Be short of love the more, feeling is not the more suitable cannot get love

Observe according to me, the person that lacks love has the following features commonly:

1. is too big to emotional expectation, love Tan Lian to regard as first class important matter

2. daily life is very empty, feel dissatisfactory to ego current situation

3. thinking is sensitive be short of reason, a bit not suitable easy mood runs rampant

4. lacks a mood to contain power, the mood comes up cannot oneself

So so called be short of love or be in the above in feeling, namely so one and the same: One individual life is flat, constant loneliness is empty, appeared suddenly an opposite sex that has good opinion, regarding him as not self-consciously is one helps straw, the hope can take him to cast off the predicament of instantly, can have a lot of requirement and hope to him then, know obviously unreasonable but it is not to control oneself, be controlled to bring about result form smoke into smother by the mood constantly, circulate so.

Discover not hard, 4 germ of above are to come from oneself. The first is cognitive error, from the back two are disposition element, the 2nd is outside ambient it seems that, but because lack common heart,also be in fact, insatiable be caused by.

A lot of people can say, be short of love is devoid ego, it is good to enrich oneself life arrangement enrich oneself life arrangement. I fall not so think, the life is again rich, look very busy everyday, but always idle comes down that is engraved or be in the still of night still meet whether is oppugning this him after all wanted life expects Immanuel will save, take temporary solution not effect a permanent cure.

The person that lacks love self-awareness too too insignificant, suffer outside ambient effect very easily. Saw article of chicken broth of theatrical work of two dogs blood say I want to look for one or two the man that I bestow favor on when the princess, be criticized a few to feel he are the world by the leader most that individual of grievance gives birth to gloomy, big friend circle watchs others show in the evening conjugal love, admiring jealousy hate is in the heart. Good find a target not easily, go up systemic heart investment naturally again for fear that differs a pool somewhat.

But what they lack in the final analysis most is from the ability with oneself halcyon and happy derive. Their feeling always is with outside link up with and often hard content with one's lot, other people is good to her happy, other people is cool to her with respect to jealousy, when doing not have an object, wanting to seek a target, have a boy or girl friend go again the other side of proof of leave no stone unturned loves him very much, the other side loves him very much cold-shoulder his which where again bad still...

Once the person places joy to others body, so be destined hard happy, because have without the person,offer your happy obligation forever.

But also do not have necessary have too great pressure, be short of love is again common originally the symptom in the heart that does not pass, everybody is met more or less in a certain phase of the life such, concern with former unripe family, concern with growing experience. If wanting to solve, basic measure is long heart, repair autarky, remain indifferent to other's opinion.

As to long heart, the result of my individual is there can be objective acknowledge on consciousness above all, want to know this worldly rule and normal state, there is absolutely and correct lover on this world for instance only relatively appropriate, for instance emotive progress is not to depend on of home remedy pay, see bilateral desire however, for instance all affairs of human life can separate a side, learning adj go look upon... permeate these acknowledge to real life again next in the center, to give way agrees to be reached with acknowledge (the syncretic of knowing and doing of referenced king Yang Ming) , do the thing that oneself should do, approbate oneself current situation. Those who remain is the control ability to the mood, develop the thinking way that directs with eventuate, be controlled in the specific event in the life conciously, form a habit, again complementary review solidify with contemplative method.

This is perforative the cultivate oneself according to a religious doctrine at whole life, can bring at the same time super- imaginary redound.