Face the life, perhaps we must have a pair a mind which perceives both past and future, but when teaching the child, we had better open an eye, close a key point. Clever " cheat " the wisdom that is a kind of education, and educational success, also depend on you probably how " cheat " the child.
A song cries " have a blurred vision " , having a words of song is such: Borrow me a pair a mind which perceives both past and future, let me view this world obviously for nothing, true true be sure to.
Go seeing the child's advantage with that opening eye, good qualities and latent capacity, to the child's defect, inadequacy and problem, if we can shut eye, those defect, inadequacy and issue are nonexistent.
Meeting ask in reply says a little clever parent, is that to deceive oneself as well as others? But parents perhaps do not know, society " deceit " the highest state that may be education.
A mom goes the parent, result teacher tells this mother, his child whole class is the poorest, sit 3 minutes to be met at most abstracted. After this mom goes back " cheat " the child says: The teacher praises you, say you can sit 3 minutes now, progress is very great.
The child is very excited. He can sit slowly, ten minutes... this mom is planted with this " cheat " method all the time the child " cheat " entered Tsinghua college.
Chinese of a student took an examination of 12 minutes only, the teacher asks why he is taken an examination of bad, he says pair of Chinese disinclination, attend class to did not listen seriously. Teacher " cheat " he says: "Your disinclination, did not listen to be able to take an examination of 12 minutes seriously, explain you are too fierce. If spend a bit time a little, regular meeting is better. Regular meeting is better..
Next time this child took an examination of 20 minutes, teacher exaggerated says he is very clever, progress with particle power a little so much, this child is in of the teacher " cheat " below art, try hard ceaselessly all the time, final result is better and better.
This teacher uses this method " cheat " think to every child oneself are the cleverest. He created the myth that China teachs, no matter he takes over the class that is much difference, through education of a year, his class has a difference to be born no longer, every time class cent is whole town the first, be far ahead at other school.
Have the big cheater of a world-class, call Luo Sen tower Er, he is world-renowned psychologist. Once he reachs a school, raised ten children casually, insist stubbornly they are talents, result after 8 months, the president of the school and teachers discover these child progress are apparent really, became a gift slowly.
This fraud is called later " effect of Er of Luo Sen tower " , also cry " expect effect " . Almost the teacher that any learns to teach knows this " cheat " bureau. Always can realize truth giving a point from which, master this " cheat " of art, become outstanding teacher.
A teacher that is having old and senior experience ever had said so a story:
Two Zhou Qian, 4 children had eaten a meal to run to my office, giggle, each is not smooth and steady like the monkey. I say with children, if who can sit first, I see his eye, tell him again clever. Children instantly quiet to came down.
I tell them first: Mr. Liu has seen countless little girls in countrywide each district, want to see an eye only, can know who is clever, who is not clever.
When I view the past one by one, what reveal in the eye of major child is to expect, but a child is being taken apparently of a few anxious, perhaps he thinks oneself not quite clever. Next I begin to express conclusion: Tell them one by one, it is clever child.
Next I say: "Mr. Liu feels very strange, how you are 4 children clever child? " I looked intentionally again again, emphasize was not being misreaded again, every are clever child. At this moment, there is happy smile on every child face, sit particularly rightly also.
The educational career that thinks back to carefully 20 years, resemble such similar circumstance without number. Education is so simple thing so. Best education is to cheat children so, told he is best show to go.
Tell from this angle, the most outstanding teacher is parents actually, parents is the child when the child is small allow teacher, and every are " cheat " the outstanding teacher with excellent art.
Often the parent is saying his worry to me, the child that says oneself is very babyish, the child of unlike others home is sensible. General I can congratulation this parent. Because, when a child is more babyish, he gave the parent " cheat " his opportunity.
If a child looks an old head on young shoulders, he is right of parents " cheat " had objected, even sniff, think dull, so education will lose a the most powerful weapon.
Why " cheat " can you have so vast power?
The person's behavior forms the biggest secret is: Set target, imitate a target, become a target. For instance, we hope the child is the person of a love study. Can use above 3 steps will come true.
Set target: Exhaust all way say the child is love study. Say to the child he is the good child of love study. Say to others he is the good child of love study. The good child that regarding him as at ordinary times is love study is treated.
Imitate a target: Child inchoate moment, the word that says possibly to you is indescribable, but often hear others to regard him as when him when the example of love study is publicized, he may try the feeling of love study.
Once the child has the show of any love study, what can get another person instantly is affirmative: He is the child of a love study as expected. This child can be behaved so that love to learn before these people, although not be true love study, he fits the pattern that also must fit love study.
The person that says he loves to learn all round is more, the range that he holds is wider; The person that says he loves to learn all round him insists to jump over long, the time that he holds is longer.
Become a target: Often fit the pattern of love study when this child, slowly formed a kind of habit. He feels he is such person, love study is him original with respect to some condition, then he becomes the good child of love study really.
Common saying says, crammer says 1000 times to also can become the truth, if everybody believes a certain person is what person, what can he turn into the person certainly then. Psychologist once considered to conclude: Want to let others become what kind of person, with him it is what kind of person will treat him.
Outstanding teacher and parents perhaps followed this principle innocently of purpose just about, they are the child surely first outstanding, clever, those who have love... , next, the child holds this kind of person before these teachers or father generatrix, they became this kind of person really finally, the education of teacher or parents also gained a success.
What need an attention nevertheless is, when you tell the child he is not quite outstanding ceaselessly, actually you also are " cheat " child, just cheat the child into a not outstanding person just.
So " cheat " the wisdom that is a kind of education, educational success depended on you how " cheat " the child. If you hope your child is outstanding, ask you " cheat " he says, he is thought outstandingly in that way like you namely really.
