Children can not realize his error explicitly, before the life manner orientaton of our child does more detailed discussion, we see a few families first, see the life manner orientaton of adult, how is in actual life behaved, and the influence to children! Now is the bedtiime of Home Gu Sibai, build habit of go to bed to children, to Mrs Gu Saibo for too troublesome, he auxes would rather when children hold them in the arms to the bed to go up again after be asleep on the floor, because give oneself with child conflict to create pressure,also not be willing, he prefers to avoid the anguish on pressure and affection in the life, the conflict before and think avoiding go to bed is an idea that keeps easy and comfortable.
But Mr Gu Saibai is different, his life manner orientaton is control, it is very important that he believes children have a program to arrange, and also be willing to assume the responsibility that has oneself for this. Attend when him the child when can make the child step-by-step, ensure they put on bedgown careful clean down tooth, and want be in 7:30 punctual go to bed, he believes to hold his, hold a situation, other perhaps talented person can avoid humiliate and criticism.
Gu Saibai's couple differs mediumly in a few case practice, meet them create potential challenge, their different kind caused a worry to children, and be made via often can encouraging children explore behavior and bad behavior. With easy and comfortable be life manner orientaton, parents always avoids anguish and pressure. The process escapes in this kind in, these parents cannot let child understanding arrive to still have limitation and method.
Their child may think he is OK follow one's inclinations, and do not need abide by the regulation of any social sense of responsibility. Believe in order to control the parents for life manner orientaton, they can be controlled through maintaining, it is the control of face of play a game of chess occasionally, it is the control to oneself occasionally, it is the control to others occasionally, will avoid criticism and humiliate.
They may too severe, also won't spend time and child to draft regulation together. Some children can feel to get obstruct, and decide revolt, another some of child is likely concede, and the decision wants get the love of others in order to please. What is life manner orientaton? How does he come? It and foster means what to concern there is? And what have to the child be and what have to the child affected?
Before answering these questions, we look to Home Sangqiesi first, and understand additionally two kinds of main life manner orientaton. Home Sangqiesi also arrived bedtiime, mrs Sangqiesi believes the child should on time go to bed, and try pass preach to children, should do right thing, will let children believe this.
He often preachs to his because of children undeserved return a responsibility and distress, children listen to him to say rarely, it is a kind of affront really, the life manner orientaton of Mrs Sangqiesi is to strive outstanding, consentient it is the issue that he considers to avoid in the life, and he believes work correctly, it is a kind of means that makes the life more significant. Mr Sangqiesi is very different, he wants to make the child happy only, when and be in retiring for the night relaxed, his life manner orientaton is please, and to make a thing relaxed and happy, he can call children the bed. He plays game with children, let children put on bedgown in game and brush his teeth. He reads a story to children, to them one cup receives a cup of ground to take water to drink, give them perpetual the last hug.
He feels he can be full of fun through letting bedtiime, and do it to think can the love that the issue of please children will come win the child, and avoid children defy. Sangqiesifu also has very big difference between Fu, in order to strive outstanding the parents that are life manner orientaton did not realize, they to avoid insignificant and footy, and always ask correct, the child that can let them feels to be not worth from personal ability, how can they accord with tall expectation of parents?
These children may become very dejected, and can abandon, or the feeling that they themselves have parents' termless love possibly also with abandoning, for huge cost decision wants outstanding! Take the parents that move to hope to avoid to refuse, but this may make the child holds a dominant position, think to take care of me to satisfy me when others only all desires when, I just somewhat attributive!
This is the example of a few extremes, but a few trend that major parents can see him from which, the everybody in the family has different disposition concept and his logic, wanting the act that gets member of clear and all family and its interact is a how big challenge! Knowledge and sober cognitive meeting are helped somewhat. How do the choice that we discuss adult mainly and behaviour affect the child.
To parents and teachers, very important is the life manner orientaton that wants him understanding, foster style and the influence that teach style of study style to oneself, reach its to choose the influence of life manner orientaton to the child, orientaton of manner of life of avery kind of is affected to what interact between we and child have advantages and disadvantages each, had opposite active state to spend the understanding of orientaton, we can learn to foster strengths and circumvent weaknesses to our orientaton. Today's share arrive here, next we play content period program good-bye.
