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In the life, have the person that a kind of love speaks, compare frank and outspoken at ordinary times, won't talk in a roundabout way, some moment can harm others.
Someone says, their nature is kind-hearted, but want me to say, this is business manifests affection lowly actually.
University when, because enter mass organizations activity, met two woman student, they are roommates, often agree to go shopping together on the weekend.
Once they go out to shop buy the clothes, among them a schoolgirl tried a lot of dresses, a schoolgirl does not say good-looking, finally two people empty-handed and return.
On the road that go back, she asks a roommate: "I tried so much, is doing not have those who suit me? Is doing not have those who suit me??
Her roommate truly ponders the ground to say: "That is the problem of the dress far from, not good-looking because your skin is black,be, leg thick. Leg thick..
That schoolgirl listened, face one black, abandoned him Xiaobai to go. She says with me later, him within an inch of follows her fall out on the spot.
Later, come up against her roommate again, had this thing a little again, she objects however, she says, "What I say is truth, she so buying affirmation is blind wasteful money. She so buying affirmation is blind wasteful money..
She does not know, there is which woman not to hope to hear on this world praise oneself sound, they know an outcome obviously, but want to hear the affirmation that comes from others namely.
Affection the person with high quotient, meet those who satisfy their heart long for certainly, and the person with small business can destroy affection only their psychological construction.
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We spent conversation of two years of societies, learn to shut up on the flower 60 years.
See the mistake of others when us, if can be accomplished euphemistic point out, she is certainly very appreciate you; When the thing of awkwardness of others dash against, we do not reveal the other side as far as possible.
This is business of a kind of tall affection, it is a kind of accomplishment more.
Truly clever person, see through only, do not say to appear easily however.
Most moment, we say morer, each other distance is further however, contradiction is more also.
In communicate, most person always is eager to him expression, spit for fast, know the other side not at all however. Learn two years to talk, learn to shut up all one's life.
Understand with do not understand, do not say more. Discomposure calm, say slowly. If do not have a word really, never mention it.
And at us, see through but do not say to appear, it is a person's oldest culture.
This world, want to have the ability of piercing eye, also want to have the ability with benefit silent other people. Be in this more and more in the world of airing, not merely enjoy, however each other understand tacitly, also go before tacit understanding.
Clever person, want to see through, but do not say to appear. Seeing through is skill, saying to appear is accomplishment. There is so much fool on this world, your clever also may not is clever really.
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A lot of moment, face issue of a few support of the people, we choose to shut up, keep silence.
Once college fellow student dines together, the boudoir of the university is sweet up to now lone, drank a few cups of small wine, the ego that began her speaks: "Undergraduate times was not caught up with love early, just discover later suddenly want an university to graduate immediately, look this all one's life does not have the opportunity that loves early. Look this all one's life does not have the opportunity that loves early..
Abrupt, a ground of classmate think oneself clever comes to: "Irrespective, love early have not enough time, dusk is loved return more than sufficient! " next ground of be pleased with oneself looks to everybody.
She is agitated become angry, cold hum one, receive a sentence no longer, occasion for a time awkward.
When actually a lot of people know she speaks in the ego of perfunctory, it is in the heart actually very of lose. Of be sensible prepare to comfort a few, what just did not think of is by on the way " cut is introduced from the northern and western nationalities or from abroad " .
Say, it is one kind makes clear, do not say, be one kind clever.
True wisdom person won't the mouth not Rao Ren, aggressive, keep silence however, speak and act cautiously, do not say more absolutely.
Before the important matter, do not no hurry unbearably, before bagatelle, not angry do not be troubled by, before scandal, laugh indifferently, showing comment before, unhurried.
Hide one's inadequacy by keeping quiet, control a bit expression desire, listen more, much observation, think more, little speech, speak and act cautiously.
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Whose character life cannot say, it is see through does not say to defeat only.
Do not say, because we are guilty,not be, invite factual conversation however, because we are awe-stricken,also not be, let time test and verify however.
Young when always feel, can see through a person, even if see through a thing, it is a kind of skill.
Missing life is one tries to locate sth by following up a clue, what want to look, think experience, recall, in assistant gradually in the world of abundant, had the stockpile with hill high long water.
But, a certain number of ability after year discover:
Grow truly, it is the exhibition of a discard the dross and select the essential. what understand, the bury that see through, abrade in the processing factory with gigantic life everything what go out, just make experience.
