanied for extracurricular class read, be in charge of what finish class on the child receiving not only send, and attend class in extracurricular class when the child when, the parent is met whole journey waits outside classroom door, perhaps walk into classroom and child one case attend a lecture.
A few days ago, the report says, a lot of old people take the car of a hour to accompany class of the extracurricular on grandbaby at every turn in high temperature day. These aged form have a common name: The grandma is accompanied read a group. Although the intense heat of summer is intolerable, but the old person expresses: "I still go so that move, it is good that the child grows an university to had reviewed. It is good that the child grows an university to had reviewed..
The 3rd rank: The child reads where, where does the parent follow
The most high-ranking " accompany read " expression is: The parent follows the child reads to other place.
Arrive from remote region near the school, arrive from the country city, from home abroad, the parent can read the school with go up better for children, not hesitate rent a house, remove, live apart even.
Be known as in the distance " the Asia is the biggest factory of the university entrance exam " the Anhui province learns in factories of 6 the Mao Tan that bring city only in the lie between grain oil inn of one wall, collecting a special group: Accompany read an old person. They are guarded silently beside junior, the life is tough, because do not wish,let only grandson the old road that generation is on him, struggle in social ground floor.
Teleplay " accompany read mom " study abroad mediumly accompany read also belong to this kind. Mom put down his career, far go to the seas and oceans to come to the side of the child, can learn better for the child.
Accompany read, accompany went out " elite " or " gigantic baby " ?
The parent is accompanied read, in the final analysis is the love that stems from pair of children, hope child has better progress in future. Accompany read, it is a kind of kind that allows parents to realize a desire really, but also existing a few abuse that cannot ignore.
3 years of audit the mom of 3000 multistage taxes
The 64th middle school of Wuhan city was executed a few this years " the open-door schooling, attend a lecture that push the door " policy of parent educational inspector, the parent of every student can listen to a class every months to the school at least.
Parent Dai Jihua is among them " the seniorest " , a attend a lecture is most. Come 3 years, her audit 3000 multistage taxes. Her meeting supervisory son, correct him to attend class " dozen wild " , can write down next key knowledge, can observe classmate learns bully people study method, to their go on a pilgrimage for Buddhist scriptures, after coming home, discuss with the son again.
She also is met serious attend a lecture, establish model for the son. Below her effort, achievement is in the downstream son Xiaohua in grade originally, result occupies year advanced position firmly already later.
Accompany read the parents in the building
Always city person Zhang Yilan accompanies a son to read in Changsha already 8 years, from him one grade reachs elementary school first 2.
Do good breakfast to send the child every morning go out, zhang Yilan goes to market buying food, come back to stew this the soup that go up is stewed on, do well wholesome, sit to ramble before computer parent forum reachs each grooming the webpage of the orgnaization.
The son classeses are over in the evening return the home, she should abstract the information that gets in a day into a few important words, in finite mother child say to listen to the son in communication time.
Zhang Yilan says, this building that she and son live is made fun of to call by parents " accompany read a building " . Next door in the evening if have very big TV reputation, can bring about the parent is complained, saying is to affect the child to rest. Parents reduce the burden on the life cautiously for the child.
The parent is accompanied the study result that even if the child can promote on certain level,reads, but, cause the child likely also to provide for oneself in human association, life the ability that waits for a respect is short of break, the undesirable habit of nurturance love ease and hate work.
A good friend in 3 years also was not handed in
"I have a classmate mom high school to accompany read 3 years, she classeses are over come home have a meal, unlike we are gang ground runs quickly to the dining room, as a result a good friend in she is 3 years also was not handed in. " Zhao Min of graduate student of Chinese people college is elegant express, "Accompany read time too long, the child makes a good friend very hard. The child makes a good friend very hard..
The parent is accompanied read can let the child be far from collective life, decrease to be communicated with the classmate, the opportunity of communication and play collective activity time, make they blend in collective hard, as time passes, the child can become easily alone, close.
Viability fails learn bully
Accompany when reading, some parents can not let the child contact housework, stripped the opportunity that child ego exercises. Such, the child can be depended on to domestic generation, reduce the life to provide for oneself ability.
After university of a few students graduates, still live hard provide for oneself, wanting to count another person everywhere. Go against the child to grow so actually.
Accompany read mom Ms. Xu to say, occasionally oneself are absent a few days, the bedroom dirty clothes that discovers a son piles mountain, he is disinclined even the sock to wash.
"Accompany if take,read hold bad to spend, let child nurturance the clothes will stretch one's hand, the meal comes the undesirable habit of dehisce, did not kill him instead? " she says anxiously.
By " accompany read " the family that cut apart concerns
Besides exercise brought immediate impact to child ability, accompany read also give the child because of the generation of more family problem to bring indirect negative effect likely.
Of high administrative levels accompany read, study abroad for example accompany read, different ground is accompanied read etc, can affect the life position with excellent original law court. A lot of parents can wait for each respect to produce new issue in feeling, career, economy, generate worry from this.
Accompanying when the parent in reading a process, infect this kind of angst to the child, the normal study that can affect the child instead and body and mind are healthy.
The parent " accompany read " have skill
Whether to choose " accompany read " , choose what arrangement " accompany read " , parents still need a basis advantages and disadvantages of actual condition balance. If parents decide finally " accompany read " , so, also have a few little skill!
Decrease negative, and rather than is applied pressure
A few parents are in " accompany read " when can exhort repeatedly the child: "You are close friends certainly good effort, serious study, otherwise you I am sorry the kongfu that we fluctuate in your body. " little imagine, such applying the study mood that presses can depressive child, serious word, meeting generation goes against the child turn over psychology.
Actually, it is when the parent beside the child " accompany read " , give the child various " love " when taking care of, need not the parent is wordy, child oneself can produce such opinion, feel if oneself do not try hard to learn, do not be opposite a long paying. When child achievement not when beautiful, they can generate greater pressure.
At this moment, what parents should do is more channel child, is not to grouse blindly; Decrease for the child negative, and rather than is applied pressure.
Close affection is interactive, aggravate of and rather than is contradictory
Research shows, because the parent accompanies writing job and 75.79% China parent and child had produced contradiction.
Last year the end of the year, dalian because learn problem in pairs,jump down from 5 buildings to father and son. Son in Dalian a college studies, father comes from native place Dalian is accompanied read. Because of study problem of the son, father and son two produced contradiction.
Accident that day, father and son two because study was caused,quarrel again. Intense when, father drops from 5 buildings below, the son sees shape also drops subsequently below. Fortunately, they are in the 4 buildings of apartment to extend a platform, this all falls on the platform of 4 buildings to father and son.
Accompany reading is the parent originally the afraid child, very good opportunity that has kissing affection interacting with the child, if interact this kind,evolve into contradictory aggravate, deviated from accompany read original intention. Patient, static heart, common heart, it is parents are accompanying the need in reading retentive.
Want already " accompany " the child, also want " read " the child
Accompany read accompany read, want already " accompany " the child, want again " read " the child. Regretful is, a lot of parents noticed " accompany " , and forgot " read " .
Xie Jia of 36 years old must make a round trip between two kinds of identities everyday " pass through " : By day, she is vice director of the middle-level of a state-owend enterprise, office; After coming off work, she became 5 years old of daughters with desk, accompany all sorts of extracurricular on the daughter to groom class.
But, she works hard this kind and without results the daughter studies the effect very well. She once signed up for 7 interest class one year to the daughter, remained 3 only nowadays.
She is not clear, why oneself sacrifice so much time accompanies the child, the child is behaved very commonly on each classes however.
Actually, this mother was accompanying the oversight in reading " read " the child's process. She does not know where the child's interest is after all, also do not know such accompanying to whether the child is willing to let her read.
The parent is accompanying read process in, "Accompany " the child is easy, "Read " the reflection with child criterion farther need and pay. Already " accompany " " read " , know the true think of a way in child heart, just be to accompany read dozen of right evolution formula.
Parents, whether had you had accompany read experience? Read about accompanying, how do you look?
