Affection business is a kind " soft actual strength " . The person with high quotient has feeling better person arteries and veins, more acclimatization, accomplish more easily somewhat on the career; The person with small business always can miss feeling a lot of opportunities, the suffocate suffocate on the career, contradiction and stick to one's position are filled in the life...
The person of low affection business has 3 kinds of features commonly: Inexorable, look for excuse, love complains.
One, inexorable
The person of low affection business is inexorable the opinion of others, especially crosscurrent. A word that this kind of person often says is: "I know the reason that you say, but do not think namely so do... "
Xiang Yu is delegate of this subhuman model. Adviser of Liu state at hand gathers, chen Ping, Xiao He, Zhang Liang, accept good advices of Liu state all along. Only an adviser model is added below Xiang Yuhui, often still do not hear its opinion however. For example, grand door banquet is the beat that Xiang Yu takes ham to be thought out, grand door banquet does not kill the opinion that Liu Bang also is Xiang Yu suddenly, did not follow model add discuss.
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In Hunan Chinese war, xiang Yu ever broke carry grain passageway of Liu Bang, condition is auspicious. Adviser Fan Zengli persuades Xiang Yu exploit a victory to pursue and attack, with one action eliminates Liu Bang, but Xiang Yu did not comply with not only model added correct proposal, medium instead alienate plan, distrustful model adds conspire against the state. Retire under Fan Zengyi gas, xiang Yu also is not persuaded to stay, model add final fury make a psychological attack, guest dead an alien land.
Final, the Xiang Yu of inexorable opinion defeated the Liu Bang of accept good advices, yu Wujiang of cut one's throat.
The person of low affection business thinks erroneously, the opinion that listens to others is " the thing that does not have dignity " , always be inexorable others opinion consequently.
Benefit of good advice is harsh to the ear at going, benefit of good medicine tastes bitter at disease. The person of inexorable sincere advice, proper pride is too strong, make wrong judgement easily, make wrong decision, the great majority on the history " a fatuous and self-indulgent ruler " be such generation.
Be besieged on all sides
2, look for excuse
A lot of people go to work was late, can say " the car is blocked up on the road " ; The exam failed, can say " the topic is too hard " ; The job fails to finish, can say " time is insufficient " , etc.
Want you to want to look for excuse only, the failure of an any things can find out 1000 different reason. A lot of people prove an abortion, because always be bad result,look for excuse namely.
Always look for excuse to fail
Still see Xiang Yu, xiang Yu is final be besieged on all sides, body defect tight encirclement, look at beloved feminine anxiety female singer to already died, the many officers and soldiers of battlefield of go on an expedition already died, sigh with emotion actually: The day dies I, the blame that is not battle also. Means: This is the day should die I, not be I won't fight.
Xiang Yu looked for a very good excuse to his failure, the self-willed that never reviews oneself however, overbearing, what never review banquet of him grand door to go up is indecisive, drive away loyal and devoted exclusive adviser model add...
The person of low affection business always likes to look for excuse, won't review oneself from inside the problem truly forever, won't achieve progress truly from inside this thing consequently, final and same question still can appear ceaselessly, create vicious circle.
3, love complains
Some people are right aught, no matter result how, always resent, always like to complain. They never know to complain to be able to let their figure and luck worse and worse only.
Ceng Guofan ever complained in such look upon in a letter from home: "I is tasted see friend bos complaint too very person, need much curb fills in ever since... build without reason and blame a weather, criterion the day needs must not, without reason and You Tian, criterion the day needs must not, without reason and blame person, criterion the person refuses to obey surely, inductive manage, natural subsequently. " Ceng Guofan advises family: Encounter a problem, complain 100 kill and do not have one beneficial.
Weir Baowen ever said interior adviser of the United States: Inactive thought spreads the seed on this world through complaining like us, they will be rooted and gemmiparous, be born more inactive tired element. That is to say, plant today the seed that laid to complain, it won't disappear at this point, meet however rooted and gemmiparous, grow to come more more, bring more issues that let you complain.
Blame the negative energy with meeting tremendous generation, what solve him heart truly without method not only is depressed, this kind of negative energy still can affect the person all round, let others feel unwell, can let others arise even " be far from the person that complain " actuation, destroy human relationship.
American president rich Lan Kelin has a logion to say: "My have not has seen one rises early the person of assiduous honesty complains the destiny is bad. " say simply, like the person that blame, big amorous business is not tall, the destiny is bad; And affection the person with high quotient, complain rarely.
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