Why are more and more people not anxious married?
Somebody interviewed 3 to hold to not the person of marriage creed:
34 years old of female doctors, 30 years old of band male advocate sing, 22 years old of young girls... be in about " not marriage " on this problem, they spoke the aspirations of countless people.
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Yu Long of 30 years old, it is a band at present advocate.
About the reason that does not marry, he says quite calm: "Want conjugal age, but marry this thing does not attract me. But marry this thing does not attract me..
"It is OK also that I do not marry well off, marry won't become me add cent, why that marries even? Why that marries even??
Now this time, not be that already " marriage is consummate " time.
The man is not short of a gender, the woman does not lack cash, alone have a friend, dull have a network, a person passes happily all the same and pleased.
However, if be only,marry hastily, what can you encounter?
The gigantic baby spouse of aperture of the two width of cloth after the marriage before marriage, two people 4 eye can say nothing however relatively, abandoned ideal and ambition, assumed responsibility and pressure, in the end got a far from happy marriage however.
Marry before, it is to avoid harships together with the other side; Marry nowadays, the other side brings wind and rain, marry cost became high, marry proceeds becomes little however.
What is conjugal meaning after all?
Lin Xi ever had said a paragraph of such words:
"A lot of people marry, it is to seek a person that sees a movie together with oneself only, is not can share together see a movie the person of the result.
If be to seek a partner only, I do not wish to marry, myself a person can go to see a movie. Myself a person can go to see a movie..
Marriage should be the scintilla that the soul collides, live to old age in conjugal bliss certainly, is not dull the solace when, lay the obligation in.
Marriage is not important, it is important that love does not love ability.
All one's life too long, encounter make him loner more terrible than loneliness.
It is not difficult to marry, difficult is to face how to spend this endless lifetime without emotive person.
02
Candy of 34 years old, just the doctor graduates.
In speak of do not marry reason when, her reason appears more direct, "If I marry, still should be a foundation with love. Still should be a foundation with love..
"Because want to marry,give love, because do not think put up with, place to so as not to marries " , look the viewpoint that is without a problem, won't do however on the body of very much big woman.
Because be in traditional idea, feminine marriage should resemble commuting to the dot same, step-by-step, even if be not encountered appropriate, the age arrived to also should make do with.
Candy sweets says, there are a lot of people to persuade her beside, search about the same went, must ask why so tall?
However if married,you can know, about the same marriage, regular meeting is a lot of poorer; Patchy marriage object, cannot make do with certainly.
More what is more,the rather that, unsuccessful marriage can affect you not just, still meet those who affect you leave generation.
In marry on this thing, more and more people do not want put up with, especially woman.
Because,this is probably, marriage is right for the woman too not easy:
From 10 point to the girl that does not touch spring water, want to take exercise to take care of all-pervasive housewife of a grown-ups and children;
From the little girl of captious tenderness, want to become skill to hold the preterhuman mom that child skill goes to work in the arms;
From be bestowed favor on before marriage the small princess of the move, move that be protected, should become marriage hind to be cold-shouldered, the yellow face mother-in-law that is blamed...
If the other side understands you, make allowances for you, so all these perhaps is worthiness; If the other side is insufficient understanding, insufficient,show sympathy, how should do again so?
If that keep on saying before marriage is saying to be able to help the man that you partake, a pair of countenance changed after marriage, became husband of gigantic infant formula, marriage became marriage of type of bereft of one's spouse, how should do again so?
Those at the outset frivolous marrier, marriage is not the swaying in the midst of a raging storm that put up with lives, namely alone prop up hard, became all corners of the country that rips turn against to disappear to finally.
Because those marry wrong person and grievance and provoking years, it is after all also be redeemed hard again and make up for.
Marital essence, it is an ante actually, if illegible chip in, be destined to meet disastrous defeat leaves.
Now is not already " car horse person is rude " time, marry wrong a person, want compensate to go up all one's life.
03
Small foam of 22 years old, it is the youngest in the person that all interviewing, at present preparation and boy friend go to England studying abroad together.
She decides not to marry, because got,be of the family influence. Big she little one's mother's sister of 11 years old, it is an excellent person approbate, sturdy not marriage creed person.
Interview in hers in, you cannot see apprehension, also cannot see cowardly, instead one is plant other not marriage person do not have some to be enraged sturdily with the bottom.
This bottom is angry, profit from her enlightened parents.
These year, clever parent is urged early no longer marriage.
There is a hot card on small gain, bask in the aspirations that gave a lot of current parents:
"The daughter is married it is OK to be not married, I also support even the homosexual, want her daughter only can happy happiness. Want her daughter only can happy happiness..
"I also say with the son so, the knot does not marry, give birth to not unripe child, the child and mom surname me to do not have an opinion, it is good to want his happiness only. It is good to want his happiness only..
"If you marry hind not lone get cheesy happiness too, that was not necessary for all round the person's eye and marry, happy go. Happy go..
"Love knot does not written guarantee, love Shengbusheng, oneself him thing is responsible, make go road, cultured citizen goes, this kind of thing is in charge of! This kind of thing is in charge of!!
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Summary rises even if: The child, if you are not to let you live more happily and marry, then you do not have necessary marriage really.
Parents is the person that has married, natural clear marriage is to receive piece of letter far from, do a feast so simple, however year answer trifles of a year and fuel.
You had not married you do not understand: When marrying now and then alone, far feel well is sad in bad marriage hurt a body again.
Before a Taiwan mom, ever had written a paragraph of such words to the daughter:
"Daughter, your person also can live well, must not marry casually.
Unless a man is opposite hello to be no good, can protect you, take care of you, marrying you is should be fond of you and not be to expect to you give birth to a child for him or wait upon he all one's life, ability considers to marry, know? Know??
Good parents, all along won't because of lay look or the claver of others, press child marries. They can give the child the greatest freedom, marry it may not be a bad idea, do not marry, it is good to want pleasure only.
This kind of family grows the child that rise, meeting more gas phase of know how things stand and feel confident of handling them believes love, also more gas of know how things stand and feel confident of handling them is married love.
04
Of video finally, published data of such a group of investigation:
China not group of marriage a group of things with common features is in 85 before occupy than inadequacy 10% , and in 85 hind and 95 after occupy score to be 13% with 18% .
Occupy data of civil administration bureau to show, at present number of men and women of Chinese single young person exceeds 200 million.
This is meant, be in current China, more and more youths begin to choose marry at a mature age is even not marriage.
Whether is this representing them truly disappointed to marriage?
Not be actually.
Choice and a person had gone lifetime hand in hand, it is a particularly important decision. Those are saying not marrier, not be to feel it is not important to marry actually, it is too important to feel to marry however.
Because too important, so cannot put up with, cannot make do with, cannot drift with the tide, want however sturdy, want to await, should believe more.
Should best marital view be what kind of?
Resemble 3 wool saying when refer choice and marital carry on one's shoulder marry on the west probably:
"What we are united in wedlock is original, it is hope accompany person of the same trade nevertheless, both sides asks without exorbitant to each other and occupational.
My choosing carries on his shoulder or back on the west, not be for safe feeling, not be to be afraid of more lone all one's life, because of these two things at my individual, calculate must not too serious. Calculate must not too serious..
Before that truly right person appears, you should resemble him can be full of in that way expect, resemble him won't try hard to live in that way.
"I decided not to marry " , either did not marry really, think however when truly right person, marry again.
