Tiger poison is not fed child, stepmother cruel 3 years: Some parents, should fall into disuse

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By with " certainly " name, force treats another tragedy of the child.

On August 7, xiaochen of 15 years old of boys of Shandong, unplug because of pressing a demand careless, be beaten up with club force by father, also fail to stand up again later.

Neighbour says, such mistreating is not two, however full 3 years.

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Take the door from the stepmother 3 years ago, xiaochen is forced farm of discontinue one's studying coming home.

But eat every day, it is the flour made from various kinds of beans of the steamed stuffed bun of the broken bits of mix into glass that stepmother gives and animal sacrifice impediment, so that he is in everyday " endure the torments of hunger " , before dying, still be " skinny " , the netizen that so that explode at first,expects thinks he has 7 only by accident, 8 years old.

Child of 15 years old, have 7 only it seems that, 8 years old, we simply unthinkable he is after all how 3 years this of get over.

But he still did not boil the past after all.

Tiger poisonous even is not fed child! This father hits the child, became all in the day's work however, hit 45 take second place before the child dies only much.

Below his murderous scheme, small Chen Zaiben should read together with other young associate, in the amuse oneself, age that enjoys parental care, went forever.

Wish heaven does not have harm. And his father and stepmother already were arrested, await them will be law punish severely.

Case very extreme, unripe father also very extreme, but extreme backside, have ordinary person state of mind.

In why can be often mistreated by police inquiry when the child, this father says the child " piquant " .

Be the commonnest ground in the life: Piquant, so I am not to beat and scold, it is certainly, to make the child obedient.

But the name that a lot of parents use certainly namely, what mistreat all right is solid.

And United Nations Children's Fund Commission and data of investigation of countrywide the Women's Federation show:

Be in our country, the children that ever had sufferred different level to mistreat is occupied than be as high as 74.1% , among them the mainest person that violate is parents, and no less than bodies mistreat the seriousness that spirit mishandles an issue.

More terrible than extreme incident is force mistreats nowhere to be absent, and after every time is mistreated, a little soul is in asp.

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The child, be in after all what to experience

Before before long, ever happened two cases to mistreat incident one after another.

June, 4 years old of boys are hit into panda eye by mom, cause public anger.

Say according to child grandmother, because the daughter shoulds not to often take grandson to vent one's anger with marital feeling, even ever double eye of grandson of hand dig or dig out with a finger or sth pointed, say an eye too resemble father.

But the eye resembles unlike father, be the child can you decide?

July, because a woman allocates dissatisfaction to belongings of husband's father and mother, actually pesticide of strong fill daughter, the child is not drunk, the woman puts agriculture chemical in congee to force the child to drink.

Because had been not enraged, the lot that uses the child goes penalizing each other, this or mother?

Psychologist Wu Zhigong says: A few parents suffer what all-pervasive narcissism feels to drive, what requirement others must imagine with oneself is same. If different, with respect to meeting violent rage. Under violent rage, they can abuse the child, when be being mistreated, because the drain of violent rage energy produces particular cheerful move.

Parents abuses the child, because gigantic baby state of mind did not get satisfaction,be.

The job not suitable, family not harmonious, husband and wife is on bad terms, scrape up the fire of skinful, apropos child is naughty, found then abreact mouth.

When abreact, because have pleasure, accentuated not self-consciously castigatory strength.

This is why great majority parents won't want to beat dead really the child, but accident as before frequency was sent.

And we do father and mother, a few dare say to never take the child to should give inflator?

Last month, I am in in the home when processing article table, because the daughter is not obedient, I hit her twice.

The child cries loudly, go looking for Laowang.

I am lying between the door to blame daughter grizzle, and sigh of old Wang Que says, when can not going to work before you, feel the daughter is adhesion you are lovely.

I one was stupefied, glad when, the child is sweet heart; When life, with respect to without a single redeeming feature.

This where is child fault, be our fault clearly.

And we are wronger is, abreacted mood, beat and scold, desolate, gally the child, still say however, do not hit worthless.

In the associated investigation of United Nations Children's Fund Commission and countrywide the Women's Federation, most person thinks parents hits the child is regular educational pattern.

We often are, gave the child most love, also gave the child most harm.

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Parental harm has many after all deep

In fabaceous valve, have a card " what is the parental finish is the rarest thing in your heart " : Among them a group member say oneself by finish is " the desire that communicates with the person " .

When going to school, he comes home every time say oneself take the place on games, perhaps say the fun that happens in the school.

Parents can distain the ground says: "Got, put attention on study. Put attention on study..

The time is much, he was formed rot the thing in abdomen, the disposition that estranges with the person.

Someone says: "The biggest misunderstanding on this world is, parents thinks to hit children to be able to close to its act vigorously is entered, but the result is to bring about them to be short of from confidence however break.

Be, blow is blow, won't drape because of parents " good for you " appearance, do not cause harm.

Contrary, because these blow come from the person that loves most, what hurt so is deeper, it is even all one's life scar.

I have a friend, parents is returned from native place when 6 years old beside, in be immersed in fear from now on however.

Housework was not done good, the mother can be tongue-lashed, of clumsy resemble a pig.

Come back late, father carries the hand is spank.

Hurry to parents to quarrel, she is more gingerly.

A grown in force child, the way that is less than love always seeks after be brought up.

Be swayed by considerations of gain and loss of the friend when choose idol, encounter a bit warmth to be become love, encounter a bit setback to feel to be abandoned, was harmed countless times finally.

Now, she moved toward another extreme completely, to the child crossed a head fondly.

Research shows, even if suffer force ends, the psychological scar that causes by it may continue those who be as long as 4 years is long.

And the child that often is abused, affection appears to be short of after be brought up break, the probability of obstacle of development of violent tendency, character and other psychology disease is met times add.

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The child such as parents thanks, the child apologizes in mother waiting for father

Know a netizen, already severed a relationship with parents. Days is placatory not besides the scar, still have resentment.

She hits the mark in fling abuses and beat up as a child grown, daydreaming is parents should kill him.

She says, "Although such, I still am willing to believe they love me, I never am mistreated because of them and had run away from home, because although parents lets me at that time,fear, but leave them to face sealed, minor to for more fear. Minor to for more fear..

"I was brought up now, can feed oneself, eventually can need not see them again forever. Eventually can need not see them again forever..

"My parents thinks to want them to did not sin only however, it is the best parents on the world, I should be thankful unceasingly, be thankful they did not resemble the divorce on dog blood teleplay, be thankful they did not call damage I. Be thankful they did not call damage I..

A lot of moment are such, parents is waiting for the child to thank, and the child apologizes in mother waiting for father however.

In one's childhood, the child does not leave, do not revolt, because they like,not be, however because they are puny, revolt feebly.

But they ought not to assume them, natural meeting generation and deposit are hated, until was brought up one day, can erupt entirely.

Some is in in love and hate kink, also cannot build an affinity with parents again.

Have more very person, be mistreated by parents in one's childhood, parents is mistreated conversely again after be brought up.

These are the world this ought not to some tragedy.

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Wish every child by tenderness in order to wait for

Become a useful person for the child, parents has the responsibility of certainly child and mental state, but the truth that also should know Things will develop in the opposite direction when they become extreme. , going too far as bad as not going far enough.

This world, what should be caressed most is the child.

Because, in one's childhood the adversity that harm can bring lifetime, also can affect the happiness of a family and a national future.

The first, increase castigatory strength

Why parents not beat and scold should return a responsibility, because be in traditional idea,be, father lays son unalterable principle.

But the life that the child is independence is individual, others is tongue-lashed want to punish severely, parents was mistreated want to punish severely likewise.

Be in Euramerican, parents abuses the child, want reasonable suspicion only, anybody has authority to report, once check solid, light privative custody counterpoises, be sentenced again.

The 2nd, those who admit the child is faulty

Tell oneself, faulty child also is him one's own, the child is done not have perfect.

Accept faulty child, the love child with nicer gift, just also can be when negative sentiment deposit, do not have drain for excuse with the child.

The 3rd, notice certainly measure

The child made a mistake want punishment, but penalty must proper, the child thinks over and strip in order to let as far as possible they some kind of behavior regards as penalty.

If need the kind with similar ferule hatchet man really, also do not want a breakthrough to spend, do not join oneself negative sentiment, the mistake that lets the child realise his can.

The 4th, mood guiding

After certainly behavior happens, want to note the negative sentiment of dredge child in time, tell the child, parents punishs you, because you made a fault,be, parents is not not to love you, do not love to err however that you, was being corrected is good darling.

The 5th, apologize in time

Rear the child, hard to avoid errs, but err should apologize in time.

Parental openness, the child can be excused very easily, still can avoid the child to learn violent mode.

" where does father go to 5 " in, the Chen Xiaochun with hot disposition does not dominate a sentiment sometimes, get angry to the son, but later can apologize very quickly again.

And small the tenth lunar month falls in father's influence, also be err thing acknowledges a mistake actively, have take on, conscientious.

Each child, be worth tenderness in order to wait for.

Best parents, do not let the child live in the fear of violent certainly forever namely.

Did not forget, love most on this world your, it is your child. Each your tenderness to him, can change love pass on.