Present parents, to let the child each section grade be among the best of candidates, always spend big price to let the child attend English, abstruse number, writing to wait for all sorts of coaching class, ignored interest interest of the child however; What to let the child each respect changes is more outstanding, belong to the cold summer vacation that the child loosens originally, however by dancing, piano, wushu, annulus the interest Ban Zhanman such as slippery, art, but these are not the child's real interest interests; To let the child can live the life with go up better, offer better study condition, parents always does not have sunset night make money, lose the child to grandfather grandma or grandfather grandmother is taken care of, unwary however the importance that parents accompanies. Parents always is for the child good, but they ignored initial requirement of the child unluckily however -- company of experience of interest interest, life, parents.
Interest interest
A kind when the child's interest and hobby can become them up spiritual prop. In this kind of pillar control below, they can feel the happiness that the life is enriched and feels the person is worldly, can produce a series of active mood experiences, then promotes them to have deep love for the life, cherish time. They can be below the drive of interest and hobby, go searching interest bosom friend, form a friend, mutual help, satisfied to the environment of the life and suit.
Not only such, the child's interest and hobby, what can develop them is intellective. Interest interest makes him generate positive sentiment, give them boundless power, to the difficult problem that encounters in study, they can ponder seriously, study, till breach. Force of the observation that this process can foster them gradually, thinking, imagination, attention and psychokinesis, foster tenacious perseverance. And in such force control below, can make they give out infinite wisdom, hurried its grow into useful timber.
Life experience
Common saying says " experienced and knowledgeable " , if close the child in the house that reinforcing steel bar mixes clay the child everyday, they can make a person with a very limited outlook only. Although say they pass study, know the knowledge of far apart, that also is written theory only just just. If do not have place of saw with one's own eyes to see, it is long that they can not know potato and earthnut in clay; If do not have place of saw with one's own eyes to see, they can not know the country still has adobe house; If do not have place of saw with one's own eyes to see, although the child that they can not know a rural area does not have very much toy, but what they play however is very happy...
Parental company
Parents follows the issue that the child is perfectly justified together, but most parents because often go to work, do not have method at all so momently company is beside his child. In recent years adolescent runs away from home, suicidal incident is increasing. Make we pay close attention to psychological problem of the child more and more, discover all problems return to excellent front courtyard finally to teach finally. The great majority in these children lacks parental company, lack close affection to caress. If do not have time because of the job to accompany the child, the close situation that create is short of breaking is acquired cannot make up for.
A lot of parents have an error to the understanding of company. Of the parent and child get along, should build interact effectively, is not mechanically guard, simple accompany. The meaning of company should be: Give time, be together alone with the child; Understanding child is in the characteristic of age level; Understand psychological need of the child; Give its necessary help and support. When accompanying the child, the world that the parent wants to put down a mobile phone to blend in the child comes. Can play game together with the child, discuss a certain topic, accompany the child to see a favorite movie wait a moment. Can accomplish effective company so, achieve company goal thereby.
