One, precipitation friend
"Poor in the highroad nobody ask, rich live remote mountains has distant relative " . Also leaving him alone is kin or " friend " , the person of snob is much, be caught casually even if. When the low ebb that lives in you and predicament, that pair of hands that reach warmth to you just are your friend. 2, calm mood this age paragraph had not allowed you immature. Want to know, right in the thing beside happening, you had been finished from " cannot bear the sight of " to " look be used to " this process, if you are unaccustomed still, the specification still matures not quite in your heart. Do not complain hill god to complain land oneself and oneself are impassable, oneself are added to oneself. 
3, sow goodness must extremely the thing that uses up oneself to be able to be reached, the person that makes those suffering, more difficult than you than you experiences the sunshine to this world and beauty. Such goodness often should sow, unexpectedly, the flower that can open a the most beautiful human nature comes. Sowing goodness is to be in oneself " repair a heart " . 4, education likes painting and calligraphy of musical instrument chess, fish of bug of painting of flowers and birds in traditional Chinese style always has to get used to you, must develop a kind of interest to oneself. Its meeting catharsis your body and mind, open your memory and imagination, elaborate your romance. When a person's mind of your whole body is thrown, what can give you to bring expect to be less than more is halcyon and enjoy. Still have photography, collect... they are the gourmet powder in the day, the life that we let in dribs and drabs had taste. 
5, gain and loss follows a reason there are two pains between dirt, it is unavailable suffering, 2 it is loving suffering. Below the premise that pays all effort in you, all, conceivable regard as one is betted. Success calm; Be defeated indifferently. I what get I hope, my what break life, worldly the bitterest it is loving, even if be husband and wife,not also pass such, the predestined relationship gets together, come loose without the predestined relationship. Fortunately this age already passed " passionate flaming years " , sober oneself still have what hold certainly. In the final analysis, life is the person that go alone. 6, the society suffers some businesses need forgets without breath ground soundlessly, pass, grow wisdom; Some are pungent bear silently with vexed need yourself; All previous refine; Abound. Your pungent the pity that does not count on others with trouble and sympathize with. Him him dream is round, jie Ling still needs to fasten bell person, this ability is your heart is painful best invigorator. 
7, chang Nian is thankful was being experienced is a kind of fortune. Attend funeral when us, total meeting upsurges a few deep feeling; Should heal at the beginning of our a serious illness, always meet those who have all the different kind cherish. The heart that be thankful must be withheld constantly, it lets your take pity on not only one Sha Yishi, one grass one branch, still can make you dim some kind of aeriform pressure, make the same score the desire that nurtures you and combat, more moment, the feeling that has a few happiness often also comes from hereat. 8, diligent read at reading and learning is chat in He Zhihui, with the experience of others, grow oneself wisdom, what is there against it. Read become a kind of custom, your some thoughts originate this, some opinion also originate this. And return can cure I, still hold your individual character fascination for a long time! 
9, be happy to ponder over a person to arrive middleaged should be happy to think, be good at accumulating experience, sum up experience. Do not know reflection mind, it is the with maturity brains that won't grow. The person arrives middleaged ability is the thought is accumulated, the precious period of massiness thinking, also be the zero hour that rises a Chinese to be born again
