The research achievement of modern psychology shows, the probability that present people feels depressive is 20 centuries 10 times of 50 time. Although standard of living rose a lot of, but difference of the rich and the poor always occurs however, you have money to still have a lot of more wealthy than you people, and when is people also awaited than holding the post of before be willing to take oneself to follow all round of the person undertake comparative, than going than coming those are in lee meet in popular feeling lopsided, those were occupied also can feel to be done not have than others in windward popular feeling strong how many. Value money and material the more, the person is satisfied not easily more, also can become flimsier in the heart.
Actually a lot of moment, not face, can live very comfortably. Face is the dignity of a kind of surface only, uphold this kind of dignity overly, often be the performance with weak heart, can lose ego. Keen on face-saving is a lot of people are obtained mix simply happy the biggest obstacle. Face is a kind of vanity actually, it and moral photograph are compared, just be a cloud drift and a black smoke stopped.
Be concerned about face-saving is the expression with scant hope actually, the person that be concerned about face-saving will live in the eye in others and measure all the time, happiness is the happiness in people look, anguish also is the anguish that others thinks, their overall life objective is a simple word: Pass weller than others. And truly self-confident person, won't go bearing peacockish cross. They are in just about tough, believing oneself dependably, admitting the value of oneself.
Shabby-genteel have a hell of life, this word says falsely not at all. In the life, the person that always has vanity of a few love for face oneself look for a blame to suffer to oneself. Some people do not have money the more, the outfit that jump over love is broad, there are a few moneys obviously in bag, still want to ask a friend to eat well into high-grade restaurant however; The other side compares him obviously a lot of richer, oneself always are being grabbed however buy sheet; Chat with the person, always want to say a few big food that oneself had eaten with others innocently of purpose, the advanced place that have been to. Think carefully, want this vanity to have why be used? It is oneself look for a blame to suffer to oneself only. After satisfying vanity, oneself are fed however without rice, wear without the garment, live without place, do not have a shoe all right, like tired animal general hold back is in the corner, where is why bother? Investigate the psychology that its are concerned about face-saving, germ depends on be afraid of others him look down upon, inner in fear and trembling, face a commodity when them so when, when often considering vanity to compare consideration price much, those who do not have money is self-abased tangle like the devil they are indecisive, succumb finally at vanity, buy the thing that next him ability place cannot reach constrainedly. Then, there was a kind of strange appearance in the society, poorer person does not like more cheap article, do not have wealthy person the more, with respect to Yue Aihua money shows him.
Actually, truly rich person may not is such extravagant. Have a president that holds several companies concurrently personally, he does not care about others the appellation to him -- persnickety mammon. He and friend go when cafeteria has a meal, choose a few course casually mostly, a few cups of green tea, only this just. His dress is very common also, but neat, not be what famous brand. His car also is not high-grade, it is everyday get a car just. His company outstanding achievement is very good, and the individual's asset also does not poor, but he still can not by peacockish place tired.
The person with serious vanity, the thing of institute desire, the honor of be unworthy of the name or the title of nothing is more... than, dreads thing, the humiliate of arise suddenly of nothing is more... than.
One of sequela with the biggest vanity are to make a person lose avoid at fear, avoid the freedom at deadlocked lack; Because kill bashful disgrace, so not time work is in fear, often do not have safe feeling, dissatisfaction is sufficient; And peacockish person, saying with its is to show itself, a Triton of the minnows, be inferior to saying is flatter oneself outstanding, not hesitate so employ deceit, catchy artifice, it is vanity gets the biggest contented, but the problem is -- vanity is a strong desire, the desire is won't contented.
The sequela that vanity place causes, it is almost reach undeserved method around the evildoing in its periphery, so strictly speaking, the vanity of everybody should be with him foolish and same.
Look from vicinity, vanity looks be like is a kind clever; From long-term look, peacockish and actual be a kind foolish. Peacockish person often have small crafty, lack great wisdom however. Peacockish person is not certain little tack, lack vision certainly however. Peacockish woman is monetary captive, vain man is the captive of influence. Too strong vanity, make the man becomes hypocritical, make the woman becomes degenerate.
British philosopher earths up root and German philosopher Schopenhauerian two maxim: "Peacockish person by wisdom person be despised, I person place bend is taken, encomiast place esteems, and the peacockish place bondage that is oneself. " " vanity makes the person likes project oneself, proper pride makes a person silent. Proper pride makes a person silent..
