Not 2 uncle
Have what 3 million person is looking everyday not 2 uncle
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What person is the tireddest? Mix in people look alive the person in the mouth.
Because, want to live into others world in " good person " , subdue oneself inevitably, become oneself alive in the world " antic " .
" discriminate passes " in an actor's lines says very well:
The way of the world this kind of thing, cannot help somebody attain his aim everybody, help somebody attain his aim oneself, the principle bottom line that allows when to await oneself should not go lay a finger on.
Such really, neither one person can let everybody like.
If, do " good get along " the person is too tired, comprehensive oneself, it is not quite good to do the person that get along is very right also.
01
Do not quite the person of volubility
Had heard a word " softhearted it is ill, situation is difficult deadly " , special before holding with half.
Too volubility, it is a kind of disease. This kind is ill, convenient is others, of grievance is him however.
Before two days, friend and I complain, oneself went up continuously the evening shift of half month should be not carried.
"Are you be worth evening shift by turns? Why to go up continuously half month? " I indissoluble the ground asks her.
Next, she explained its all the details very helplessly with me:
Original a colleague is occupied, look for her relief to be worth evening shift, she is bad to rejected to agree.
Other staff sees her volubility, often also seek her relief, she again second agreed.
Later, have a fellow worker flat with boss report she is preferred on evening shift, suggest she is worth evening shift for a long time, such she became that " a benign and uncontentious person who is indifferent to matters of principle " , enduring the evening that everybody is not willing to boil all the time.
Finally, her helpless summary: "You jump over volubility, jump over nobody to talk well to you. Jump over nobody to talk well to you..
A lot of moment, it is really such:
The your department is in self-surrender, others does not let everywhere;
You lowered figure, others should not answer you however thing;
You consider others constantly, others never puts you on the heart however.
Least of all worthiness is, do not know the person that be thankful to pay to those, those who get is be insatiable unexpectedly ask for.
Some things are in charge of by you originally, one but you were done put in you 's charge to be in charge of forever.
Some are busy originally you are helped without obligation, the obligation that once was helped,becomes you.
Bi Shumin ever said: "Refusing is a kind of right, resembling living is a kind of right. Resembling living is a kind of right..
Yue person is inferior to Yue oneself, since today, do not quite the person of volubility.
Like to be accepted, be fed up with refuse, dissatisfaction expresses your dissatisfaction, sufferred grievance to also do not overtax his nerves secretly.
The person that needs you sincerely won't make you embarrassed, embarrassed your person is undeserved also you are open-armed in order to wait for.
So, do for other between the take time that fasten billow marry the garment, do not waste smiling face to face the person that lets you cry.
Have a principle, have a bottom line, give oneself attitude alive, ability embraces the temperature of the life.
02
Do a not quite intelligent person
Once had seen seniority of grade of an international loneliness, the alone cent the person is 10 grade:
The first class: A person goes rambling supermarket.
The 2nd class: A person goes snack hall.
The 3rd class: A person goes coffee hall.
The 4th class: A person goes to see a movie.
The 5th class: A person has chaffy dish.
The 6th class: A person goes KTV.
The 7th class: A person goes treating the lake.
The 8th class: A person goes amusement park.
The 9th class: A person moves.
The 10th class: A person goes becoming an operation.
Are you also such?
Always a person did all businesses:
Came off work, a person rambles the dinner of supermarket preparation family;
Boy friend of week in the end is too busy, a person went seeing the movie that agrees before field;
Fell ill to fear family is afraid, one individual on the sly went becoming an operation...
What someone says loneliness is unmanned photograph companion is helpless.
Endless also like that.
Some loneliness are not true loneliness is not had actually according to.
How not serious person is qualified will partake your loneliness, serious person cannot bear again the heart is disturbed easily.
"Alone " , secret of hidden of backside of these two words is not you nobody is accompanied, however " too sensible " .
Because sensible, change get considerate, firm, softness, never capricious, never disturb actively, never be mischievous pretty tangles.
Because sensible, fear to bring a trouble to others, encountered him thing to solve, also be afraid of a sweetheart to bring a burden, tired carry with respect to yourself, sufferred from with respect to him pharynx, ached to be hurt with respect to him cure.
But, indulge a person occasionally too long, you lost capricious right.
Once had seen a card:
The family goes out travel, when eating lunch, mom wants to nod a dish of green vegetables, because price of travel surface features needs 60 higher, father and child feel 60 eat green vegetables to not worth, persuade mom to change the characteristic course of a dish of place repeatedly.
Result, mom breaks down on dining table the ground cried.
Someone says mom is argumentative, be a dish of green vegetables only as to cry?
The crucial point of the problem is not to depend on a dish of green vegetables of course, probably mom is truly sad is, she was paid for the family so much, husband of in the end and child are connected so the place is little " capricious " do not allow.
Be, compromise and show consideration for long can become of course, sensible 100 days, the 101st day can be oppugned egoistically a little a little, by desolate, be criticized...
If sensible so injury, I wish you forever so not sensible.
Since today, do a not quite intelligent person.
A little a bit more selfish, consider for oneself more; A little a bit slacker, let oneself pant; A little a bit more capricious, those who like go striving for.
Learn to enjoy, now and then abandon is free and easy, life ability becomes a bit sweeter.
03
Do not quite the person of be gregarious
There are 1000 Hamlets in 1000 readers heart, everybody has his distinctive eye and judgement.
Know individual have difference, but when the eye that a lot of people become him and people are different, often can abandon oneself viewpoint, do " bogus be gregarious " person.
Feel to brush drama obviously, a little the Eight Diagrams, dull socialization is very uninteresting, still pretend to be very interested;
Encounter a problem obviously, have different point of view, it is an alien to won't do, silent however not language;
Disapprove of a few mainstreams obviously, still also drift with the tide, live step-by-steply.
"The person arrives in the group, intelligence quotient is reduced badly, to obtain self-identity, individual be willing to abandon dispute, go exchanging the attributive feeling that that equipment letting a person feels safe with intelligence quotient.
Besides reduced intelligence quotient, a lot of moment too be gregarious, can let you miss a lot of things.
Before paragraph time, boudoir honey expected a film showed long eventually.
When noon break, ground of her in spirits ordered movie ticket to rise with colleague prattle.
Mention that motion picture, a colleague begins to spit groove to rise, say the grading on film net is very low, next other staff also gabble ground spits groove to rise.
The conclusion that must come out later is, this film is worth to look far from, going along with is worn return Diss boudoir is sweet, say the person feeling that sees this kind of movie is very cheap.
Interest is devoid after boudoir honey listened, return kink otherwise to want to go to see a movie in the evening, later, we saw the movie together, think the movie is good still consistently, differ with the evaluation of someone else at all.
A film is such, there still is too much thing in the life also why is not such, had tried ability to had known.
Because of be gregarious you may miss a motion picture, same still can miss too much the person that fits you, suit your road.
Since today, wish you do not quite the person of be gregarious.
Have oneself hobby and dream, have oneself way of life, think independently, reason is judged, do not cater to other, him comply with heart.
In the world that does not live below masses wrap up, ability encounters a world that belongs to his only.
04
Survive, it is not quite good to do the person that get along
Like that poem that Zhuo Bielin writes him when 70 years old of birthday very much " begin to love oneself when me " :
Begin real him love when me,
I begin to be far from,
All insalubrious things.
It is food and character no matter,
Still be thing and environment.
I am far from everything,
Let me be far from this true thing.
I was called this once upon a time:
"Those who go after health is egoistic " ,
But I am clear today,
This is " self-love " .
Wish you, since today, it is not quite good to do the person that get along.
Be far from all insalubrious things, no matter be person or environment.
Comply with your heart, love your place love, row you are gone.
Wish you, since today, reconcile with oneself, love oneself well.
This world, do not lack ideal person, those who lack is to send mix inner sincerity, foursquare, bravely oneself dauntless.
Life is very long, each person is to be achieved formerly, do not become pilfer edition alive.
You can let years abrasion your defect, had become, again a bit better, but must not let years grind the edges and corners that makes the same score you, become that someone else that does not know even oneself.
Because, that love and hate parts, have an idea, those who individualize you, just let you become extraordinary you.
On this world, have and have you only, you are exclusive.
Become yourself alive, just be this gives birth to the most important thing.
Yue person is inferior to Yue oneself
Refusing is a kind of right
Become yourself alive
Just be this gives birth to the most important thing
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